Submitted by An_Old_Big_Tree in lobby
You've been around here for a long time. I've gotten to know you, I've learned things with you, I was present in some important ways for some big changes in your life. That means something to me.
I've tried to take responsibility for you as a person that I care about. I've talked with you privately and in the meta chat on a couple occasions in relation to this.
Often, people who you've been antagonistic with have been completely terrible human beings, like Titan. Sometimes they're closer to being just people moving through life like the rest of us.
When I've talked with you, I've really tried to be sensitive to all the relevant things, to try to ask you not to abuse the site. I've explained how your actions affect everyone's experience, and you've acknowledged. There's no-one on this site who we've given so much room to fuck up, to lash out, to do what you need - hoping that you'd give a shit about us and do something about it because I asked.
I don't know why you still do it or if you can stop, but we need you to stop. Aside from so much flooding of the site, harrassing people, and making the site about you, you've also ban evaded and said some ableist things.
I don't have it in me to write a better message than this to you right now. This takes a lot outta me. I'd really like it to convey that I'm genuinely trying here.
This is all to say, I'm doing my best, and this is the last time I'll ask you to stop. I don't want us to have to ban every user we recognise to be you on site, I think that sucks. I'd like it if you could take a break from the site, and come back when you're ready to be a person who only contributes to the space in a way that makes the space better.
ziq wrote
I agree with everything Tequila said and want to add my own thoughts.
It's super uncomfortable always being put in the position of having to tell off a friend for abusing the site, but you keep putting us there, to the point where it feels like you're holding the whole site hostage.
Some days the entire site is nothing but you attacking everyone in all the top posts, forcing us to spend ages reading through it all to trim away the off topic stuff. When there are no trolls for you to fight, you start targeting the regulars like lori and celebratedrecluse. The attacks have gotten so indiscriminate that you go off on anyone and everyone at the drop of the hat.
We're always getting complaints and are expected to do something about your behavior, but it's like walking on eggshells trying to talk to you. Every time I reluctantly put on my admin hat to try and sort through the shit, you lash out at me and then delete your accounts minutes later. Then you come back with 5 new accounts and it starts all over again.