Elagabalia

Elagabalia wrote

Reply to comment by !deleted7213 in by !deleted7213

Hey first of all sorry for asking for more information and then disappearing for almost literally forever -- personal life took ahold, and yatta yatta yatta.

Thanks for responding, and that context definitely makes everything click for me now. I'm happy to hear nothing you mention in the 2nd post is anything I'd ever passively fall into (I think and hope), but it's disheartening to hear of such poor comrades (if one can even call them that).

Here's hoping you find the quality of leftist group you deserve locally and otherwise, and fuck the white fash even when they pose as leftists.

o7

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Elagabalia wrote (edited )

Reply to by !deleted7213

First of all, I'm sorry to hear all of this, and its obvious why you'd never want to associate with the left afterwards, and with that in mind, I wanted to ask this:

I don't always understand the point unless it's stated in absolutely crystal clear, usually concise terms, and I've re-read this a few times and changed my mind on what the main take-away I should remember as a white person is; does anyone in this thread feel like commenting to affirm what I think I ought to remember?

It's clear that this has caused OP much anguish, and rightly so for many obvious reasons I do understand in the post, so I want to at least do the least I can in making sure I understand and remember what is meant here.

It sounds like the main things to avoid, as a white person are: (and bear with me that some I will list are very very obviously wrong, I'm not listing them because they're new ideas to me, just for my own clarity)

-- never even get close to oneupsmanship or recentering the dialogue on ourselves should the issue of victimhood or oppression come up in conversation

-- listen to, try to understand, and then act on stories/ideas from POC without personally modifying/altering/overwhelming the narrative with our own interpretation or ideas

-- recognize that certain direct action (by example punching Nazis) is very transparently not a realistic option for POCs; and try not to claim glory / be prideful / anything of that note about it, remembering that it's a privilege we uniquely have

-- if POCs give you well informed / expert advice; listen to it and don't ignore it then complain about resulting issues

-- "You said something shitty about your life, they cried, and it became their story. You shared something about other POC in your hood getting hurt by cops, they cried, and it became their issue. You complained about racism shit in the circle, they wept, and your outcry is invalidated. You said you came from the hood and still struggling in there, they cried about where they came from, it became their concern."

(Here's the part I'm sort of having trouble properly digesting. Is the criticism that your dialogues and discussions were generally overwhelmed by whatever the white opinion or train of thought was at the time? Or is it more that after complaining about racism; they cried and acted sad or hurt; making your legitimate critiques not really cause change?

Apologies if this is very obvious; it does seem as much for everyone else here, I just have 10-hours-of-homework-brain and I wanted to understand this now that I have a minute.)

Everything else, if not listed, was so transparently racist and shitty I didn't think needed (personal) listing for clarity; the "you are their pet", "never valued you once as an actual friend", and the general fact that they seemed to only want to use you, and in another comment that they only every seemed to ask for your advice on POC related issues.

And now by the end of my post I have a huge list that almost certainly is basically asking for more labor from you; so I feel bad again. Hoping someone else lurking in the thread sees this, as it feels wrong to ask for any more at this point.

Edited for formatting

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Elagabalia wrote

Reply to by !deleted8445

Thinking about making a forum separate from /f/Trans, which seems to have an existing politics, news, and generally serious focus, for more style/personal care type posts, like a MTF hair style guide I had wanted to post.

Does this seem like an okay idea? Good? Bad?

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Elagabalia wrote

Reply to by !deleted8445

Drowning in homework as usual lately. CCNA is tough stuff folx, if someone uses the word "subnetting" run away.

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Elagabalia wrote

for what it's worth, ziq is correct about my intent about speaking generally about redditors I disagree with

but overall I would mostly like to just extend my apologies. I truly do want and intend to do better, and it's been a while since I've been reminded of ableist language being a problem.

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Elagabalia wrote

You are right to point out this is ableism; and I want to apologize, and did edit my OP since then apologizing in more detail.

That being said, I joined the day I wrote this, I fully intend to do better, and I want to be clear that I don't think I represent the raddle.me community by a loooooongshot.

As I was just replying to another user to point this out to me; it's been a long time since I've had the pleasure of being in circles where we correct and help each other do better, especially in terms of language we use, and so I definitely made a lapse here.

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Elagabalia wrote

lmao I had to look that one up, that's a hilarious premise for a sub.

You know how our whole ideology is kinda about recognizing injustice, oppression, and suffering? Yeaaah, I'm gonna need you to keep a respectable, polite demeanor about you when you try and talk to me about it, mkay?

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Elagabalia wrote (edited )

Sure, at the end of the day if you use a VPN you're still deciding to trust a company, and I'm sure we all agree there's no good such thing, but that being said many do not even store/log data, so if law enforcement were to request it with a warrant or whatnot, they could only disclose that you are a customer and no more. At least, that's my understanding of them.

I wouldn't use a VPN that logged; but if their policy is to not log / store data, I would and currently do use it as such. Although for what it's worth, only for piracy and not to conceal my identity for anything that required real security.

I guess it depends on tolerance for risk. I would feel personally comfortable using a VPN for most of my activity. If I start openly advocating for direct action against the USGOV, I would not feel the same though.

disclaimer: amateur cybersec hobbyist and only halfway through my AA in infosec so may be incorrect / misrepresenting how it works unintentionally

Edit: Here's the privacy policy for NordVPN, for example: https://nordvpn.com/privacy-policy/

I'm sure it'd be better if a lawyer looked it over; but this is the part I believe explains my point better:

"NordVPN guarantees a strict no-logs policy for NordVPN services, meaning that your activities using NordVPN Services are provided by automated technical process, are not monitored, recorded, logged, stored or passed to any third party. We do not store connection time stamps, session information, used bandwidth, traffic logs, IP addresses or other data. From the moment a NordVPN.com user turns on the NordVPN.com software, their Internet data becomes encrypted. Any online traffic coming from user’s device is no longer visible to ISP, third-party snoopers or cyber criminals. Further, NordVPN have a strict no logs policy when it comes to seeing user activity online: NordVPN is based in Panama, which does not require data storage."

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Elagabalia wrote (edited )

These are the same insert insult here who think Voat deserves a "fair" place in their top rankings of reddit alternatives despite the fact that Voat openly advocates for violence, oppression and death to almost anyone who isn't a cis straight white male.

Because, you know, not offending Nazis by restricting their advertisements for Voat on reddit is more important than diminishing the reach of posts advocating for genocide.

Edit: This was edited to redact an ableist slur which I was wrong to use. Sometimes I get lax in my everyday vernacular in ways that are clearly only acceptable to me because of distinct privileges I have, but it doesn't make it okay to use terms like I used as an insult. Another user was thankfully able to point this out to me, alongside the irony of it all, which I fully appreciate.

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Elagabalia wrote

Reply to by !deleted7213

What a specimen lol. His post history is full of "gingers are oppressed", "I blacked out and said the n word", and more similarly libertarian (racist) posts.

I love, personally, the post where he goes on to theorize that most communists online don't even follow what Marx and Lenin believed in. He definitely seems like an expert.

More goldmines include, "I thought Neo-nazis were exclusively in Germany", "I was a Trump supporter but did not believe in what the alt right did",

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Elagabalia wrote

First post, been meaning to make an account here since reading about it.

Fuck reddit and it's embrace of "free speech" obfuscations of hate speech. Garbage site with garbage mods and even more garbage admins.

Hoping raddle.me takes off further, gonna try to populate it w/ more posts after my schoolwork for the day.

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