If you reject the common definition of racism for your own,

It's not my definition, it's the standard definition as defined by countless writers, activists and academics.

Wealthy white American men don't get to decide what racism is when their group is responsible for 99.9% of it.

what do you call what other people define as racist

white fragility, most likely.

Do you think "racial discrimination" is a more accurate term for what I consider to be racism?

This definition?

My view is that it is wrong to stereotype people or treat them differently based on aspects of their person they had no control or choice in.

I'll need to see examples of this supposed racial discrimination against whites in America (where whites are the dominant group) in order to comment.

Then your understand of racism is incorrect. A minority group can't be racist towards the dominant social group. They have no power over their oppressor.

Isn't that a fundamentally racist view though?

You don't understand what racism is.

Read this:

https://www.dailydot.com/via/reverse-racism-doesnt-exist/

and this

https://www.dailydot.com/via/gwen-stefani-cultural-appropriation-harajuku-girls/

she's the classic colonizer, using people from other cultures to make bank.

"We are absolutely still going to be pressing that, but actually we're not because fuck foreigners"

And it shows once more that anarchy has always prospered on the fringes of civilization.

How does 'non-violent communication' mesh with anarchist theory like How nonviolence protects the state?

He forgot the 'white' part.