Submitted by SnowCode in offmychest

This is hard. I think I am starting to realize one big problem that could be the cause of other problems I talked about on here.

I don't think absolute universal morality exists. Yet I was educated with christian morals, "stealing bad", "violence is bad", "love god", etc.

I still find hard to break from morality myself and start to think with my own ethics, I don't feel "justified" in doing so, I feel like I'm a monster and yet I know this reasoning is completely flawed and dumb.

When I was a kind my biggest fear was to be a psychopath, a sociopath or a bad, immoral person. And it seems this fear don't want to disappear.

This is one of the reason I almost never open up about myself, even to friends, because I don't know how they will react and all.

I feel like I have a duty to care completely about what everybody else says. Even if it's just a complete random on the internet, because I thought the only way to be a moral person was to never hurt anyone no matter what, and accepting everyone's beliefs.

Did you ever experienced something like that? How do/did you deal with it?

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lettuceLeafer wrote

When I was a kind my biggest fear was to be a psychopath, a sociopath or a bad, immoral person. And it seems this fear don't want to disappear.

I would be far more afraid that u r not a psychopath. Being a psychopath is incredibly based. I'm half joking

For me personally my grappling started bc I was acting extremely imorally. So when I dropped morality I felt way better. Tbh most of these things just argue with yourself and over time u'll convince urself. Just tell ur self why u shouldn't care about what others think and why u don't like morality. If u allways challenge ur gut feelings they minimiz and minimize untill they to away.

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tuesday wrote

As for your low confidence, I'm sorry if this is too patronising, but the truth is you'll grow out of it eventually.

Legit the older I get the less I actually care what other people think of what I'm doing when it's actually fully inconsequential to anyone who isn't me. I'm far less capable of being embarrassed about being myself and being authentic than I was when I was younger.

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fortmis wrote

it became just too tiring

boredom is a similarly effective motivator. sometimes all the tactics in the world won't pull me out of a shit time and then one day i'll wake up and just be like fuck this i'm so bored of having the same bad thoughts all the time ... and something shifts

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fortmis wrote

once you can give yourself permission to be the architect of your own ethic code, it can feel really good to build your own morals... but it also feels good to figure it out with other people. and those kinds of conversations make a good alternative to just blindly "caring completely about what everybody else says." it's easy to get caught up in that until you actually start talking to people about what they think of the world... and you realize it's all pretty bloody chaotic.... and everyone gets hurt and everyone does some hurting.

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