bloodrose

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bloodrose wrote

Been on vacation this week. Boss texted about stuff that I didn't know were my tasks and really stressed me out. I realize she keeps giving me too much work and I am overwhelmed and miss stuff. I also realize I can't get her to stop giving me too much work. So I have to learn to be comfortable with failing and being bad at my job. Which means I have to learn to let people chastise and yell at me without internalizing it. This is not a skill of mine. Anyone know how to foster this skill?

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bloodrose wrote

Like it's a cool thing you heard older kids do and you wanted to be popular or whatever would be more believable about you.

If you're going to lie, don't even give this much. Just lie full force and stick to your guns. It's one person's word against another. Lie through your teeth. Lie so hard. Lie until you absolutely believe it. "I never said that. No, I don't know why they would say I said that. I never said that." In a good lie, less is more. Don't give an inch.

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bloodrose wrote

I miss a very weird food: ham and cheese sandwich on white bread with mayo and mustard. It was smooshy and fatty and even tasted better after it sat in a backpack warming up before lunchtime. I know of no vegan, gluten-free, soy-free item that has all of the joy I associate with that disgusting sort of sandwich.

Week has sucked. I haven't posted much or been around much because my boss is having a panic over the fact that I'm taking vacation next week and pushing as hard as she can before vacation so that by the time I hit vacation I'll have adrenal fatigue and be sick. This Sunday I'm taking my daughter to a local amusement park for her birthday and then vacation begins.

My kid makes me really happy. She just turned five and I think she is the fucking bomb. I am so lucky to have her in my life right now.

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bloodrose wrote

<3

The whole #vanlife crap on insta is just a bunch of rich kids who actually have homes to live in. I have some rich family members and their instas are full of fun little van and camper projects while I know full well they have a nice big ass house to live in. They have so much free time, they can sit and turn horse trailers into campers.

I would love to see a leash-trained kitty. We could not get ours into their harnesses without lots of complaints. They are happy to be indoor kitties for sure.

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bloodrose wrote

We used to say a toyota would last forever as long as you kept putting oil into it. I don't know if that is true for the newer models but the toyota van we had in the 80s was still running well into the aughts.

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bloodrose wrote

I live not far from Gilroy, where there was a mass shooting last weekend. This weekend, there was a huge arts festival in my town that had much lower attendance because, well, the week before the garlic festival had a mass shooting. I went into public but not to a festival. There were two outdoor festivals I was interested in this weekend near my town that I just didn't go to - because what if someone in San Jose saw the Gilroy dude and went, "now's my time"? I just didn't want to be in the crowd for one of those.

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bloodrose wrote

Also, had a falling out with my "best friend". She suggested I financially abuse my stay at home husband when I complained that I have to clean up after him and my kid as well as be the sole breadwinner. She called him abusive for not cleaning up after himself (I consider him to be a bad roommate, but a nice husband and father) but then straight up suggested financial abuse. She then said his behavior is my fault for not doing such horrible things to control his behavior. And then when I stood up to her and told her her feminism sucked and I refuse to be responsible for someone else's behavior, she made some slightly threatening comments about CPS. So yeah, how do people deal with not being able to trust other people? How do I deal with not having IRL friends?

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