Cheeks

Reply to comment by Cheeks in Any other Marxist here? by ChadTankie

Cheeks wrote

You're deluded. Obviously a conspiracy theorist considering youre throwing around cultural Marxism as it has any bering on reality. And anyone who praises the free market is obsessed with economic theory to the point the are blinded by how it actually works in practice.

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Cheeks wrote

I will just say this, as an economist and critic of capitalism Marx is relatively coherent and on point, but he lacked major revolutionary praxis. Don't get me started on the Hague congress and Marx expelling Bukunin and his followers from the first international working mens association.

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Reply to comment by Cheeks in Friday Free Talk by Alex

Cheeks wrote

It's an ideal situation for me, usually. It really depends on you and your partner. As u/bloodrose has pointed out, intimacy is multifaceted and doesn't have to suffer. On nights that your work, hobbies, and volunteering lives allow you to spend time together, make a routine of spending the last couple of hours cuddling and talking or watching a movie. My ex used to wake up a couple hours before me a few days a week. On those days, when she would hear my alarm, she would crawl into my bed and throw her arms around me while I hit snooze for the next 10 minutes. We both got a good night's rest and I still got to wake up next to her. Just like all relationships, intimate or not, the little things go a long way. If the two of you have different sleeping patterns or sleep hygiene issues, or if either of you generally need your own space to be alone and recharge, I definitely suggest separate bedrooms.

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Reply to comment by Cheeks in Friday Free Talk by Alex

Cheeks wrote (edited )

I'm non-binary. I get what youre saying, but in this case it's not that, though I hear you regarding cis-hetero-normative. My last girlfriend, we lived alone together for 5 years with separate bedrooms. I'm not exactly typical.

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Reply to Friday Free Talk by Alex

Cheeks wrote

Being an anarchist and dating in your 40's sucks.

I dated this girl for a few months that I've known for about a decade, but haven't seen her in about 7 years. We use to do a lot of drugs together back then. She almost died last year and got clean. She came to a bar I hangout out while i was playing pool and recognized me, I always liked her so I started flirting with her. Turned out we are both clean sans the alcohol, and both always into each other. We became a couple in a couple of weeks. Then after two months it all just got weird one day. She ditched me on one of the few days we get to hangout. I honestly think she was using again and just didn't want to face me though I would have been there for her. I made it known that I wouldn't ever be second string to that kinda shit moving forward in life from the get go. But, of course, I was never accusatory and just pointed out that she needed to more effort into us hanging out because I'm not interested in just having, what equated to a sexual partner a couple a times a week.. Sucks. I really liked her. She did help me regain confidence that I've been lacking over the past 5 years. But it's been three weeks and Im now at a point where I have a healthy sexual life again. But i want a partner. I don't expect it to be for life but someone to lean on me and fore to lean on in this stupid world.

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Reply to comment by Cheeks in i don’t care about most things by Alex

Cheeks wrote

Nihilism views the world as a playgroumd. The only things that have meaning are left to the id or ego to decide. Within nihilism there is a 'caring' and or purpose though it's left to the individual to determine.

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Cheeks wrote (edited )

What do you care about?

Or more precisely what pisses you off,, what elates you. What gives you purpose or robs you of purpose?

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Cheeks wrote

I have a really poor self body image and would rather not talk about this. But I walk about 5 miles a day outside of my typical general moving about. I try to do about half an hour of lifting daily, hopefully helping people out with tasks that need extra hands for but that's about once to twice a week. So I end up curling 40 pounds per arm for about 20 minutes every morning, hungover or not, musician too so that's typical 4+mornings a week. In my new living space, essentially a multi generational punk house with 20, 30, 40 and a 60 year old, I garden a lot the hard way with the 60 year old. I need more cardio and need to start biking again. But for a 200 pound 5 foot 10inch person I think I'm doing OK by comparison. I'm just not done yet and have shit I wanna do, so that's my drive.

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Cheeks wrote

I know what you're getting at ziq but you know damn well that as anarchists, when it comes to people existing under capitalism, putting in place a platform for illegalists to offset the effects of capitalism teaching each other how to obtain food clothing etc. Without money is better praxis than just talking about it. Granted... Some of them are a pain in the ass and need to be booted from time to time, but it's also become a vehicle to introduce anarchism to a few of them. So... The problems that are part of giving them space is what should be the topic of discussion not the running them off or similar.

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Cheeks wrote

I honestly think we need to move away from activist, boycotting culture and just start taking what we need from these places. Calling for an easier life of servitude is still a life of servitude. If we look at the science, time is not on our side. Ecological and environmental collapse is a reality for younger current generations. Mutual aid and the blatant destruction of what's responsible is our only real saving grace. My proposal for these situations is defund through large scale raids and constant theft. If you work there, bleed em dry, and donate what you don't need that you have taken.

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Cheeks wrote

Just to give you an idea I'm gonna leave this link here: https://youtu.be/_eJOSRuWw00

You can do this yourself.while you are younger and not need to worry to much about comfort and people will do this with you. As we get older we want these environments to be more multi generational which presents a whole new set of challenges. A 55 year old in the south is gonna need air condition ING more so than a 24 year old per say. This is also in a relatively small college town and it lasted for over a decade and breaking housing laws the entire time. Be smart about it and you can build beautiful things.

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Cheeks wrote

Co-housing or coop housing may be more prevelant where you are? I have lived in warehouses with around 20 other people before, similar but more urban centric. Also check squats in your area if there are any, but ne weary, often there is a lot of drug culture and addiction in some of these environments.

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Cheeks wrote

Most eggplant... Can't stand the shit. I do like Japanese eggplant though. Weird eh?

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Cheeks wrote (edited )

There seems to be some infighting around the proverbial watercooler. Most of what I'm reading it's simple shit that is only relevant when we aren't being inclusive. I'm not saying that tankies need a platform here, cause they don't. I am saying that we need to be less critical of each other and more critical of those that our at war with are base values. We are highly analytical by nature but that doesn't mean we aren't allies. Let's keep our shit together and give hell to the rest. We know where we all stand and why we are here. The rest aren't necessary though we can give them a home.-edit- unless harm to us is part of thier program or a refusal to follow our agreed upon tos applies. - edit -

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