Recent comments in /f/offmychest
lettuceLeafer wrote (edited )
I'm doing kinda ok and should be doing way better in living a far more free life without work. Allthough I still need to make money I just do it through my profitable play firm. :)
If you would like some idea or me to tell u if your plan is realistic I have a fairly decent track record and ability to give u advice.
I think for this kinda thing the best plans are made when you think outside the box anarchistically, get your needs thru mutual aid and learn from punks. I think agorism coupled with anti work is a great tool for living without work as well.
Sagefully wrote (edited )
Are you single? (Asking because then I can understand if following life choises are viable for you
Find some place where you can learn skills. Learn skills that will make you handy. Learn to live handy and maybe you can offer your services for other peoples services. Maybe you can even learn to live by yourself when shit hits the fan? Build yourself and know that you can achieve anything.
Trying to be normative when you have realized you are not will never make you happy.
kin wrote
I felt this many times before, mostly when I was in my 20's, so I will feel ya some of what worked for me. Well, if you don't find a way to channel your energy in constructing something, you will more and more hopeless. Try to break patterns in a way that will lead to more like your vision.
If you're in a complete sense of being lost, like I was many times, take a step back and start from where you last find enjoyment in your way. Little things make a difference.
Another thing, don't try to do things alone all the time. Let yourself be helped by friends and people you learn to trust in your journey. And what helps me, life is too short for bothering with stuff, if we're not having fun we're not doing it right (well I try to convince myself)
metocin wrote
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Take it as a sign you're doing something right.
halfway_prince wrote
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You're quite lovely dust :) always appreciate your contributions to the community.
fuck the trolls
mofongo admin wrote
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I'm sorry that you received messages like those. It's completely unacceptable and both accounts have been banned.
lettuceLeafer wrote
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ok I respect that and will do
lettuceLeafer wrote
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Well having a bunch of weird and confusing emotions is how a second puberty works. I've heard lots of trans people talk about this B4. You don't sound like you are regretting transition at all. It just sounds more like people talking about something they don't understand. I wish u luck in navigating your new flurry of emotions n stuff.
Bezotcovschina wrote
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Good luck. I wish some day I can wake up my confidence. Or I'm too old for this already
Fool wrote
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🎉🎉🎉
RadicalInsecurity wrote
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No, I'm still here!
MHC wrote
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Getting square eyes is indeed a sedentary occupation.
MHC wrote
As you said, cooking is a start!
MHC wrote
It's not necessary to have a partner!
Catsforfun wrote
Reply to comment by Incognito in I have been unable to naturally fall asleep for months by Incognito
also valerian tincture might help
Incognito OP wrote
Reply to comment by Catsforfun in I have been unable to naturally fall asleep for months by Incognito
I tried it as an edible and I did not feel a difference. My biology is so odd. I had a car accident and maxed out the morphine drip. I still had a lot of pain. When I was discharged I took a really low dose muscle relaxer and 30 minutes later the pain was gone.
Catsforfun OP wrote
Reply to comment by hasbrochem in I wonder if I will ever have a partner who isn't abusive. [TW: r*pe] by Catsforfun
not really. I kinda was going to a genderqueer/trans support group. I should go back.
I'm starting EMDR today (1st appt) & its supposed to be good for trauma. Currently I'm still having a hard time hugging people, maybe I will write yall an update when it starts getting better.
hasbrochem wrote (edited )
you didn't and don't deserve any of what happened. They're garbage people. None of what happened was your fault. There's nothing wrong with you. I'm glad you're here and thank you for being willing to share this with us.
Have you reached out to a support group in your area by chance?
Catsforfun wrote
have you tried smoking weed before bed? Best to smoke a strain like Romulan that is good for putting you to bed.
Pop wrote
that sounds really tough
Yesterday, I found myself falling asleep behind the wheel and almost collided with the middle wall on the highway.
I once had a small accident because of this
destroyed somebody's car
hasbrochem wrote
this really sucks and I hope you'll be okay.
have you tried marijuana? I know a couple of people with some sleep issues and they either smoke or use tabs/oil to help them sleep at night.
if you're in the usa, and you're not already doing this, maybe some of this could help alleviate some pressure? if there's something else you feel you could use to help, don't hesitate to ask and there's a bunch of us here that can try to help scrounge up resources and options for you.
https://www.payingforseniorcare.com/paid-caregiver/elderly-parents.html
https://www.caring.com/articles/payment-for-family-caregiver/
https://www.caregiving.org/resources/
I know you didn't ask and I apologize if I'm overstepping in offering this.
heckthepolice2 wrote
About a year ago I had a really bad episode of insomnia along with constant panic attacks and like, near-catatonic depression. Not sleeping at all fucking sucks, and shit my episode was only a couple weeks, I can't even imagine that for months. I really really hope you can feel better soon <3
JayGrym wrote
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This seems true to me. Get that date. This time be bolder or show more interest. Mofongo also had great advice. You might also let them know you were nervous (if that were the case). As a parting piece of advice, if it doesnt work out at least it was a new relationship and you arent as attached as you could be. Sometimes shit just doesn't work out. I'd make other comments but I don't know the full situation and they may turn out to be inappropriate lol
SnowCode OP wrote (edited )
Reply to comment by lettuceLeafer in I am lost by SnowCode
What do you mean with your last paragraph. BTW my "plan" or "dream" would be to never pay rent, and try to live in a tinyhouse or something like that and trying to do as much things as I can myself while trying to live as minimally as possible (I already spend near to nothing for myself) the rest of the time I would like to write tutorials, build opensource software and hardware and stuff like that.
That way I could have fun most of the time and make be better with less money (or so I think )