bloodrose

bloodrose OP wrote

Something to consider. Americans bought and sold slaves, considered human beings property. Those slaves and their descendants were given rights before women. They had rights to own property before women did. They had rights to vote before women did. This makes is pretty clear how women are thought of in this culture. We are seen as ones to hurt and ones to labor and burden for men. What is insidious is that we no longer say it overtly so it can be very difficult to tell who is enforcing the paradigm. When your female friends turn on you and enforce the patriarchy it leaves you feeling isolated and trapped.

But in truth, I think the scariest is the violence. I was very lucky that the abusive man kept it in context of sex and I was able to leave without repercussions. I literally fear every man and I don't think I'm wrong to. Men are dangerous until they prove otherwise...and even then...

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bloodrose OP wrote

I'm gonna overshare here. I may delete later.

I was in an abusive relationship. However, it didn't start out that way. It started with a tiny bit of kink play. The kink play became more and more violent. It became "let's do 24/7 as a 'kink' thing". It overwhelmed, exhausted, hurt and traumatized me. And it started so vanilla, so easy. Just a bit of light spanking. It ended in caining that caused welts and long-lasting trauma.

There's this space you get into in your head that tops like to call "sub-space." What is really happening is your body is flooding you with painkillers and dopamine to try to help you endure the abuse. In that state, you are supremely suggestible, brainwashable. You are vulnerable. It is so easy for an abusive person to take advantage of it. I literally trust no one with this power any more. I will not bottom. Ever again. I trust no one who enjoys being a top. If someone I loved wanted me to top them, I would do it as a service but not because I enjoy it.

I don't know what to say about your girlfriend but I share my story with you to aid in your continuing thoughts on the matter of bdsm.

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bloodrose OP wrote

The sarcasm is in response to fat-phobic bullshit you spouted after I was foolish enough to say something open and real. If you tell me you are ignorant as to what you said was fat-phobic, I can educate you. Or you can deal with the sarcasm from a fat person who has had enough fat phobic bullshit in her life and doesn't want to deal with it from a random stranger on the internet. I love raddle because I don't usually encounter fat-phobic bullshit and you kinda ruined my comfortable space so I'm pretty pissed off about it.

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Reply to comment by bloodrose in Free Talk Friday by alex

bloodrose wrote

Stage or original Disney video? I give credit to the Disney movie for radicalizing young me. Singing "The World Will Know" and chanting "Strike strike strike" around the house at 13, lol.

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Reply to comment by bloodrose in Bi or Pan? by nbdy

bloodrose wrote (edited )

It's not like I tried to convince them to like me. I wound up realizing they asked me out when they should not have and had the burden of dumping them. Now I make sure whoever I date is into boobs early on because really, that's the only type that's attracted to me, lol.

I mentioned it because, frankly, I now know I wouldn't want someone who wasn't into me and I get your point.

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Reply to comment by bloodrose in rent? is?? theft??? by alex

bloodrose wrote

The state is the one threatening you, not the landlord

On behalf of the landlord and all landlords. The state enforces property rights. Every piece of fucking land is owned by someone, including the woods. If I were to sleep on the landlord's front lawn without paying him, the state would arrest me on behalf of that specific landlord. All property laws benefit all landlords, even if it isn't about their specific property. Ergo, the landlord is complicit in the threat, and thus the theft.

You still consented

No, I didn't. It was under duress.

the landlord did nothing wrong

Yeah, they did. They owned private property and used it to seek out rent under a system in which homelessness is punished.

(in fact, he may not even be aware of your situation at all)

You are literally the only person I have ever encountered who did not realize it was illegal to sleep wherever the fuck you wanted so I assume all landlords know this.

I don't know where you live, but there are ways to avoid the state punishment/regulations

California. Do tell me how to avoid paying rent and still be able to keep my child.

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Reply to comment by bloodrose in rent? is?? theft??? by alex

bloodrose wrote

It is illegal for me to set up camp in the state park near me. My daughter would be stolen from me by the state if I attempted to do so. Therefore, I must rent from a landlord. I cannot avoid renting from a landlord, else the state will imprison me and steal my child. That is the threat all landlords have made through the state, thus erasing any consent in the transaction by me. I have been threatened and have no choice but to "agree".

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Reply to comment by bloodrose in Bi or Pan? by nbdy

bloodrose wrote

The reasoning I was given was that they felt that people were using pan to mean: male, female, and trans. They may have not been particularly thoughtful about NBs, honestly.

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Reply to comment by bloodrose in Bi or Pan? by nbdy

bloodrose wrote

As a cis-woman, I do not speak from the trans folk at all. I only mentioned what I had been told by a few trans women to illustrate why I am not sure about using the term pan as a straight replacement for bi.

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