Infinity wrote

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Wow, millennials are so lazy. They cook at home, unlike their parents which is why they are killing the restaurant chains. They don't have Mexican housekeepers to clean up after them. Because they have computers and actually have to type a lot they sometimes create shortcuts.

Oh, millennials. So fucking lazy.


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It's important to me that people look natural, and care more about the inside than the outside. It's important to me that we are accepting of each other, and that we think more about issues to be accepting of each other on vs what we all look like.

That being said I am incredibly traumatized and affected by the capitalist machine that focuses on the vanity and preys upon our insecurities of wanting to fit in and look identical to every other empty Hollywood alien veneer.

I feel like I trust people more when they look like real people.

I can't bring myself to watch a modern show because of the lack of representation of regular looking people vs attractive people.

I wish it was socially acceptable to wear a bag over my head or a mask to hide what I look like. I don't like to show my face, my hair, my body... I feel people looking at me all the time, and I wish that people would all focus on their inner beauties more than the externals. More people would look at me if I went out dressed in ninja (anti) camouflage. I can see apps like instacart being popular for people who have social anxiety.

Now that we are becoming more accepting of different races, hair textures, skin, and eye colors, nose shapes, ect I'm becoming a little bit more comfortable with the way that I look. I obsess about what I look like much more than I feel comfortable admitting. I have undergone invasive beauty techniques which I feel conflicted about even spending the money on when there are people going hungry. I've dieted and worked out to unhealthy obsessions.

Being more aware to politics has helped me let go of these obsessions a little bit because I know that these emotions are nourishing the capitalist dream.

Our identities, especially our physical ones, are not necessarily our own. They are propaganda fed to us by capitalist motives. I'm mostly talking about the styles in which we express our physical identity, but also the physical way we look fashionable and "beautiful." The brands we wear and the hairstyles we choose... We learn these things from propaganda. I struggle knowing where to draw the line because I am a part of this world, and I don't want to starve. I want to be loved just like anyone else. I also feel like how I choose to look is no one's business. I'm such a mess when it comes to this topic. It's embarrassing to admit. I try really hard not to think about it. I often don't go out into the world because I think I'm too ugly. I live in a big city right now. I can't wait to go back to the nature. The city amplifies these feelings for me living in a box in the sea of mirrors.

As far as clothes go, I try to camouflage within my setting.


Infinity wrote

"“It’s a very noble profession. You are saving lives, and that is an amazing thing to be doing. Also, in this country there’s never been medical unemployment. So of course, there is incredible pride and pressure from young doctors’ families.” One client had “spent a staggering 15 years pursuing a career he never really enjoyed”; another had pushed himself for 10 years out of loyalty to his family, until severe panic attacks forced him to admit his real interest was actually elsewhere. Others had chosen the wrong specialty but felt stuck, the prospect of starting all over again in another discipline all but unthinkable.""

--------------This quote from the article is totally relatable, and I'm a regular person. I think that a lot of us would be able to relate to that sentiment.

---- only certain people get to become doctors. There are only few people who have the amount of privilege it takes to become a doctor. I know a radiologist. He's been playing golf since he was 6 years old. He goes to Cabo every year with his family for two weeks, and they go on fishing trips at 500+$ for a couple hours to kill innocent beings in the ocean without thinking twice about it. He went to Costa Rica for a summer right after undergrad to surf before he went to medical school... He's definitely not going to be posting on raddle. He lives in an area that is overlooking the rest of us, little people. Definitely a sheltered person. Regular people don't get to become doctors, so to expect them to have the same kind of empathy a normal person has would be hopeful. Regular people have to deal with regular world issues. Regular people are not necessarily playing golf since the age of 6. We start out less uptight, to begin with.

What would the response to this dilemma? The profession should be accessible to more people for starters. This issue seems quite systemic.

What came first the chicken or the egg?


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"There are many different reasons for this - many young people don't even realise the abusive nature of what is happening. Some may even feel in some way complicit in the abuse because there has been some kind of 'reward' or receipt of something."

That can be gifts, alcohol, drugs, or affection. In some cases victims are so traumatised they use drink or drugs to cope. But they then need the means to get the drink or drugs. It's a vicious circle.

Ms Gladman says this is one area in which "nothing has changed".

"The grooming is so good, so targeted and tailored that the girls - and boys - involved don't understand they are being exploited. They don't listen to warnings. They're desperate for love and attention and it's up to the experts to recognise that, to spot who is vulnerable, and almost follow the grooming process themselves.

"We have to engage with the young people and make them feel worthwhile, give them life skills."

------------When I was 13 years old I ran away from home. I was found a few hours later with a bunch of men in the back of a truck. The police took me home to my parents and didn't do anything to the men. I was punished badly, and I carried guilt, shame, and resentment. This was one of many instances like this and often worse. Now I'm learning that the system failed me? It's liberating, but also traumatizing at the same time. But now I realize that there's nothing wrong with me, I'm just traumatized like many other women. What do we do about it though? Where do we go from here?

