OldHippieChick OP wrote

Even though this was not the answer I wanted to hear when I posted the thread, it is still valuable info. Thank you so much for your time.

Apparently it is easy enough to have these numbers changed so they are not particularly valuable info anyway. One of my babydaddies used a fake one for the duration of our marriage (and most likely coparenting as well) and never got caught.

Not going to pursue this so please use your own brains and research skills.


OldHippieChick OP wrote (edited )

Thanks again for the wishes, alex_, and it does make a difference. I wish I could come back with the update I want to write and all y'all want to read.

The perp's still at large so you'd better be real scared if you have kids and let them eat vegan food or play libre video games.

I want to come back with my old username and tell all y'all that everything worked out okay. Maybe someday I will. All y'all give me hope that my youngest has a good head on his shoulders, everything I could give him, and everything that collective "you", the young people I choose to have in my life and chose to mentor him., could give him as well.

My kid needs to come home. He's only eleven years old but he's big enough and smart enough that he could probably pass for eighteen if he had to.

Offing the perp isn't going to help my kid at this point if my kid is still alive.


OldHippieChick wrote

From a strictly ethical point of view, your parents are going to need you a lot more when they're in their 80s than they do now. They won't be much fun then. Keep a little for yourself if it's going to make a difference--you need to take care of yourself so you can take care of them.

My mama ain't happy that I smoke marijuana like a chimney and she never will be, but I'll still fight like a mother bear if the doctors try to kill her with fentanyl or even dose her metamucil with CBD oil for her arthritis if I have to.

You're smart and you'll figure it out. We aren't hard wired to abandon our elders.


OldHippieChick wrote (edited )

I just had time to glance at authors and titles but it looks like some really good stuff in there: some familiar names and some new people addressing issues within the modern unschooling movement that need to be addressed.

John Taylor Gatto died recently. I'm not up to writing a eulogy at the moment and yes, his politics were too Libertarian for most Raddlers but his writing is too important to ignore in an in-depth study on adult supremacy:


and under the circumstances (since you are not currently raising children) I would suggest that you stay away from Pat Farenga and read John Holt's actual words in historical context.

This is short and readable:


or for an in depth study, I would advise you to start here:


and stick to Arvind Gupta's uploads or dusty old thrift store paperbacks. Mr. Holt died childless. Mr. Farenga might be the best mentor you can get for your own rug rodents when/if the time comes so I'm going to keep my negative feelings to myself.

Holt did write one book on the other side of Ageism:


It is called "Never Too Late" and it is about how he learned how to play the cello as an adult (late 30s or 40s IIRC) and eventually became a serious musician.

He was inspired by Vita Wallace:

https://archive.org/details/betterthanschool0000wall https://www.frederickcollection.org/Orfeo_10.html

who was a serious musician even though she was a very young child. IIRC, he would have met Vita when she was three since Ishamel did a year as a "normal" first grader before homeschooling.

This is my favourite article about Quinn Eaker even though it's a bit old: https://www.dallasobserver.com/news/wild-child-6419606

Idzie is still writing:


and Kate Fridkiss isn't:


because the mommywebz really is that toxic, she has a kid to raise, and she's got her priorities in the right place.

Peter Gray: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/freedom-learn/201406/survey-grown-unschoolers-i-overview-findings

is a psychologist so it's his JOB to write and he writes well.

I'll edit when I remember more or talk your ear off the next time I'm lonely, drunk, or sad, lol.

You're honestly doing me a favour by letting me babble the same way you would any old veteran who hasn't an arm and hasn't a leg and has to be left with a bowl to beg. Shoot me a PM if you don't want me babbling in public.

Much respect.


OldHippieChick wrote

This was an interesting article and led to a rabbit trail about us boomers that you may or may not want to follow. The fact is that most people were born in 1957 and most people are named "Mary" because so many of the Toms and Davids have already become memories.

Love us or hate us, there are still a lot of us. We still piss and shit even when you close the public bathrooms to keep us from "loitering". We still require sleep even when you make laws against "illegal camping".

We are becoming old and fragile and you (people born after 1965) are increasingly gaining the power to control our lives and destroy us if we become "inconvenient". My 85 year old wealthy parents are inconvenient as shit! I don't get any pleasure out of "childing" them at all, but it just isn't in me to abandon them.

But I've only got two and you (people born after 1965) have ALL of us whose kids have thrown us away like used condoms or dirty tampons. That's a lot of garbage. Dead bodies smell bad and spread disease. We are expensive to dispose of and we aren't walking into the gas chambers willingly after all these years of fighting our own parents for the right to live the way we choose, growing our illegal marijuana, and homeschooling our children without $3,000 per year per kid charter school stipends and "experts" to tell us what to buy with all that "free money".

You could compost us. We still have value. The past could still fertilize the future.

You have all the power so it's your choice. Personally I couldn't care less. I'd just as soon be dog food at this point since my dog still needs to eat more than I need to "see what happens next".


OldHippieChick OP wrote

There's money involved. Nobody gives a shit about my kid:


but maybe they would give a shit about a government credit card that can pay for rooms at the Holiday Inn and proprietary software gaming.

I'm not very well connected on the dark web, to put it mildly, but thanks bunches for helping me brainstorm. I need new ideas and fresh input.


OldHippieChick wrote

A lot of what is posted is fairly "radical" in a society where people in crisis are routinely drugged and encarcerated, but MentalWellbeing does carry less stigma and would be more welcoming to the intended audience.

It also feels less judgemental towards those who are doing their best to get off those drugs or at least do as much damage control as possible.

It's hard to communicate that rage against a system can include compassion for its victims and those more vulnerable than ourselves, but I think that's what we're all trying to do here, no matter how radical that is perceived to be.


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today's hike = the hike that would have taken place today

tomorrow's hike = the hike that was postponed from yesterday, on account of the weather.

God kills a kitten every time you use an apostrophe to pluralize.

Gods kill kittens every time you use apostrophes to pluralize.

God's kill, kittens every time; YOU use apostrophes to pluralize?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

Don't use semicolons; that's pretentious.


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OldHippieChick wrote

You know, after being discarded by my entire family last September, I am simply going to have to accept the fact that these random scribblings and "messages in a bottle" are what I did with my life.

Not what I CHOSE to do with my life, mind you, but all that remains.

I had to take so much stuff to the dump this week. A lot of it was useful or could have been turned into money but there just wasn't time and I would have lost access to storage and cooking facilities if I hadn't tossed and cleaned like a madman.

It's going to haunt me for awhile---Mr. Fluffers and all the baby pictures and everything that used to be my life, but the relevant part to this comment is all the letters I wrote to my son when he was deployed where I poured out my heart to him, thinking that if it was the last thing he ever read before he lay on that battlefield with his entrails spilled all over the ground waiting to die, he was going to want his mommy so the letter was the most important thing I would ever write.

He never read any of the letters. He saved them as "proof" that I was "so mentally ill she doesn't even have a Facebook".

Does that mean I was a sucky writer?

Does the fact that I recognized how corrupt the publishing industry was in 2003ish and stopped writing for money mean that I'm a sucky writer?

Does the fact that I genuinely believe that the printed word is the only form of immortality mankind has been able to achieve, and that I chose to use this power to communicate with people on the internet who were going through crises I could relate to and had some power to alleviate, rather than using that time and energy to exploit people's vulnerabilty and emotionally abuse and manipulate them into giving their money to corp-orations mean that I'm a sucky writer?