1_ris wrote

Sorry if the response sounds a bit too "abstract", but the premise isn't anarchy. People from A have power over people from B, as they can deprive them of water.

I don't know if the premise of your question was that both communities believe in anarchy, but if they do, then A should know and understand that, since they have a geographically privileged position, they have power over B, and act accordingly.

If the premise isn't anarchy, tho, people from A are not any different than any other oppressor. So, what would you do if Nestlé stole your water source?


1_ris wrote

Probably. Italy is known because no matter who wins the elections, nothing ever changes, and no government lasts the full mandate. Things are legally outdated, socially mostly old and bigoted, and we just carry on and try our best.


1_ris wrote

Nazis feeling comfortable in the open, and popularity of fachist ideas, are indicators of changing public perceptions of these groups?

Those motherfuckers have been making commemorations openly and shamelessly since Mussolini died. It's talked about in the news once in a while but since it can't be proven that they actually want to refound the fascist party it's all legally "cool". I don't think there's anything new honestly. It'll be the same old fight for a long time.


1_ris wrote

Hey! Sorry, I don't have a lot of experience with this, so no useful support or good tips.

I just wanted to let you know that I really enjoy when your name pops up on my screen. Every time you write, be it a rant, a feature, just you talking about what's on your mind, it makes my day a little better.

I hope that you'll be able to enjoy your life as much as possible. I'm not really able to imagine how it feels, or how to overcome your struggles. I just want to let you know that we wish the best for you, and if you ever want to rant, we'll be happy to listen, and if you'll ever want company, just reach out.



1_ris wrote

Hey, I know your situation. I'm in a very similar one right now. I don't want to say that you should not care about her, that you should cut her off, or whatever. It will probably hurt regardless.

But it will be just fine. You'll have friends to share happy memories with, you'll have passions to pursue to feel good, you'll have people who look up to you and people who care about you no matter what. All the rest is just background noise. I mean, it's hard to ignore the hardships of legally and medically transition, the harassment that comes with it, the pain of people you care about not accepting you and destroying your relationship. But that's not what it's all about. That's not the point. The struggle happens, and we endure it, and we help each other. But that's not the point.

You'll live long and have many happy moments. It'll be hard, some things will take their toll, but it'll be fine, and we'll be here for it.


1_ris wrote

Why would you want to prevent the need for belonging?

For the in-group bias part, you can try to get exposed to different groups, but unless you get exposed to thousands of randomly selected opinions every day there's not much you can do I'm afraid. Just be mindful that your experience is influenced by biases, keep it in mind and try to compensate if you feel the need to.


1_ris wrote

Had a few days with my extended family. Had some good times and made people happy. Got misgendered and deadnamed by everyone, people I'm out to and people I'm not.

Realised that if I transition I'll never have good times like these for a long time, possibly ever, and if I don't... Well, that's just not an option.

A few days of mixed feelings. Felt good but also felt love that was not meant for me. Traded existing as I am for having a decent time. Either I play the part of someone content and be miserable or I be myself and be miserable but comfortable. Either I make a lot of people including myself suffer or suffer alone. It's a losing fight, and I don't really have a choice.

Jumbled mess of a comment, hope the point gets across. If anyone in a similar situation reads, much love to you all, and good luck. We'll need it.