Thought this isn't the first case. The comment bloodrose deleted was basically telling asterisms that his abusive wife was valid and had good reasons to not let him have friends with women. Though she has made a serious of comments that we let slide. And yeah, this is a community project. If people can go around defending abuse and no one speaks up its on everyone for not keeping raddle a safe space to talk about abuse.
Because like I told bloodrose, plenty of people just watch and don't interact and I know there is at least one and probably more who watched it all go down and see that raddle doesn't give a fuck and won't speak up. So we need to make it up and show some guarantee that in the future people talking about abuse won't be invalidated.
And bloodrose is a well liked and important person on raddle. Its important people spend some emotional energy with her so she cant work through it and think of how to respond. I can't do both. And also I'm not the dictator so people who use raddle should speak up and talk about if they think I"m being fair or out of line. And what will make it right.
If you want to have big talk about consensus you need to actually engage. If you just let me do everything you are nothing more than sheep who follow whatever figurehead is most convincing. And it seems to me no one would have said anything if I didn't.
Edit: if you are genuinely swamped or spend lots of energy in the past you are fine sitting this one out. Yes ziq its cool for you not to take the brunt of the emotional labor for once. Its your site but mediation isn't your sole responsibility and you have spent lots of time in the past.
I'm gonna go sleep lol