Yeah I totally agree with all that, I thought it wasn't the place to make the argument. A flippant response to a legit fear women have at the moment isn't the time for that more complicated meta discussion.

Yup. And then afterwards when people get upset about it, instead of trying to understand their perspective, they try to lecture people:

those of you who saw an anti-woman position in what I said need to work on your decolonial theory as well as do more thinking about how you relate to rights as given by authorities

Really condescending response that shows they don't really understand the complaint at all. No one is defending the judge, or the institution of the supreme court like they keep insisting, the women I spoke to are just taking issue with the way Tequila used the judge's death to attack "white liberal feminists" (but really all American women in states where abortion clinics still exist) for being scared of losing their reproductive autonomy.