jahnu

jahnu wrote

Much love to you. Be strong. If you don't feel safe coming out yet, hold on. And, as soon as you are old enough, consider leaving. Life is too short to put up with abuse.

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jahnu wrote

Reply to comment by !deleted1665 in by !deleted1665

True. I was over exaggerating so that it was clear. One rarely need go that far. I have also learned that "In my humble opinion" is too clearly read as "Listen, you imbecile".

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jahnu wrote (edited )

Reply to by !deleted1665

Simple. If I speak politely to you within the constraints of a given cultural situation, you are more likely to actually hear me. For instance, what is better, "Sir, I disagree with you. Perhaps I may explain myself?" or "Look, you idiot, you don't know what you are talking about"? Which voice will stand the best chance of being heard?

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jahnu wrote

I agree fully. I am in my 50's, and too often in life I have found myself isolated from different groups because of labels. I mostly like men, but sometimes I like women, and sometimes whatever. It;s about connecting with people, not being part of a system.

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jahnu wrote

I would say just dress a touch more conservatively than you might ordinarily, just a bit subdued (I guess a bit less "bombshell"?). A friend of mine used to do this in Miami. Be a touch aloof, don't approach, let them. Sit at the bar, order a drink, and relax. Safety tip-No strong drinks, wine at most. Look very business like. These were all her tricks, and she did well enough to eventually start her own jewelry business with the proceeds.

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jahnu wrote

Reply to comment by !deleted7213 in by !deleted7213

It is possible to care and try to be an ally while still being an ass. We all do it. I sometimes feel the same when I, white queer male, have had straight allies of colour tell me "I feel your pain" and proceed to ignore my actual needs and perceptions. I'd still rather they try, because even flawed allies are better than none.

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jahnu wrote

French press for coffee. Instant pot. I cook a lot of dried beans. Also alot of curries and such, and in warm weather it is nice not to heat up the kitchen. Instant Ace blender. Hummus, purees, different milk substitutes. Also has a heating element so I can make excellent soups, both chunky and creamed. Just put in ingredients, press the right combination of buttons, and walk away. It did take getting used to, though. It turns itself off and on as needed. Weird hearing your blender start and stop on it's own.

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jahnu wrote

Reply to by !deleted7213

So what now? White people should just stand to one side and do nothing?

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jahnu wrote

Reply to Bi or Pan? by nbdy

Basic fact. Bisexual implies there are only two choices. Pansexual acknowledges a wider variety of identities. I personally know people who identify as bi who aren't attracted to transgender or gender fluid people. I just use queer for myself, because it's simpler. I am attracted to the individual person, not so much concerned about a category.

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jahnu wrote

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You might look into putting it on a prepaid card. They don't regulate them as much.

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