Stuckinthecity

Reply to Friday Free Talk by Alex

Stuckinthecity wrote

//Rant incoming: I don’t think I can ever be romantically involved with men ever again. Too many of them are terrible people (rapists, abusers, homophobes, etc.) and even more of them are enablers (notallmen). Even the ones who claimed to be on my side still have too many skeletons that they refuse to address. It’s a damn shame because I would like more men in my life to prove me wrong but it just—doesn’t happen.

Prime example, does anyone remember that ICE woman on Twitter that men (of many ethnicities, mind) found really attractive? I was tweeting about it and this male ancom I was mutuals with basically notallmen’d me. It was like fifty layers of shit and the more I dug the worse it got.

Another example was some trans men upset at being included with cis men for doing shitty things as women were talking about their experiences on a thread. Now, I’m not trans, and won’t pretend like I have their understanding or completely know of their struggles. They are very much different to cis men, the fact that they are trans definitely plays a part in the difference, and they are still oppressed because of it. Having said that, marginalized peoples can still do bad things, and these women were simply venting (I didn’t see any terfy or hateful rhetoric either btw). Idk I hope I don’t come across as transphobic writing all that :(

It’s just frustrating. Apologies if I said something wrong.

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Stuckinthecity wrote

“A final message ended with a plea that Holowka's death not be used as an excuse to harass anyone else.“

So much for that. Shitstains on Twitter are all ready blaming Zoe Quinn. I have some reservations with her that aren’t linked to Gamergate, but these ass wipes are just the worst. Whining about “innocent until proven guilty” is all well and good if you 1.) can be consistent and 2.) realize when that doesn’t really apply, i.e. not in a court of law. I’m so glad I got out before the Nazis went mask off.

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Stuckinthecity OP wrote

Thanks. I really want to support her through this and I know she’d do the same for me, or at least try to. I do admit to fucking up majorly in this process and I don’t feel like I’ve done enough to forgive myself. Unfortunately, the shit from others rubs on you whether you want it to or not.

Do you have any recommendations for orgs? All the ones here are either religious, which I’m not really keen on, or just flat out kinda shit (guess why mom had to leave) A free hotline maybe?

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Stuckinthecity OP wrote

The first variation is something I considered and definitely is not fash, but it just feels like they aren’t as recognized, and it kinda brings into the question of what non-rich people thinks is good and virtuous. The latter can too obviously but not to the same degree. Rather, the prophecy shit feels like fiction reflecting the past rather than a universal tale that people will always appreciate on some level.

For instance, we all know why Robin Hood became popular, and it isn’t for the same for say Hercules did. Am I making any sense?

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Stuckinthecity wrote

There are a lot of games I love and it’s hard to pick even ten. But the ones I remember most fondly were Zelda: Twilight Princess and Alien: Isolation. Solid story, great controls and otherwordly atmosphere.

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Stuckinthecity OP wrote

I’ve noticed even with the rise of superheroes’ popularity, they usually don’t save the world with maybe a few exceptions. Batman only saves Gotham, and Spiderman only does good deeds for his hometown. Wonder Woman is trying to keep her home from being taken over (Athens? Some Greek setting?) The only exception I can think of for worldly stuff is Superman.

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Stuckinthecity wrote (edited )

The white nonsense that Bruce guy was spouting holy shit. He understands that no one in power REALLY cares about fertility right? Oh who am I kidding of course not.

I’ve seen so many works with a good message shooting themselves in the foot because the creator was blind to their own biases. Looking at you Hideo against-war-but-not-women’s-objectification Kojima.

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Stuckinthecity OP wrote

I’d say that’s a large swath of political ideologues, including anarcho-whatifthechildconsents. Anarchism isn’t about that and it is such a breath of fresh air. I just wanna life my life without being turned into someone’s lackey and I certainly don’t want that position myself. Humanity really need to let go of authority. It literally never worked and won’t no matter what.

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Reply to comment by Stuckinthecity in Friday Free Talk by Alex

Stuckinthecity wrote

Yep at least where I live that is 100% true. And it feels like the doctors talk down to rather than to the patients. Not always, but no one should have to make a gamble like that in an emotionally vulnerable state.

I know what you mean. A lot of people I know currently use alcohol and I try to not judge for that, even with the circumstances in my life. Addiction killed one of my family years back, partially because she didn’t understand how much influence she had on another person’s life. This was at least two decades before I was born, and things were even worse back then so I don’t think therapy was ever an option for her. People do what they must to survive, but I can’t do some of it personally. The same would happen to me. I have too many addictive tendencies.

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