Catsforfun wrote (edited )

im nb & not trans , and i think its not ok to tell people how to express and experiment with gender & pressention. There are times when people are doing so as joke. Like, its supposed to be funny when you see a man dressed as a woman and that attitude is transphobic and upholding the patriarchy (cuz you can dress like woman but only if its a demeaning joke), but playing with gender is not inherently transphobic and in fact is in opposition to transphobia when done in opposition to the patriarchy rather than to reinforce it.