Catsforfun

Catsforfun wrote

i don't need you to whoresplain to me. I am intimately aware of the types of people who buy sex.

john shaming is not whore shaming lol, all whores john-shame, just not usually to their face.

I am genuinely curious on how an ~anarchist~ in particular could deal with the cognitive dissonance of it... or what part of it is appealing to them? Different people have different types of motivating factors for buying sex and I'm sure some anarchists in some situations can try to justify it to themselves and so I am curious what the justification is

No ethical consumerism under capitalism :/

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Catsforfun wrote

maybe start journaling or something to continue this exploration... i think it's important to figure out why you are doing this... how does it makes you feel? what are your thoughts? what parts of you are getting satisfaction and why? what parts of yourself are you hurting and why?

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Catsforfun wrote (edited )

its a social construct. what is mental illness is dependent on what a society considers mental illness. if society considers, a man being effeminate/gender nonconforming/LGBTQ an illness, they put him in conversion therapy. if that is not considered an illness, then it's totally fine for him to be effeminate or LGBTQ.

if a society doesn't value solitude and considers too much of it atypical, then if their language for constructing reality dictates, they will categorize it into a mentally ill schema.

I feel like im still being very abstract but this is my final edit.

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Catsforfun wrote (edited )

someone tried to teach me anarchy (i asked a lot of questions) and i didn't get to a point of self-learning until i was in a super fucked up legal situation. its not possible to understand it all at once, it's definitely a learning experience, about developing a critical lens with which to analyze society and power structures and morals

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Catsforfun wrote (edited )

as a former fssw, I think that if people need to label their experience serial rape or make such comparisons, then that is their experience and its valid af

edit- I want to add that I'm not a swerf but feel disgusted by the glamorization/normalization of sw almost much as i do by sesta/fosta

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Catsforfun OP wrote

hey thanks for reading, i think im gonna wait until im all good and talk to them abt it and maybe talk to the therapist about it too, if they want to rly get over it and be a good person.

I dont think cutting vulnerable ppl out will help them. That is not my first option here. I think the "hey im your friend and i want to keep being your friend but this problem is _______________" would be good. ty

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Catsforfun OP wrote

they are my friend and i care about them and they have helped me out a lot. I'm kind of reliant on them rn but I will address it wen i am more free and stable. I dont know if i shold turn it over to the victims or not, i dont talk to any of them. I don't think a sentence would help my friend. I don't know what helps sexually addictive behavior.

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