glitter_v0id

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glitter_v0id wrote

but that doesn't excuse doing the opposite and judging immediately based on, again, something out of their control.

You have got to be kidding me that you think casually making fun of the straight pride flag is even remotely equatable to the shit queer people put up with on a daily basis.

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glitter_v0id wrote

hot take i am (paranoid, probably) afraid we are already in the unseen variety and it might be too late. the only thing we have going for us is that he is so incredibly incompetent at keeping his mouth shut that he ends up saying everything he's going to do... we just have to bother to listen.

Less memery - still the unseen. The obvious dictatorship is something the average person will get fed up with and fight back once it affects their lives. The unseen regime will creep in. Something to be said for the flawed frog in boiling water experiment. you get used to surveillance, you get used to misinformation corrupting into mainstream outlets, you get used to suddenly whoops you have to watch everything you say for being against the ruling power.

everyone old enough to be involved on this site remembers a time we weren't basically always being watched in one way or another. It really only takes a generation to forget if we can't successfully change it.

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glitter_v0id wrote

I've been told by women IRL that calling myself a feminist is inherently using the label to gain some sort of power, with the argument of how it doesn't directly affect me (false, fwiw) calling myself anything other than an ally is appropriating a label, using it to make yourself look better ("social currency") when it's intended to empower women.

I don't ..quite agree with this and it has some radfem undertones along with blatant trans and nonbinary erasure but it's a really well crafted argument to shut down the concept of men and masc presenting people from being feminist.

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glitter_v0id wrote

holy shit. i love that binder. i have a difficult time with getting binders over my shoulder this is incredible.

this post doesn't do a great job explaining it but I was going through the comments which make mention of

  1. Sizes are custom. this is not a kickstart where "plus size" goes to 2x
  2. Colors are custom. If the 80s/90s revival prints are sensory hell, you have options

https://rebirthgarments.tumblr.com/ (may be NSFW depending on your workplace)
https://radicalvisibility.wordpress.com/shop-rebirth-garments/ (Color swatches, SFW. Artist works mostly with spandex)
https://www.etsy.com/shop/rebirthgarments (also may be nsfw, may be flagged as 'lingerie', top images for me involve uncensored nipples)

^ posting these links because they're not clearly linked in the post, only the kickstarter is.

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glitter_v0id wrote

oki, so i'm less blind angry, but also don't have power rn (yay, climate change!) so while this isn't intentionally a hit and run, it may end up being one when the library kicks me out because writing a book off my phone usually ends with something being incoherent.

Having calmed down, if he had bothered to respond to this thread I would probably redact my initial commentary. He hasn't. I really hope there's a reason and my being pissed didn't just drive him off the site (aside - yes, i need to work on my anger. yes, i am working on my anger. i'm sorry i hurt you.)

For mod criteria, honestly I think holding beliefs that are a direct conflict of interest to the forum you're moderating is the kind of general standard. Again, for moderation. On less day to day "easy to set on fire" examples it would be ridiculous for someone who's general stance on our future is "fully automated space gay communism" (or less meme-y versions thereof) to moderate a primitivism forum. Getting more into firey territory I wouldn't step up to mod a vegan forum because every attempt I've made into veganism has turned into an eating disorder. not so much a belief but an action that's inherently contradictory to safe and fair moderation of a forum. a trans person who thinks nonbinary people either shouldn't transition, or that they can only call themselves trans if they want a fully binary transition shouldn't moderate a trans forum. a biphobic gay person has no place moderating a queer forum. someone who doesn't believe in colorism shouldn't moderate a poc forum (or a white person, but i think that's a given in this context)

supporting giving terfs a platform is honestly an extreme example of that idea given their tendency to very actively support in harming trans femmes.

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glitter_v0id wrote (edited )

I posted here because I /want/ hal to respond.

I also never claimed that. the user has been reported, clearly repeatedly, for the same issue, and shows absolutely no sign of changing as of 2 days ago and should have been banned on TOS violations awhile ago without it needing a community vote to remove bigots.

I'll reiterate I understand why that did not happen and can be sympathetic to that to a degree but enough is enough and terf sympathies in an explicitly trans space is unsafe for eveyone.

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glitter_v0id wrote

so, i am at my core an angry person and recently got into a fight with my roomate about republicans. i'm gonna set some cards on the table in the interest of transparency and hopefully not becoming a flamewar / pure callout with someone who is a member of the same communities, and may go to bed soon (its after midnight here)

  1. I'm going into this in good faith that you're not some kind of terf mole posing as a trans person.
  2. i have made the assumption you're a binary trans man.
  3. i'm afab, nonbinary but generally seen as masc at a glance if i'm not in a dress. from my interactions within the trans community both being seen as binary and recognized as not the understanding I've gotten is that is not a reason to avoid shutting down radfems and terfs but instead a reason to continue doing so because they might bother listening to someone they view as a man. (this might be a little justify-y I am honestly unsure?)
  4. I'm not sure if I should have made the comparison I did in my original response. I definitely made it out of anger rather than thought, and if someone is telling me that is unfair or bigoted/racist in some way i will strike it here.
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glitter_v0id wrote (edited )

...you don't agree that giving a terf a platform is supporting a terf?

are you fucking seriously doubling down?

edit: this isn't the best place for what could easily devolve into a flamewar I'm going to make a post on /f/mediation.