Nonbinary_R_Us wrote

Wow some people here are saying that they hate makeup because "superficial" people wear it. WTF.

I am anti-makeup because it's a tool of the patriachy - it's part of a system that makes women feel like their bodies arent already beautiful/proffessional/interesting without altering their apparences. But women are also under a lot of social pressure to wear it in almost every context! There are statistics that conclude that women are substantially more likely to be hired if they wear makeup to job interviews! And for those who enjoy wearing it, and pursue it as a hobby? Fuck yeah, people should do things that make them feel good.

Fuck these people calling people who wear makeup superficial! Like the même says - none of your damn business.


Nonbinary_R_Us wrote

Nothing makes me feel more warm and fuzzy than waking up in the morning, seeing m partner's loving eyes, and rolling over in bed to look into the cold, dead, eyes of the state. Always will be so glad to have the state as part of my relationship through marriage.


Nonbinary_R_Us wrote (edited )

Reply to by emma

Oh that was wrong??? Really?? Wow without the justice system figuring that out I would have never guessed!


Nonbinary_R_Us wrote (edited )

Just the perspective of a server here: I actually love it ----

  • if people weren't snotwipes (the rudeness described here is so commonplace I definitely wouldn't notice it at work. We see a lot worse)

  • if it didn't involve so much emotional labour. I don't feel I should need to smile constantly, even on days I feel good, never mind when I feel bad. I shouldn't have to kiss anyone's feet if they're bullying/harassing me.

  • if there were no bosses. My new general manager called me "dear" in this super condescending way yesterday. "You need to work on getting these drinks out faster dear. You can't leave them sitting on the bar." Never mind that he was doing nothing while I and the only other server each had 14 -16 tables in a surprise rush. I called him "sweetheart" before I could stop myself.

  • if we weren't perpetually understaffed.

  • if every table just had the god damn decency to recognize that we're people and we're doing something nice for them like the author of this article does. Seriously, when I encounter people like that it makes my day and I remember the reasons I love this job.

  • if I could choose to only serve vegan food

  • if we could sit down sometimes.

Basically I would still consider doing this kind of labour in a very different post-capitalist setting, because it's just genuinely fun a lot of the time. You get to meet a lot of great people, and the work itself is fast paced and exciting. I just hate the gendered aspects and the way it all functions under capitalism.

Sorry for rambling, just a few scattered thoughts on this.


Nonbinary_R_Us wrote

TW rape

Considering the things he said, and got emourmous media coverage for, during his campaign it's not even shocking. Everyone remembers "grab her by the pussy" but listening to the whole clip in context makes it even more disturbing. The way he claims women "let you do it" if you're famous ect. He's literally a self-admitted god damn rapist and yet he was elected. Able White cis straight men just don't care. Many feel validated.


Nonbinary_R_Us wrote

This was my dilemma as well. How could my entire world and perspective shift from being a queer gender non conforming woman to a straight cis passing white man? I figured out that I don't identify as a binary man, nor as straight, since starting physical transition.