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An_Old_Big_Tree wrote

There isn't anything wrong with being straight, but as you know in this world straightness comes with the oppressive structure of heteronormativity, which all straight people are complicit in. Boringness and blandness with respect to many important elements of human life are a part of heteronormativity. That on its own is reason why its acceptable to take the piss.

Then, the fact that this outburst came in defense of oppressive position in a context that was clearly about structural oppression, makes it a clear #NotAllStraights / #AllSexualitiesMatter situation to me. It's besides the point and inappropriate in the context.

You've gone out of your way to express your queer cred in several of the comments you've made around this - which insistently ignores that queer people can be queerphobic. This kind of insistent defense rings like the racists who say "but I've been married for ten years married a black person, I have black children; I couldn't be racist," etc.

Alright, I'm just repeating myself at this stage. The bans are long undone and I don't have more energy for this. I didn't think what you'd said was as bad as dellitsni's. Especially since I seem mostly alone in my assessment there's nothing more to be done.

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____deleted____ wrote

You've gone out of your way to express your queer cred

Because in replies to my own comment I saw statements that I wouldn't understand what queer people go through, which pissed me off to see in my inbox.

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dele_ted OP wrote

I didn't think what you'd said was as bad as dellitsni's

Bel and i are saying the exact same thing, except my outburst was pretty insensitive and not very well thought through to begin with. I've apologised and explained what i meant with my original comment so many times that I don't want to do it again. If you cannot accept that apology and want to label me as something that i in no way am, then there's not much left i can do.

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