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Styx wrote (edited )

When I was a kid my biggest fear was to be a psychopath, a sociopath or a bad, immoral person

Well, rest assured that no psychopath, sociopath or bad, immoral person ever suspected that they may be a psychopath, sociopath or bad, immoral person.

It's okay to have your own reasons ('ethics', if you want to call it that) for doing or not doing things. The rejection of morality doesn't mean you have to kill babies and drink their blood to prove how very anarchist you are. It's more about a recognition that those who do so-called 'immoral' acts might have very valid reasons to do so. This is perhaps putting it too plainly, but the point is not to judge, dismiss and dehumanise others. It's more about minding your own business, if that makes sense.

As for your low confidence, I'm sorry if this is too patronising, but the truth is you'll grow out of it eventually. Most of us, certainly I, went through a similar stage and snapped out of it when it became just too tiring to constantly care about what others think. And the sad truth is that pretty much nobody really cares that much. Life kind of is like an internet forum. One day we are all fervently accusing each other of being libs and two days later we forget about it and move on (or at least, most of us do).

I'll just say, sit with your feelings. Whenever those doubts come to you and make you feel really bad, just sit with them and let them take over you. Allow yourself to cry, to be sad and doubtful. The instinct says to deny them the power, but weirdly enough, allowing those feelings to do their thing makes these moments go away faster than when you are resisting them, at least in my experience.

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fortifiedmischief wrote

it became just too tiring

boredom is a similarly effective motivator. sometimes all the tactics in the world won't pull me out of a shit time and then one day i'll wake up and just be like fuck this i'm so bored of having the same bad thoughts all the time ... and something shifts

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tuesday wrote

As for your low confidence, I'm sorry if this is too patronising, but the truth is you'll grow out of it eventually.

Legit the older I get the less I actually care what other people think of what I'm doing when it's actually fully inconsequential to anyone who isn't me. I'm far less capable of being embarrassed about being myself and being authentic than I was when I was younger.

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Bezotcovschina wrote

As for your low confidence, I'm sorry if this is too patronising, but the truth is you'll grow out of it eventually.

HOW LONG WILL IT TAKE?

just kidding... unless?

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lettuceLeafer wrote (edited )

Tbh, I think age helps a bit but there are a ton of insecure adults. I think it takes more than just getting older for a lot of people.

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Styx wrote

just kidding... unless?

yeaaaah, let's just continue kidding around...

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