Quicksilver

Quicksilver wrote

Reply to FREE TALK FRIDAY by kano

Last time I saw my maternal grandmother was last summer, and paternal grandmother this spring. I will be seeing my maternal grandmother this coming winter, and I’m not sure about my maternal.

I’ve just finished my qualifications to be a first responder, so very happy!

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Quicksilver wrote

I like birthdays. It’s always nice to get together with my friends and family and celebrate something, whether it’s going out or just a meal.

Mine always tends to be rather chill, though that’s because I don’t stress about having everything on all one day, and not expecting anything. So no big bow out nights with 10-15 people.

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Quicksilver wrote

Enjoyed some nude sunbathing with a friend this weekend on a cliffside beach. Forget how good it feels to get some sun on the places where it don’t usually shine. Felt a bit rewilded

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Quicksilver wrote

Do I think Jeremy “Jezza” Corbyn is truly antisemitic? Only in the same way that most people are antisemitic, as in they’ve internalised antisemitic tropes and ideas through socialisation. Do I think he’s more antisemitic than your average person? No, I don’t, I think there was the same old conflation between antiZionism and antisemitism, as well as a it being a smear tactic by the entire British media. If anyone thinks boris “the muppet” Johnson hasn’t thrown out antisemitic slurs in his back door dealings (along with all the others he has used), they need to be laughed out the room. Antisemitism isn’t a labour problem, it’s a social and systemic problem, and the fact that it was placed on the back of one man was sickening.

In general…he’s a politician that would have had to deal with brexit and Covid. Whether or not he would have done a better job…well, we could world build all day. Maybe the Uk would turn out like if Al Gore had won and we’d be living in post scarcity gay space communism. Maybe we’d be the next North Korea that most of the UK thought we’d turn out to be in 2019(as it’s my personal belief that the general UK populace is generally more conservative than they let on).

As a person, I’m sure he’s fine, I’d have a pint with him. He’s a statist, but so is most of my friend group, at least he doesn’t want to gut the NHS…which i unfortunately can’t say about his successor Starmer…

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Quicksilver wrote

Reading Terry Pratchett's Equal Rites currently, and it’s pretty good. I’ve decided to read his works in the order they have come out as a long term project.

I have just finished Bored Gay Werewolf by Tony Santorella and haven’t related to a protagonist so hard in so long and couldn't stop laughing through the entire book. Highly recommend!

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Quicksilver wrote

I don’t see relationship anarchy as treating your friends like romantic partners, or acquaintances like friends. I usually see it as eschewing the labels entirely so that your not bound by them. I wouldn’t want romantic/sexual relations with all the people I know. But wether or not these relationships have romantic/sexual elements isn’t based off whether these people are “friends” or “partners” or some other arbitrary label, but what each individual brings to each relationship dynamic.

As well relationship anarchy doesn’t seek to displace priority, but hierarchy. We only have so much time in the world, so certain relationships will be prioritized due to that. However, you no longer have to prioritise based off what is perceived as the relationship hierarchy (Family first, then friends, then acquaintances, etc), because those structures have broken down. Now they’re all unique, independent relationships that have their own flow, and may move and change priority due to a host of factors that are more organic.

It may be that your struggling wrapping your head around it cause you’re viewing you relationships with others within the lense of relationship hierarchy and having castes that people fall into (gf>romantic partner/friends>acquaintances).

Just food for thought.

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Quicksilver wrote

It’s something I try to practice in my relationships. To most regular people that ask me my relationship status, I tell them I’m in a nonexclusive/nonmonogamous/open relationship with people that I may or may not call my partners/boyfriends/friends/family/etc. I’d rather not label at all, but can’t be bothered to explain it all the time, and so long as the people that I actually have these relationships with understand, what do I care.

I enjoy the idea that there is no hierarchy in my relationships that are dependant on factors (longevity, sexualness, proximity), and that these relationships can grow and develop in their own special ways. It’s fucking tough, and requires an understanding that relationships can also just die or end and that is also fine, but I find the relationships mean so much more.

Am I perfect with it, god no. As with most people, I’ve internalised monogamous/hierarchy ideas throughout my life that I try to deconstruct. I still at times think of my relationship in such ways and act against the ideals of relationship anarchy, or have to make compromises with it due to the facts on the ground about how society at large view relationships. At times I am a hypocrite, and I know that must be worked on. As well, the people I have relationships with (platonic, sexual, romantic, familial, etc), have their own views and boundaries and compromises that they deal with and follow, and I need to respect them, even if I disagree with their views or ideas about relationships.

As with anarchy itself, I don’t see relationship anarchy as a state or a status one has with someone, but a process one goes through in all their relationships, cultivating intimate, non-hierarchal connections with others.

Sorry if this isn’t the most clear, I’m tired and currently at work

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Quicksilver wrote

My second hand android phone that I had for two years decided to stop reading my SIM card, and so I am now for the first time in my life using an iPhone lent to me by my lovers sister. I’m not the biggest fan, but it does the job. I really miss my fair phone though, and should buy the spare parts for it that I need…though when I think about, I think the greener thing to do is use second hand phones rather than buying new spare parts for the modular phone. Hey ho, if this one goes down, the spare parts will probably be more economical than buying a second hand phone even, so it’ll be a balancing act.

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I suppose I do. I believe it’s an act of personal freedom that everyone should have at their disposal. Do I think it should be treated flippantly? No, but that’s my own personal hang up on it. I don’t really see life as having any inherent value above what any one individual places on their own.

Now, I say that with the assumption of someone who is “sound of mind” and/or able to consent(wherever we arbitrarily put that line) . To someone who isn’t (for example, someone with dementia, or someone whose 7 years old)…I don’t know. Funnily enough, I’ve seen this in real life, while I worked at a care home. One of the residents (before they came to the home) was going through the process of getting assisted suicide in a country that allowed it in Europe, but his dementia progressed to where he was denied on that ground.

It’s a complex topic, and my views are going to be biased by my direct lack of experience with said issue. At the end of the day, if I was sound of mind, I’d like my decision respected on the matter, and if I wasnt…we’ll, I’d live long enough to come to terms with it, or I wouldn’t, and be greeted with eternal darkness and a lack of care anyways.

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