sex work would not exist in societies where everyone has access to having their material needs met. If it did exist, it would not be sex work in the capitalist sense of "work" because it would not be required to to have shelter and a full belly. Every person has different standard for the situations in which they would like to consent to sex, and those variations between people would still exist. Some people only want to have sex in a closed relationship, other people like pity sex or might have no qualms exchanging sex for a fancy object.

i don't need you to whoresplain to me. I am intimately aware of the types of people who buy sex.

john shaming is not whore shaming lol, all whores john-shame, just not usually to their face.

I am genuinely curious on how an ~anarchist~ in particular could deal with the cognitive dissonance of it... or what part of it is appealing to them? Different people have different types of motivating factors for buying sex and I'm sure some anarchists in some situations can try to justify it to themselves and so I am curious what the justification is

No ethical consumerism under capitalism :/

upselling?

edit: like what? "want a finger in your ass, that'll be 50 more bucks thanks"?

why do u buy sex and how do you feel you can do that ethically?

a judge can't force you to be on a specific anti-psychotic they can currently only force you to comply with doctors orders and you have the right to switch drs and medication if you life, ofc not if incarcerated tho

maybe start journaling or something to continue this exploration... i think it's important to figure out why you are doing this... how does it makes you feel? what are your thoughts? what parts of you are getting satisfaction and why? what parts of yourself are you hurting and why?

whats bloomer?

I agree that it is hard to imagine a context where it is not exploitative but do not think it is a null possibility

f the male gaze tho

you'll get bored of it ~ i promise

its a social construct. what is mental illness is dependent on what a society considers mental illness. if society considers, a man being effeminate/gender nonconforming/LGBTQ an illness, they put him in conversion therapy. if that is not considered an illness, then it's totally fine for him to be effeminate or LGBTQ.

if a society doesn't value solitude and considers too much of it atypical, then if their language for constructing reality dictates, they will categorize it into a mentally ill schema.

I feel like im still being very abstract but this is my final edit.

someone tried to teach me anarchy (i asked a lot of questions) and i didn't get to a point of self-learning until i was in a super fucked up legal situation. its not possible to understand it all at once, it's definitely a learning experience, about developing a critical lens with which to analyze society and power structures and morals

paypal is like that. dont do transactions thru them if you are left or subversive or sw business/ nonprofit

i want to hear a lot of updates on this. also- take me with you

as a former fssw, I think that if people need to label their experience serial rape or make such comparisons, then that is their experience and its valid af

edit- I want to add that I'm not a swerf but feel disgusted by the glamorization/normalization of sw almost much as i do by sesta/fosta

It's debateable that singing over trap beats is rapping re:lil peep

no dont think so

To gas up ofc

(((misogynistic rage fueled violence)))

It's def geared to cis het women. Not super terfy imo

I got banned from the sub by agreeing w the principles that men lie and it's not women's fault therefore it's unreasonable to say sex workers are responsible for making sure men tell femmes in their lives they buy sex like wtf. The podcast is ok tho

i know how horrifying it is. I was horrified when I saw it. If I showed these people, they would be hurt and violated and horrified. I would cause pain if I came out w it

yeah..... im building out my van so i dont have to be near anyone i dont want to ever again, because these situations just keep coming at me otherwise

they would kill theirself. im not even kidding. i dont think they are the human that deserves that?

hey thanks for reading, i think im gonna wait until im all good and talk to them abt it and maybe talk to the therapist about it too, if they want to rly get over it and be a good person.

I dont think cutting vulnerable ppl out will help them. That is not my first option here. I think the "hey im your friend and i want to keep being your friend but this problem is _______________" would be good. ty