bloodrose

bloodrose wrote

Every other discussion we have on any of these topics has him insist that 'the solution' is innovative technology

As I understand, at this point we're so far past tipping point that only a carbon capture solution will save us, which means a tech solution. However....that requires so much money, I don't see anyone doing it. Those fuckers who are into money just won't let go of their money to do it.

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bloodrose wrote

Reply to comment by annikastheory in friday free talk by emma

Any way there is something you could do outside with her

Yeah, the problem is the time I want her outside playing is a time I am busy working. Once I'm done working, I start cooking and I'm cool with her coming to hang out or help during that but it's not an outdoor activity. I just have to remind her outdoors exists. One of the things we need to do is clean up the back yard for her grandparents to come visit. Maybe the act of cleaning will remind her it exists.

My nephew watches a lot of roblox youtubers as well. Can't say I get the appeal of the game but maybe that's just the nature of being older than him or something.

My kid is 7 and from ages, like 4-6 we played roblox together. It's kinda cute and pretty easy to play. I should ask her to play with me again. We had fun.

I would probably worry a little less if she were older but I don't know how healthy screens are for toddlers.

I hear that. We avoided screens for a while because of that, but it actually hurt our kid's language development to do so. Because my husband is not super talkative and he was home with her all the time, she wasn't really hearing words. She finally started talking after we put on Baby First TV. But that's just how our weird household worked out.

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bloodrose wrote

Reply to comment by lettuceLeafer in friday free talk by emma

I hated college, too, but I just dropped classes when teachers were dicks. It took me three tries to pass english because of the douchey english teachers.

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bloodrose wrote (edited )

Reply to comment by Ashy in friday free talk by emma

My husband, my kid, and I all have a shared experience: we have all peed our pants in class because a teacher didn't let us pee. This is teachers of young students who have decided to physically harm children by not letting them go to the bathroom. This is so common that everyone in my family has had it happen to them. It happened to me because I didn't color neat enough and wasn't allowed a recess break because I had to re-color. For fucking coloring, I get to remember being embarrassed that I peed myself. When it happened to my daughter, I told her about it happening to me and said she's in good company but if she ever felt she needed to pee, she should insist she be allowed to. And if the teacher gets mad, I'll get mad right back. I shouldn't have to teach my daughter to fight to be allowed a basic, human physical need. But this keeps happening because teachers of young kids are bullies and jerks.

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bloodrose wrote (edited )

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Also, fuck schools and fuck bad teachers. My kid's teacher sent an email to everyone:

Today we took our Chapter 3 Math test and sadly one half of the students in class did not pass the test. Many students did not do well because they are not doing their homework which gives them a chance to practice the skills we are learning in class at home. Please ask to see your child's Backpack Folder every night so you are aware of the assignments that need to be completed. Do not ask them if they did their homework, because many will tell you that they have, when in fact they have not. It is my job to help them at school and I need your help at home for that additional support.

My kid has been doing the homework every day right after school. Even the "optional" Friday homework. She is actually really good at grasping math concepts and the teacher had recommended her for an advanced math program. My child failed the stupid math test, too. She feels like shit about it but I'm so mad at the teacher. Sending nasty notes like your kids aren't doing homework and they're all fucking liars. No, fucker, you failed to teach them. Even the one who you said was so good at math she should do advanced math, you failed. Fucking abusive fuck.

I hate school.

Edit: Well, shit. Talked to my kid about it. Looks like she stopped paying attention to the questions because she felt a need to go fast. So either 1) my kid's ADD is finally affecting her school work (sad) or 2) the teacher was a jerk about how much time they had to finish the tests. Still think the teacher was a jerk though with her your kids are liars email.

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bloodrose wrote

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Watched the final season of Brooklyn Nine-Nine. They said they were scrapping the season and re-writing to deal with police brutality issues. My thoughts are:

  1. They did one really right thing and had a cop quit out of principal. They even had an episode where another cop interacts with them and says basically "but I'm one of the good guys" and it is proven to him how shitty of a take that is. This episode was bomb. (1st of the season)
  2. They did show a lot of the problems with the police unions in a comical way. Because as I understand it, there's a big part of a problem....buuuut....that kind of worked to absolve leadership of responsibility which sucks.
  3. Also they went along this route of "we'll reform police" and that'll fix it, which I think is really avoiding the problems and is prime copaganda.

So, basically, they did one good thing. And they did copaganda other things. But the one good episode is goooood.

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bloodrose wrote

Reply to comment by annikastheory in friday free talk by emma

My kid watches more tv than I would like, too. We bought a house with a backyard and I hoped she would take advantage of it more but two things have stopped that from happening:

  1. there's no other kids to play with there and
  2. smoke days - she got used to being trapped inside when smoke from wildfires made the air unsafe for her and then just stayed inside.

