Reply to comment by Catsforfun in (cw: discussion of homophobia, sexual predation, transmisogyny) by Dumai

Catsforfun wrote on May 22, 2019 at 3:42 PM

I dont know if gay men are doing this, I was just taking your word for it. I think this has become a weird rabbithole...

I was mostly just talking about people (men) being rude & aggro about flirting with ppl who arent interested.

Reply to comment by Catsforfun in (cw: discussion of homophobia, sexual predation, transmisogyny) by Dumai

Catsforfun wrote on May 22, 2019 at 3:14 PM (edited on May 22, 2019 at 3:15 PM)

I literally just made my point in a simple & concise sentence. I have no idea how you extracted homophobia from it. It doesn't even mention men or homosexuality. I never said the word "pathological" so stop shoving your stupid words in my mouth & stop making stupid fucking assumptions about my gender and sexuality and whether or not gay men hit on me, troll.

Reply to comment by Catsforfun in (cw: discussion of homophobia, sexual predation, transmisogyny) by Dumai

Catsforfun wrote on May 22, 2019 at 1:27 PM

i thought we were talking about sexual predation? Trying to change someone's sexuality to suit yourself is harrassing because you are way prioritizing yourself and your experience over theirs and denying their autonomy

Reply to Mixed Signals by Crusty

Catsforfun wrote on May 22, 2019 at 11:35 AM

tell her you are into her, feel torn up about mixed signals & and would appreciate it if she would be straightforward with you.

Reply to (cw: discussion of homophobia, sexual predation, transmisogyny) by Dumai

Catsforfun wrote on May 22, 2019 at 12:35 AM (edited on May 22, 2019 at 12:39 AM)

yeah i think gay men harrassing straight guys is comparable to straight guys harrassing lesbians, but without the gender power dynamic. It comes from that patriarchal entitlement to other ppls bodies and a denial of the person-being-hitted-upon's own sexual autonomy.

i mean, its fine to flirt with someone, but not taking a no very well & thinking you can change someone's sexuality is entitled and creepy

& I cant wrap my mind around the thing you said about transwomen so sorry cant answer you there