Catsforfun
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Reply to comment by Dazey in by Fuckthatguy1312
i don't need you to whoresplain to me. I am intimately aware of the types of people who buy sex.
john shaming is not whore shaming lol, all whores john-shame, just not usually to their face.
I am genuinely curious on how an ~anarchist~ in particular could deal with the cognitive dissonance of it... or what part of it is appealing to them? Different people have different types of motivating factors for buying sex and I'm sure some anarchists in some situations can try to justify it to themselves and so I am curious what the justification is
No ethical consumerism under capitalism :/
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Reply to comment by batmanrichard in by Fuckthatguy1312
upselling?
edit: like what? "want a finger in your ass, that'll be 50 more bucks thanks"?
why do u buy sex and how do you feel you can do that ethically?
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Reply to Seeing clients as a form of self harm by Hazey
maybe start journaling or something to continue this exploration... i think it's important to figure out why you are doing this... how does it makes you feel? what are your thoughts? what parts of you are getting satisfaction and why? what parts of yourself are you hurting and why?
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Reply to Dishwasher by plasticspoon
whats bloomer?
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Reply to the sexual work is authoritarian itself basically you're humillating the person which do it for you by acm1ptacm1ptque6H
I agree that it is hard to imagine a context where it is not exploitative but do not think it is a null possibility
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Reply to The Question Raddle has Been Dying to Know. What Aesthetic is LettuceLeafer Rocking Today by lettuceLeafer
f the male gaze tho
you'll get bored of it ~ i promise
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Reply to Why does psychiatry assume that anyone who is asocial must have some form of mental disorder or childhood trauma? by 2nbdsfrnd2
its a social construct. what is mental illness is dependent on what a society considers mental illness. if society considers, a man being effeminate/gender nonconforming/LGBTQ an illness, they put him in conversion therapy. if that is not considered an illness, then it's totally fine for him to be effeminate or LGBTQ.
if a society doesn't value solitude and considers too much of it atypical, then if their language for constructing reality dictates, they will categorize it into a mentally ill schema.
I feel like im still being very abstract but this is my final edit.
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Reply to Coming Back to /u/ziq s concept of Anarchy Being Unable to be Taught. I Think Anarchy is Taught but Only Possible to Learn if ones Personal Life Experience is One Which Craves Anti Authoritarianism and or is Conductive to Anarchist Thought. by lettuceLeafer
someone tried to teach me anarchy (i asked a lot of questions) and i didn't get to a point of self-learning until i was in a super fucked up legal situation. its not possible to understand it all at once, it's definitely a learning experience, about developing a critical lens with which to analyze society and power structures and morals
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paypal is like that. dont do transactions thru them if you are left or subversive or sw business/ nonprofit
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Reply to LettuceLeafer Housing Plan by lettuceLeafer
i want to hear a lot of updates on this. also- take me with you
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Reply to comment by lettuceLeafer in OnlyFans Is Not a Safe Platform for ‘Sex Work.’ It’s a Pimp. by existential1
as a former fssw, I think that if people need to label their experience serial rape or make such comparisons, then that is their experience and its valid af
edit- I want to add that I'm not a swerf but feel disgusted by the glamorization/normalization of sw almost much as i do by sesta/fosta
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Reply to comment by !deleted31467 in Who are the five best rappers of all time? by NoPotatoes
It's debateable that singing over trap beats is rapping re:lil peep
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Reply to comment by AnarchoDoom in Pretty sure the police put contentkeeper on my phone >:( by Catsforfun
no dont think so
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Reply to comment by nulloperation in A lovely day indeed by moonlune
To gas up ofc
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Reply to comment by metocin in by !deleted30
(((misogynistic rage fueled violence)))
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Reply to comment by GlangSnorrisson in Female Dating Strategy cured my mental illness. by FDSisthewokest
It's def geared to cis het women. Not super terfy imo
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I got banned from the sub by agreeing w the principles that men lie and it's not women's fault therefore it's unreasonable to say sex workers are responsible for making sure men tell femmes in their lives they buy sex like wtf. The podcast is ok tho
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Reply to comment by !deleted31467 in caught my friend/partner taking creepshots/vids by Catsforfun
i know how horrifying it is. I was horrified when I saw it. If I showed these people, they would be hurt and violated and horrified. I would cause pain if I came out w it
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Reply to comment by !deleted27780 in caught my friend/partner taking creepshots/vids by Catsforfun
yeah..... im building out my van so i dont have to be near anyone i dont want to ever again, because these situations just keep coming at me otherwise
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Reply to comment by !deleted31467 in caught my friend/partner taking creepshots/vids by Catsforfun
they would kill theirself. im not even kidding. i dont think they are the human that deserves that?
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Reply to comment by !deleted20335 in caught my friend/partner taking creepshots/vids by Catsforfun
hey thanks for reading, i think im gonna wait until im all good and talk to them abt it and maybe talk to the therapist about it too, if they want to rly get over it and be a good person.
I dont think cutting vulnerable ppl out will help them. That is not my first option here. I think the "hey im your friend and i want to keep being your friend but this problem is _______________" would be good. ty
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Reply to comment by no_ in caught my friend/partner taking creepshots/vids by Catsforfun
they are my friend and i care about them and they have helped me out a lot. I'm kind of reliant on them rn but I will address it wen i am more free and stable. I dont know if i shold turn it over to the victims or not, i dont talk to any of them. I don't think a sentence would help my friend. I don't know what helps sexually addictive behavior.
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Reply to by !deleted30
This is from the latter day saints website, ie mormons I believe
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Reply to CW: Should Sex Huts, minus the pedophilia, exist in Anarchist societies or would that be considered misogynistic and rape? by d4rk
sex work would not exist in societies where everyone has access to having their material needs met. If it did exist, it would not be sex work in the capitalist sense of "work" because it would not be required to to have shelter and a full belly. Every person has different standard for the situations in which they would like to consent to sex, and those variations between people would still exist. Some people only want to have sex in a closed relationship, other people like pity sex or might have no qualms exchanging sex for a fancy object.