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Catsforfun wrote

if thats enough for her to be put off from you, then maybe she wasnt that into you in the first place & good riddance?

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BrowseDuringClass1917 OP wrote

I think that the mayo joke wasnt it, it really wasnt that bad. I think i just fucked up the date by not being interested enough romantically

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mofongo wrote

Is it mad "You didn't take be seriously when I was taking to you" or mad "I think I want to break up with you"?

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BrowseDuringClass1917 OP wrote

Neither, it’s just that she’s probably weirded out. Compounded with the fact that I didn’t show a phenomenally large amount of romantic interest on our last date.

I think she just wants some space or something idk. Only issue is if I give her too much space she might just lose interest since it’s a new relationship. I’ll probably just ask her oit to another date on monday or something I have no idea wtf to do

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mofongo wrote

Neither, it’s just that she’s probably weirded out.

When you get to talk to her, bring it up as an opportunity to know another part of you. Keep it in the frame of your thoughts and your beliefs, if she doesn't understand or says something insulting, acknowledge it and continue. Avoid trying to correct her or expand too much, because you'll come up as a know it all. The talk is so you can see the world from each other's perspective.

Compounded with the fact that I didn’t show a phenomenally large amount of romantic interest on our last date.

It happens, one can't be lovey dovey all the time. As time goes on, you'll notice both become less romantic but feel comfortable being silly around the other. It's not that romanticism goes away, it just becomes very personal, kinda like an in-joke.

I think she just wants some space or something idk. Only issue is if I give her too much space she might just lose interest since it’s a new relationship.

Ask her. Specially before asking her on a date.


And sorry if i sound too autorative on relationships, I've only had a single partner in my whole life, but is we've been together for 9 years.

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BrowseDuringClass1917 OP wrote

That’s such a weird thing to ask about, and all my friends are telling me I’m overthinking it and she doesn’t care about that snap. But I don’t know, I just don’t know.

She’s even posting on her snapchat story and not responding to me, this started yesterday and before the mayo joke. I think I just really dissapointed her with our date idk. Im just overthinking everything and I feel like my brain is unraveling

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mofongo wrote

Then yes, give it her a bit of space. At most, tell her that you will give her space and to contact you when she wants. Then busy yourself with other things, give YOURSELF space. You're only tormenting yourself thinking so much about it.

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BrowseDuringClass1917 OP wrote

My friend said I should just ask her out to another date and actually be romantic this time. I feel like space could result in the relationship just kinda ending slowly

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JayGrym wrote

This seems true to me. Get that date. This time be bolder or show more interest. Mofongo also had great advice. You might also let them know you were nervous (if that were the case). As a parting piece of advice, if it doesnt work out at least it was a new relationship and you arent as attached as you could be. Sometimes shit just doesn't work out. I'd make other comments but I don't know the full situation and they may turn out to be inappropriate lol

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