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hermit_dragon wrote

I'm really sad about everything, always - but my catte is here trying to cuddle me

I wish more people in more places understood why a lot of us need 'safer' places, and would be more willing to consider how words shape thoughts, ideas, and culture

The first time I ever felt supported and accepted as a person who experienced lifelong repeated trauma, was the first time I saw a Trigger Warning on a post online. I was nearly 30. People had to explain to me what it meant. When I understood, I cried. Just started sobbing.

"you mean, people actually care about helping me navigate the world more safely for me, and are going out of their way, of their own free will, to do that?"

I could hardly believe it. My experience of the world was always of being told to get over it, toughen up, 'take a joke' - to handle all the trauma all alone, to never show I was effected, to always perform 'normal' so no-one else had to know. To silently leave when something caused flashbacks, dizziness, and collapse. To not ask for 'favors' because of my vulnerability. To negotiate daily hazards without any consideration that I could negotiate them better with some warning signs about what's up ahead.

It was transformative. I felt like people cared about people like me, for once. Same with communities starting to care about the language they use and avoid bigotry and the perpetuation of violent cultures (rape culture, etc). I had lived 30 years un-cared about and invisible, and suddenly I was seen, and mattered.

Idk. I feel so sad about things all the time. But there is a cat here to hug me, and there are people trying to make spaces safer for people like me, and that's important. It's hard and contentious and there's pushback everywhere - but hope it doesn't stop.

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rot wrote

I started reading the ego and it's own but I'm not sure if I get it? His use of the word spirit is confusing to me as it switches between a religious meaning and spirit as in the principal

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mofongo wrote

My last client of the day was a 65 year old woman that had a picture of her in a furry convention as her profile photo.

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heckthepolice2 wrote

UGH I really like this girl like a lot and idk I kinda think maybe she likes me too but also maybe she probably doesn't and I 'm terrible at judging that and she's moving to the opposite side of the country in a few months and I should probably ask her out but I'm definitely not going to in time cause I'm terrified and fuck it just seems like so much work and god she's so cute and she probably hates me fuck

Having feelings for someone sucks ass and not in the good way

Sorry for the emo rant I just needed to vent I guess

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BrowseDuringClass1917 wrote

Ask. Her. Out.

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existential1 wrote

This. And you'll honestly regret it more if you don't than if you do. If you're terrified of having some grand gesture, then don't. Presumably this person knows you. So have a conversation. You can only have so many pretenses in a conversation about asking her out before she'll take over and answer without you asking. Or, you can be honest. If your relationship is positive and open, this might be the only thing you aren't honest about. Which when you think about it is kind of peculiar, why hide your biggest "secret" when she probably already knows and is just as scared as you. You could both be keeping yourselves from enjoying each other more fully.

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heckthepolice2 wrote

I hate that this is genuinely really good advice and now I have no excuse for continuing to do nothing why do you have to be so helpful

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Basil wrote

So far, today is shaping up to be a pretty good day. So I'm looking forward to that, but tomorrow I have to go visit relatives and I really am not looking forward to that.

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An_Old_Big_Tree wrote

Wasn't around for free talk this week! Just came here to say that I am craving pizza and there's such a nice pizza place nearby but it is expensive.

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