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bloodrose wrote (edited )

I'd be happy to help moderate but as you said, I wouldn't be able to deal with the down-voting. Though deleting the "I sawed this forum in half" messages would be nice. :)

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bloodrose wrote

It varies but its possible for closer to a week

No, the egg is only available for fertilization for about 12 hours. The reason it can be up to a week is that is how long sperm can live in the body. (I know this from how much work it took me to get pregnant) Literally, sperm's fault. :)

Yes, they can. Its called precum, and it's one of the reasons the pull-out method isn't an effective method of birth control.

Agreed. This part freaked me out. 0_o

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bloodrose wrote

Yesterday, I got bitterly angry at some liberal friends who were posting snarky comments about the hurricane and the fires in the US, who seemed to want to give themselves credit for just believing in climate change. I had to force myself not to shitpost "Where's your fucking praxis? You don't get a cookie for believing in objectively true things. Fucking do something."

Tonight, I saw two giant, beautiful trash pandas climbing a tree together outside my apartment complex. I backed out of their way and thought how lovely they were. It didn't make me feel better but it was a nice sight to see. Also, saw some acorns under an oak tree on my evening walk which are probably from squirrels trying to eat them before they're mature. It made me happy to think soon I will be able to forage some acorns.

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bloodrose wrote

I think most people operate on pain avoidance. The system is so huge, so all-pervasive, no one imagines a different system but instead imagines a little less harm to themselves personally. This is how in the US you wind up with single issue voters. Women who fear losing what few reproductive rights they have. People who feel not owning an assault rifle will diminish their lives. People wind up participating in the system in a hope that they can mitigate some of the damage the system is doing to them.

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bloodrose wrote

When I do yell, I apologize to her, and I try to explain why I yelled.

This. This is the most important part. No one is perfect. You will lose your cool sometimes.

The day before yesterday, I raised my voice. It wasn't at my child, but it was in response to an action of hers, and was a general ranting. I came home that night and sat her down and talked to her about it. I explained that I get upset when she asks for things after we've said goodbye and I have opened the door to leave. I want her to ask her stay at home father for things after I've said goodbye. I said that it is not her fault and I shouldn't have been cranky with her. And she got it. She said "Next time, mommy, I'll ask for what I want before we say goodbye." Which wasn't what I wanted. I wanted her to understand I was out of line. But she also understood why. She didn't feel rebuked and she didn't cry, but she offered to help and came up with a solution.

I guess what I'm saying is if you lose your cool, have respect for your children and apologize. If you'd do it for an adult, no reason not to do it for your child. And they might just wind up emotionally smarter than you. :)

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bloodrose wrote

The last apartment complex I lived in became a place that rich tech bros started renting (and thus I was priced out after they kicked us out to "remodel" and then jacked the rent by 2x). While I was living there, there was a fellow who I ran into diving our dumpsters 1-2x/week. He said he lived in a house a few blocks away that was well-trafficked and he just had a weekly yard sale based on the stuff he dumpster-dove from those rich fuckers. He told me about getting practically new speakers out of our dumpster and turning it around for a couple hundred through craigslist (and not his garage sale). It seemed like better work than what I do for a living. hah

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bloodrose wrote

My mother and my stepfather were both conservatives while I was growing up. My mother has since left my stepfather and is now what I would call a progressive. Human growth, it's a good thing. Also, I seem to be a good influence on her. I had a leftist blog a while back and she always read it and started to spew back facts at me that I had posted so I know she took it in.