ShadesPath

ShadesPath wrote

Which is why I think it is no mistake that the DSM finds that this disorder is more prevalent in households that are "harsh and inconsistent".

I think you assumed that I was undermining that point when I wasn't or wasn't trying to. I was saying that ODD was about responses to authority and that said responses can lead to a kid being a danger to themselves. What causes ODD is less important than the ODD itself because, for one, it's difficult to change a kid's home situation and it's hard to determine whether or not the parenting is the actual problem. A lot of times, the problem is that the kid has underlying issues and the ODD is merely the interaction between those issues and the authority adults use to get the kid to do the very thing that the kid has issues with. This is ultimately why the "it's just bad parenting" argument is pretty harmful because it is way more complicated than that but the focus has to be on treating whatever issues the kid is suffering through so that they don't end up hurting themselves. By no means is this a rejection of it being used to force behavioral conformity onto children though because, by the end of the day, that's a lot of how the diagnosis is used.

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ShadesPath wrote

Being a heretical Christian, I understand how you feel. With no church to anchor me and no Bible to guide me, I'm just a boat out at sea. I can't talk to anyone about anything religious except other heretics who are rare so I'm essentially alone. I'm liberated, sure, but now I worry I'll slip back into my orthodox way of viewing the world.

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ShadesPath wrote

But not only is that beside the point, you're asking for a change to the degree of millions of people. People are gonna drive cars where it's most convenient and sustainable for them and cities are designed to make cars the primary form of transportation for the majority of people. How are you gonna convince entire cities to restructure themselves to dissuade car use? It's easier, way easier, and more effective for all parties involved for those same cities to give the boot to their largest carbon emitters. They don't because those same emitters are a good source of productivity and money.

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ShadesPath wrote

Funny enough, 2020 was the safest year for schools in terms of shootings and other forms of violence. Only 10 shootings throughout the entire year with whole months being shooting-free. A huge record low for the U.S. So far, in 2021, there have been 29 total shootings to date, 21 of which occurred within the last 4 months. Now, I'm not an expert but I kinda feel like quarantine had something to do with it.

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ShadesPath wrote

Reply to comment by moonlune in Fuck the metaverse by ziq

There's a difference between alienation and separation due to various circumstances. Alienation involves othering and a subsequent segregation. Take how technology, as opposed to being utilized as a means of improving the quality of life of everyone, is seen as a luxury item for those that can pay for it, making the absence of it a marker of being low class. Further, those who thrive without technology are often portrayed as being alien in some way, having qualities that "normal" people don't have to the point that people aren't capable of seeing themselves as having the ability to thrive without tech. This is intentional as tech became another way for higher powers to oppress people. So alienation is never good, it's oppression.

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ShadesPath wrote

Reply to comment by bloodrose in Fuck the metaverse by ziq

The issue isn't that technology alienates people as much as humans have, throughout our history, used various societal advancements to alienate and leave behind "undesirables". The current state of technology is very much the product of the authoritarian-capitalist environment it was raised up in.

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ShadesPath wrote

I believe it comes from various interviews with sex offenders and anecdotes about men of authority where the common denominator is the vulnerability that young people have and the power those men have that enables their predation. However, non-offending people often show that having attractions to children is something that just happens as most non-offending do understand why they shouldn't have such attractions but can't seem to get rid of it.

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ShadesPath wrote

You don't have to police your emotions but it's not healthy to be this upset over an internet argument especially when you consistently get into internet arguments and a lot of them end up with you getting mad at whoever you're arguing with. I say just let it all go, man, and do something that's worth the emotions you're feeling.

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