Women are bred to and conditioned to accept exploitation like it is our own fault and worse, normalize it. We are constantly abused, and then we wonder why we have the feelings that make us need to do drugs to cope with life. We are then whores, criminals, and left for dead. Sometimes I resent my partner just for being a man. In many ways, I feel like abusers are almost as innocent. Instead of being taught right from wrong, they are encouraged to do wrong, and not only that, they never actually get punished. Just look at R. Kelly who still gets to make albums. It's not even that these rich and famous people should be held to higher standards than anyone else... No one should be in such a position of power that could potentially put anyone in the position of being exploited in order to possibly make their lives better which normalizes those kinds of behaviors.

I hear on NPR where do we go from here? What are we going to do about the abuse of women in this world? They speak of education in schools, but it seems like these forms of exploitation run deeper than that, and they are within the system itself. Power corrupts regardless of who you are. No one has immunity to the drug of power.


Infinity wrote

I JUST watched the Vice story, and was going to post it on here:

I love at the end she says she's going to pimp out her trashcan. #trashlife

In the video, I also love how the woman says she is not a capitalist, but she is. It seems like only really attractive people are allowed to play this game as all of the influencers I can think of are incredibly attractive. What do you guys think?

I would rather watch someone who was not as attractive as perfect. I'm not sure if that is necessarily better for capitalism. as the whole point of capital, propaganda is to feed our insecurities and widen empty voids within our souls.


Infinity wrote

I grew up on rice and beans, and bean sandwiches before we got on the school lunch plan. I don't understand why all poor American families don't do the same. I did grow up in a predominantly white area, and the kids always made fun of what we were eating. What is cheaper to eat than beans, rice, and tortillas? Usually, we got bread from the hostess store. I'm not sure if those still exist. You could get five breads for a dollar. My parents taught me how to be a frugal consumer as well as how to stretch a dollar.

I imagine that most of us on raddle grew up at least somewhere in the middle class if I'm assuming people are my age. I think that because by posting on this forum we are experiencing higher level thought process in the hierarchy of needs. We aren't in basic survival mode. We are thinking of the world outside of ourselves while focusing on solutions which we fill will contribute to making the world a better place.


Infinity wrote

In Spain, many people make a living off of robbing tourists in the tourist areas, as well as selling drugs at higher cost.

All in a day's work.

Or should I say, what came first the chicken or the egg?

What is the other expression? Looking at the finger that's pointing to the moon? Did I just Ricky Ricardo that one?


Infinity wrote

My partner and I went to Italy many years ago. Because I'm an artist, I wanted to go to Venice. Now that I think about it I believe that he had his heart set on visiting Venice as well. I think someone told him that it was such a unique city, which it is...but When we got there we realized that It was like Disneyland or Las Vegas out there, and we ended up getting into a fight over something ridiculous. I don't remember what it was about, and rarely do we ever fight. The place we stayed at was the cheapest spot, but it was not cheap. I ended up getting bitten all over by fleas in the bed. So we couldn't wait to get out of there. The best part of that trip was when we had to sleep outside because we went to an obscure little village in Tuscany, and got there after 4 PM or on a weekend when everything was closed. We had to sleep outside, and then we ran out of food, and we found a wild fig tree and went forriaging for wild greens and figs. That was so much fun. It was many years ago, and we were actually "traveling" tourists then. We went on that trip to Italy with intention to see Italy, and we somewhat planned the sights we wanted to see. I can't imagine us going on a trip like that today. We went all over Europe traveling with our bags of fruit and picknicked everywhere. Both of us became more aware and better people through that experience.

Traveling is really good for your soul. It's a better education than school. Every time you go somewhere new, you learn how to be a better person because you see more of the world, and you learn how you want to be a better person and develop self-awareness.

Out of all my experiences, I think "traveling" is the only one that has made me feel "richer." It's right up there with LOVE as life experiences worth living for.

What do you all think about teaching English? Is that somehow unethical to you guys?

Also, can you define the kinds of travel that we feel are unethical and what is unethical about it? Is it different than the same kinds of things that are unethical regardless of where you are and things that you wouldn't participate it no matter where you're at? That is equally lame regardless of what geographical point you experience it in?


Infinity wrote (edited )

I have a bit of experience traveling. I lived in communities, as well as in the nature, and in squats. I've done help x, and lived in a cave. I did these things for various reasons. I value authentic and unique life experiences.

Can you please explain what ecotourism is? As well as servitude of locals?

In Europe there is a culture of people who busk and travel as well as making and selling artisan products in the winter, and selling them in the summer to tourists. A lot of people live like this until they are old.

Do you live in America? America seems to have an entirely different view about travel than most of the world. Even many Americans who have traveled are still sheltered and fearful to venture far away from the hostels. During my travels outside the hostels I met people from many different countries and only two Americans who chose to live outside of the bubble.

Then again, I definitely would not have had the same experiences had I traveled with money, vs without money. The adventure really began after I was robbed. :-)

A lot of people live without money in the world. Not having a home and money is kind of like traveling in a lot of ways. It depends on where you are in the world what kind of experiences you can have living outside. Living in the nature is cool as long as there are resources and you feel protected.

Where do you want to travel to, and what sorts of experiences are you looking to have? People have many different intentions when they "travel," and there are many different ways and experiences to be had.

Also, what is it to "travel?"

I've lived and worked in a few different countries. I consider this travel because it's not my home country, and I feel like an ambassador whenever I step out.

I have lived and worked outside of my home town, and I consider this traveling, also.

I rarely have been a tourist.