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this twitter thread (and this one that follows on from it) from a couple years ago explains it pretty well.

The particular way a lot of violence is perpetrated against trans people (esp. trans women) is rooted in not seeing that person as their actual gender. Casting cis people to play trans roles reinforces that idea, and therefore also contributes pretty directly to that violence.

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I like this, but I don't think it's entirely without flaws, in two main ways. The first is in quite a few questions, for example question 4:

a woman asks your opinion, do you assume she must not know anything about the subject?

My first instinct is to answer, "Of course not!", but then I have to take a second and say to myself, "I was raised in a society that does this, and therefore that teaches people to do this, so I probably do this, too, at least sometimes." I feel like it's probably 'worse' for me to be unaware of doing it, rather than aware, but still doing it, because that would mean I wouldn't even know what/when I have to change the way I think/behave. I think this happens (for me) with a whole bunch of the questions, where all I can really do is answer, "not that I'm aware of doing" or "as far as I'm aware, yes", depending on the question.

I think because of that issue with self-reported answers, this questionnaire might be more effective, or more accurate, if it's something other people fill out for the subject, through observations. Of course doing that would probably mean asking (or making) women to do the work of all this self-analysis (or other-analysis, I guess :P ) on behalf of men, which is part of the problem :P

My other issue is maybe a smaller one, but as a MAAB person, I definitely know that I have learned and partake in a lot of patriarchal behaviours, and this questionnaire could be helpful for me in identifying specific, actionable areas and behaviours I could work on. But as someone who's not a guy, I still find it very uncomfortable/dysphoric to be considering, let alone answering (even just in my head) questions that start with things like, "As a man..." or "If you are a father...". That's not a huge issue (Those are the only two examples I can see, though I started only skimming through the questions after the "If you are a father" one), but it's still enough to put me off from finishing the questionnaire (at least, tonight). I understand wording the questions like that, because men are the people who benefit from patriarchy, and these behaviours are overwhelmingly exhibited by men, and men are the target audience of the questionnaire, etc. but yeah.

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Please don't bind with bandages, like shown in this image. Also, keep in mind if you have a large chest, that 'nipples forward' might not be as flat as 'nipples down'. If you do really want to bind 'nipples down' for the extra flatness, separating your chest a bit can help with that, too.

Reply to comment by /u/ziq in Leftist Smurf by /u/ziq

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If they're not doing what they're intended for, (and more than that, doing something they're not intended to do), maybe you should workshop them a bit more before sharing them.

Ofc, maybe you didn't know how ineffective they'd be for their intended purpose until sudo pointed it out, but now they have, you can work on making the memes more effective

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I think maybe a better definition would be "work you choose to do which you don't get paid for", because I don't think most people would consider housework 'volunteering', for example. I guess technically one does choose whether or not they do their housework, but I can't think of a better way of wording it that how I did.

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I'm not really much of a birder, but I have friends who are. Anyway, I got glasses a few days ago, and oh boy are birds easy to tell apart now! I saw what I think was 3 eastern rosellas last time I went out looking for birds, and I'm pretty keen to go back around that spot to try and confirm what they were

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Intersectionality is the idea that where identities/axes of oppression intersect are unique experiences/forms of oppression.

For example, most people of colour in a society will have many shared experiences. Most women will also have many shared experiences. Most women of colour will have many shared experiences that are either uncommon or not at all present for just "people of colour" or "women".

It's also the idea that there's not a single 'scale' of oppression. That is to say, a bi man's experiences aren't comparable (or aren't worth comparing) to an Indigenous man's experiences. A queer, Deaf, poor woman shouldn't be said to be 'worse off' than a trans woman. Her queerness, Deafness and class don't each add +10 Oppression, because all those identities experience different kinds of oppression.

Something like this score is really, really, really awful and misses the point not only because it fails to specify in what society/culture it's talking about (different groups will have different experiences in different places!), nor only because it's wrong and offensive in many ways (although it really really is), but also because it places everyone on a single scale. Goodness, that image is so awful, but it's a good example of what not to do.

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Th'all is very cool. I like that a lot. But as an Australian who says "yous" much more than "y'all", I'm not sure if there's a kind of equivalent I could use to keep things consistent, like "theys" (but maybe not that, because it sound to me like it should mean "they are", like "they's on their way"). Obviously there's no reason I have to be consistent, but it'd be interesting to know if there was an option.

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Whatever happened seems like it's a bit of a touchy topic, so I don't know how to ask this safely, but is there anywhere I (and other people out of the loop) can get a rundown of what happened? I don't want to put pressure on Tequila_Wolf or anyone else who's feeling drained or doesn't have the energy to explain, but if anyone else feels comfortable explaining (or if there's an existing explanation somewhere that someone could link me to), I'd greatly appreciate it.