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Reply to comment by /u/qimerra in Friday Free Talk by /u/ThreadBot

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bloodrose wrote

I think a lot of people here are in that boat. I am lucky in that my husband shares my politics. In fact, we've slowly been changing our politics at the same time in the same direction. So back when I thought communism was the answer, I had a comrade. Now that I'm leaning into an-prim, I've got an ally in the that, too. I wish I could gift you with the same. It is nice that I have a safe refuge to talk about such things.

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bloodrose wrote

Out of curiosity, how do you access said seed vault? Do you have any thoughts on permaculture or are you planning on farming?

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bloodrose wrote

They arrest you and put you in jail. And our jails are labor camps. So you become a slave. You don't even get to be imprisoned for free here.

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bloodrose wrote

In America, you can't exist anywhere you don't pay rent. Even "public" lands require a fee to stay. Sleeping on the streets is illegal. Sleeping in the forests without paying is illegal. Sleeping in a car is illegal. It is not legal to not pay to live in America.

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bloodrose wrote

The Grand Canyon may not be the best place for this. We'll need a place with food and it's a bit light on vegetation...but I am into this idea.

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bloodrose wrote

I could believe that. I think I'm just feeling down on it from my own negative experiences with my own therapy and the outcomes of those around me who have gotten therapy. Not saying there isn't a need for mental care or belittling those who need it just that I am unhappy with the type I've seen and had experience with.

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bloodrose wrote

Air quality sucks here, too. I was just thinking I need some outdoors time this weekend because I have been indoors too much lately. And now I can still taste smoke in the office building I'm working in. Hopefully some of it clears by Sunday so I can be outside again. I need outside and dirt and trees and sun.

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bloodrose wrote

I asked him to in the future call someone if he feels suicidal again and he said "I'll try." I got older sister stern even though I'm only a year older and said "You can stew all the fuck you want but the second you want to do something with that feeling, you pick up the phone and you call." I don't know why my family is so fucking closed off and wasp-y. I tried to ask him to live with us but my family all wants to be alone in their misery all the time. I don't know how I came out of that family the way I am.

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bloodrose wrote

He was talking some serious bourgeoisie shit about his situation that I realized had to have come from his therapist. It seems to me mental health professionals are there to make sure we keep being able to sell our labor - anything stopping you from that is the problem. My brother got depressed when his work stress overwhelmed him, I think. I think he only had so much emotional bandwidth. But a therapist is never gonna say "stop working for the man, experience life as a human, not a worker." So the solution becomes living alone and not being there for your kids. And I get that some people aren't built for living with others or raising children. And I get that it's his own choice. But I don't think that is what was wrong.

I had a period of not being able to handle it all; and I started to blame my partner for not doing enough. Finally, I realized we were in an unnatural construct. And instead of leaving my partner and daughter, I am working on an escape plan. It's taking too long and that makes me sad but I remember all the time that it is the job that is the problem, not the family. And that makes it sound like I'm projecting on him, I know; but we both do the same type of work in the same area and were raised by the same people so I think the situations are similar.

Anyways, it's just made me hate therapists all the more. As long as we have to sell our labor, I guess there is a need for them.

My mom texted and it turns out he told me because I was talking about holiday plans and she told him that he had to tell me. So, I don't know that he did reach out. But he did stay on the phone for 45 minutes. That's probably longer than I've talked to him in the last decade combined. I'll text him funny shit next week as he is telling his kids this weekend and he'll only see them three days next week. I tried to suggest he live with us but he just wanted to be alone - i guess so he can be a better worker.

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bloodrose wrote

My brother called to tell me he was divorcing his wife. He talked about how depressed he had been for so long. And he told me he didn't even realize he was depressed because he's so introverted, he can't even understand his own feelings. I am so entirely the opposite of him: extrovert with high empathy. I knew he was depressed for years. I just assumed he was dealing with it. I told him I could tell he was depressed and apologized for being a bad sister and not telling him. I mean, we just don't talk. I told him I'd make an effort to check on him more often now. I had no idea he didn't know he was broken. Of course, would he have listened back then? I don't know. But I feel guilty still.

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bloodrose wrote

I think in the US, Trump is a very catalyzing figure who brings out a lot of emotions in people. Even some of the most ardent anarchists I know get a bit defensive when you bring up futility of the system and voting because they want to believe that somehow they can get rid of the great orange beast. I would say until that person is no longer our president, radicalizing folks might need to happen via another route, such as environmentalism or straight up anti-capitalism.

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bloodrose wrote

Not me, specifically, but family members. In California when Prop 8 was passed banning gay marriage it kept them from getting married. I remember one of them crying that California voted to give chickens more rights than gays (chickens got open coops from another proposition that year).

I vote in California because of propositions. I vote for actual laws that can actually affect me. I usually leave the candidates blank because I don't need to vote for the boot stepping on me.

It looks like friends of friends who are EMT's are going to be screwed by a law that is passing by ballot measure right now. (The proposition allows ambulance companies to not give its employees breaks) So, not me, personally, but people I know.

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bloodrose wrote

I'll ask someone a yes or no question, and they'll answer it with "please."

I think the only types of questions that should be answered with "please" are offers like "would you like another piece of toast?" Any others it is hard to understand what "please" would even mean.

Furthermore, "please" is supposed to mean that you're asking for something nicely, but usually the body language or tone of voice people use when responding with only "please" is less than polite.

As someone who sometimes says "please" in place of "yes, please", I can tell you I only do so when I am using the space "yes" would've taken up with tone changes. I literally only use it when I'm being nicer. I don't understand doing so curtly.

Is it only the curtness that bothers you? Would politeness make said response less annoying?