I've tried telling her that unless we tell her otherwise, she should assume the air is not smokey and she can play outside but she's gotten really into youtube channels about roblox and minecraft now. :(

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bloodrose wrote

I don't have advice but I have sympathy/empathy for you. <3 School is such a horrible thing. We inflict trauma on young people in school. The response I see to "do what you love and never work a day in your life" is "make what you love a job and you'll hate it for the rest of your life." Sounds like they made something you love a job. I'm so sorry. I hope someday you can move beyond the pain. I'm in my forties and thought I was over all the trauma I had from school until I had to send my kid to school. Oh god, I react in a hugely negative way to everything from the teachers and school. If I could, I'd keep my kid out of school and I am every day looking for an excuse to rip her out of there.

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bloodrose wrote

Well, it wasn't the point of the podcast. The podcast is You're Wrong About and I'm pretty sure the episode was the one about Cancel Culture. They were talking about how often twitter is used as a news source for online articles and were flippantly suggesting that sometimes writers just need rent money. It's a great podcast, though. They have some stale liberal takes but for the most part are pretty fair/good about their subject matter.

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bloodrose wrote

I wonder what is the point of all the people making uninteresting and not intellectually bankrupt articles but intellectually impoverished articles?

A podcast I like that is done by two writers talked about this and said, basically, stuff that is written isn't, like, something someone had a burning desire to tell people about. It's a writer who needed $300 to make rent. When writing is a job and you need money to live, you write what people will pay for, not shit you care about. And sometimes it's drivel.

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bloodrose wrote

I had a very depressing conversation with my child recently. I was telling her how when we were her age, we were allowed to walk further and play outside more than her friends are. We were lamenting that she didn't get to just walk outside to find friends to play with like we did growing up (she's free to play outside when she wants but neighbor kids don't have that luxury). She asked us "What about during smoke season?" and we had to sadly inform her that there was no smoke season when we were kids. She's just grown up with the smoke and just is like "oh smokey days, we play inside." It's like rainy days. :(

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bloodrose wrote (edited )

Am I misunderstanding how seethe is used by others? To me it is like a simmering so when I say "seething passion", I mean my hatred of reddit continues on a slow roll. I've seen horrible movements come out of reddit that have actually caused people to die while the people running the site encouraged it because it was traffic and apparently all traffic is good traffic or whatever. So I really think the site is worthy of my contempt. I don't think I was saying to lettuceLeafer that I hate them. I was, uhhh, really just talking about how awful that site is, not a person.

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bloodrose wrote

the bloodrose situation despite her accepting my apology

That is not how that went down. I deleted all of my bookmarks to raddle and fucked off for a month. I was pretty intent on never coming back based on our interactions. I came back because I missed being able to share green anarchist shit. I'd see a link I knew the community would like and want to post it and then I'd feel sad. Like the kind of sad you feel when you break up with someone.

I feel like a shit for getting so upset at you. I feel like a shit for rage-quitting and coming back. I decided to learn that raddle is like the rest of the internet - not safe for women and to lower my expectations, and enjoy what I could of raddle. Because I need people who understand some of the stuff other people find weird and edgy or whatever.

You and I have not reconciled, though. You did not apologize. I even considered apologizing to you to reconcile because I don't like leaving shit unspoken but I'm also WASP-y and conflict avoidant. But we have not reconciled. If you want to, I'm down. But I don't like being used in this argument in a way that isn't true so I need to say, no we didn't reconcile.

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bloodrose wrote

  1. Be the change you want to see - if you want to discuss other topics, do it!

  2. Sometimes repeatedly tearing apart minutiae arguments helps us understand our positions. I'm not a reading theory kind of person. The "dunking" as you call it actually helps me think things through rhetorically. The back and forth and the dismantling of arguments on both sides helps me understand an issue and learn it. I think it is valuable.

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bloodrose wrote

If I don't get a response on my request for context in the next 8 hours, I'm going to take this down. It feels like cyber-bullying.

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bloodrose wrote

being in a rural area basically demolishes your ability to make money

This is 100% why I am stuck in the suburbs. I have to make money to care for my family in a way that keeps the state from taking my kid away. I couldn't find a workaround. If I had no kid, I'd fuck off to the woods and be done with it. Actually, I'd probably leave my husband and go join the Garden in Tennessee. I'm an extrovert and I need people and I don't have enough people in my house right now.

The other family member who is asking you to leave sounds sketchy to me. What is their reasoning for wanting you out? Is this them wanting unsupervised access in the house? And why would they want that?

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