theheart

theheart wrote (edited )

nobody has been able tell me how a cis man who exclusively pursues relationships with women, confesses exclusive romantic interest in women, but identifies as asexual is materially oppressed on the back of this alone, without essentialising "sexual attraction", assuming systemic rape/compulsory heterosexuality primarily or even exclusively harm asexual people, or erasing gay people's experiences of their own marginalisation. and nobody can give me a good reason why "heteromantic asexual" people can, uh, reclaim "queer".

Ultimately, I agree with this. I think that cishet ace people clearly are marginalized in a few ways, but they aren't oppressed like queer people are and have historically been; there were no cishet aces wearing the pink triangle, nor fighting at Stonewall. I think that there should be solidarity with ace people, and that queer people and aces are allies that align closely and should thus fight together (maybe consider MOGAI be overarching with 'queer'/LGBT being a group within such?), but I'm uncomfortable with the prospect of a cishet person being 'queer'.

(By 'ace people' in that sentence I mean people who are ace without other queer identities, e.g. a cis heteroromantic man. Obviously ace trans or gay or others count as queer.)

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theheart wrote

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Wheatpaste tends to hold when it dries, but I think that in a boot that the movement and bending would keep it from setting enough to be water-safe.

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theheart wrote

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Solar for the house is best; but having a solar charger is pretty useful, especially for emergency situations.

I'd say you should get it for that alone.

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