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Catsforfun wrote

I think that would depend greatly on the culture of the commune. There is nothing inherently wrong with exchanging sex for things or favors. I think it’s about social bonding as much as pleasure. It makes sense when you fit sex into your schema of sharing and social cohesiveness.

What come to mind for me is: How much cultural healing would be necessary for me to feel good about that?

With regards to what you said about ability, it’s an oppressive cultural factor that erases the sexuality of folks affected by ableism. We likely would have no need for sex workers in that context if people affected by ableism are allowed to be seen as the humans that they are. Again, cultural factors.

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Catsforfun wrote (edited )

Having people from an oppressive group hear you and make changes and prioritize your healing can be transformative with regards to integrating the trauma. Many people need external validation when processing trauma... that’s my thought on why people going through extreme emotions need to voice it and have less of a filter with regards to what’s “too personal” to say, but also because trauma literally changes how your brain works. A ceremony could have served the function of socially validating a persons emotional/psychospiritual experience in more traditional human societies not driven by capital.

I’m high and rambling but my point is that people want others to hold space for pain/anger/trauma/healing and if you can’t do that are you really an ally?

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Catsforfun wrote

Here’s what I think as a nonprofessional:

1: dissociating: i dissociate a lot. Esp in social situations due to social Anxiety. There is a cause and a trigger. There is an Origen. Listen to yourself and identify it because that will make it so much easier to work with.

2: I don’t have any experience with psychosis but I from what I k ow about mental health and from my personal experiences with mental health, is that is you start freaking out about having a weird or scary experience or state of mind you can get stuck in it because you are fixating on it.

Identify triggers.

It sounds like your word salad thing was maybe a mental health climax from the distress of dissociation. It sounds like maybe that was building up and building up until you got the word salad thing.

These experiences pass. You can move through it but you need to keep having perspective so you don’t get caught in a cycle. For me internal family systems is really good for that. Don’t get caught in fear don’t get caught in anger, let those feelings pass while you maintain compassion for all emotional and mental states no matter how frustrating or scary.

Now I’m gonna go try to take my own advice. Hope this helps.

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Catsforfun wrote

I’m white and I just never really got racism until I started learning about leftism. It was all subconscious and by learning about it I then developed the skills to be able to identify racism inside and outside myself and talk about it in an intelligent and compassionate way. I think a lot of white people mean wel but are just clueless and those are the ones I wouldn’t give up on.

It’s been a continual learning process. I recal an instance when I made a mistake by believing indentured servitude was comparable to slavery because that was literally what I was taught. Instead of working with me about it, I lost potential friends and anti oppression buddies. I ended up doing the research myself, but I still felt bad about being written off because I made a mistake. People who are willing to learn will do the work themselves if you point them in the right direction.

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Catsforfun wrote

I think porn would be good without the patriarchy. I used to be anti porn but then I realized I was actually anti patriarchy. Porn is so steeped in patriarchy that the vast majority of it is dehumanizing and objectifying and makes me feel fucked up things and I feel really sad if that’s how men really see women. I want to enjoy porn too, as a non man afab, but it is very rare that I find something that doesnt feel gross and oppressive, Ike my sexuality belongs to the men who want to use me.

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Catsforfun wrote (edited )

there is a reason why you feel this way. At this moment you may not be consciously aware of the reason, but you do know the reason. Do some journaling every day and see what comes up. Pay attention to your feelings and ask yourself where those feelings are coming from.