bloodrose

bloodrose wrote

Reply to Red logic by ziq

OKay, this one I feel in my soul. Like, I think this is why they always ask you "who would do the jobs?!!!!" and you say "someone will" and that is just nooooot okay. They like lose their shit if you just say "we'll figure it out, it'll be fine."

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bloodrose wrote

The phrasing brings two images to mind:

  1. The child has wandered into the road and the parent grabs them by the arm and yanks them off the road as a car comes careening at them.
  2. The woman is crossing the road in a crosswalk well aware of the cars around them. A man removes them from the road because they are a woman.

These two images are not equal. In one image there is immanent danger. In the other, there is none. This is a false equivalency.

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bloodrose wrote

Also, which makes #metoo all the more insidious is this: women believed they were being heard and would be allowed to speak up. I'm sure some actually did speak up. But they spoke up against people that had power and no one wanted to remove. No one wanted to weaponize them speaking up and so they likely suffered for it. Like poor Tara Reade, like Dr. Christine Blasey Ford. We tell this fantasy/lie that women are empowered/believed and it hurts women who believe it when we don't follow through with our supposed values. :(

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bloodrose wrote

This kind of bullshit right-wing fucking fantasy is causing people who identify with right-wing politics to hold up people at gunpoint who are trying to flee fires. This shit will cost lives. You should be ashamed of yourself. No, there is no antifa organization looking to take over small town fucking midwest. Stop it. You're endagering real people. Grow up.

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bloodrose wrote

I couldn't agree more. I have family and friends who when you bring this up say things like "don't give the right ammunition against him." Like, screw you all - what he did was shit. If you look at the time in which it happened, there was a lot of talk in the media about how sexual harassment at work was wrong. You can't say "it was a product of the time" on this one. He fired her after he assaulted her. Textbook case. Makes the way he treated Anita Hill make a lot of fucking sense.

Also, re: #metoo. It has been noted that the only people who were brought down by the "movement" were men who were already out of or were losing power in their respective fields. Which makes me sad. :(

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bloodrose OP wrote

To be fair, I don't do a single all-over color and neither did AOC. She did lowlights. I did foils. These are time consuming processes that require a lot of manual labor. I would be in the salon for 3 hours. Another reason I hated it. It works out to about $100/hour for a good color. I could pay for a cheap all-over color for about $50 which I've done before and been told how terrible I looked the second I got to the office soo...yeah...$100/hour.

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bloodrose OP wrote

I mean, I think her point is that it is sexist that women in politics are constantly scrutinized for their appearance and then subsequently shamed for spending money on the same appearance that is being scrutinized. And in this case, a man spent way more than her and no one gives a shit. And the double standard sucks.

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bloodrose OP wrote

I stopped dying my hair partly because it cost me more than $300 per time. I would stretch it to once every six months but near the end of that six months, I was not looking sharp and refined like my boss wanted. I finally decided I don't care if gray hairs are "unprofessional", it's not an expense I'm willing to pay to have poison put on my head to look correct for my job. But yeah, $250 is a good price for a cut and dye.

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