GaldraChevaliere

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GaldraChevaliere wrote (edited )

Just putting it out there, Miss Major is trying to pay for her retirement after years of protecting and uplifting her community when rich white trans women just fucked off and played with their money.

https://www.gofundme.com/MsMajorRetirement

https://fundly.com/missmajor

Please support one of our very, very few surviving elders.

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

Use whatever you can get your hands on. If you can't get a gun, get a taser. If you can't get a taser, get a long blade or a baton. If you can't get a long blade or a baton, get a kitchen knife. If you can't get a kitchen knife, get a broken bottle and some cloth. The state can't afford you the right to a weapon, it can only take it away.

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

I played a little of War of the Roses when it was a thing. You had to pay or grind like hell to have nice things like horses, decent armor, swords etc. If you didn't, your options were limited to boiled leather, padded and chain armor, repurposed farm tools and cheaper weapons and you had to be infantry. Peasant simulator 2k12.

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

I'm saying masculinity isn't itself bad or an indicator someone will do you harm. I've had really good professional relationships and personal friendships with super manly big buff dudes who work physical labor and all that shit. Men who respected me, defended me to other men without feeling ashamed or threatened, and were careful to navigate my boundaries. My big-ass post that got reposted a while back was kind of about that. Men are not inherently bad, and neither is manliness.

What is bad are the behaviors that men exhibit as a privileged class, so I'm very suspicious of the kind of 'softboy' who presents himself as sensitive and caring and distinctly unmanly (in a hypermasculinized western sense) or as a feminist as a way to position himself closer to women and queer folk to do violence upon them. The short-haired man who slams back stouts and goes to the gym every day but is sure to respect the women in his life is not my enemy, the skinny nothing with a man-bun who says he is my friend and believes in The Cause but talks over me and beats his wife when he gets home from the swap meet is.

Male privilege is wielding that you will always be believed above others, that your opinions will be taken more seriously than others, that women and non-men are conditioned to be subservient to you and face consequences if they're defiant from society if not you directly, and the nuclear option that if you're caught red-fucking-handed, you can still say she's a lying whore and worm your way out of the bind and at fucking most people will shittalk you for a few months before they forget. It has nothing to do with your presentation or your embodiment and everything to do with the way you use your power over others.

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

Yeah, that's more what I'm trying to describe. Straight dudes specifically call it a manbun because the idea of just having a bun threatens their masculinity, and then they half-ass it because putting effort in to appearance to them reads as effeminacy.

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

If she were wearing the specific style, I would, but again, the criteria isn't the messiness. It's a particular style of bun that straight dudes specifically wear that's overly tight, too short, poorly ordered and usually worn either at the base of the neck or nearly the crown of the head. What am I failing to convey here?

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

Search images of it, you'll be able to tell the difference. Messy bun here usually means a loose one. The distinction is less of an americanism and more like, men finally realized buns are a fairly comfortable, attractive and convenient way to wear longer hair, but lest they be perceived as possibly not het for having a 'girly' hairstyle, they took all the comfort, aesthetic appeal and convenience out of actually having a bun.

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

Where it's tied and the size/fluffiness/bounciness of it. Manbuns are scraggly, tighter than regular buns, tend to have a lot of flyaways and they're usually either right at the base of the neck or else nearly but not quite a topknot.

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

L and I are doing better. Going on a date just the two of us tomorrow, I'm a lot more excited than I've been letting on. F's really nice, but I can never tell if she's nice to me to get closer to L or if she's genuinely into me the same way she's into L. She's calling me by name more often and L says that's a good sign.

Gonna go camping with my big sisters to see the eclipse, I'm really excited for that too but I have to replace so much broken/lost gear. I haven't even gotten a chance to sew up my backpack yet.

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

My last boss was a manbunned tai-chi practicioner with the most grating fucking surfer dude voice who constantly talked about how much he wanted to move to Belize because his straight hipster ass didn't feel 'safe' in his two story, 5 bedroom bed and breakfast home with a fireplace in the middle of an isolated fucking mountain town that he in all likelihood inherited. Like sure, make yourself someone else's problem like you made yourself mine when you stole the entire tip jar and tried to get out of paying me by threatening to out me to people who knew me on the trail and didn't fucking care. /salt

Advice to other trans girls, while I'm at it; no matter how scary a big burly contractor or a junkyard worker looks, he's safer for you than the soft looking guy with stupid hair and appropriated chinese mysticism. Don't trust men just because they don't look traditionally masculine.

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

You know what the difference between you and Ziq is? Ziq got called out for their bullshit, admitted they were wrong, took a break, and apologized to most people they'd hurt when they came back. They ceded most of the hard and soft power they had over the site to others and got to work on themselves. They didn't make a fucking string of pity posts demonstrating a lack of self-awareness or willingness to change how they were treating people.