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Tequila_Wolf wrote

Hopefully going to start drinking less from today!

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existential1 wrote

I was wondering about other raddlers who purposefully abstain from alcohol.

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edmund_the_destroyer wrote

I get angry after the second drink. Not angry at the world, not angry at my friends, not angry at the server. Just angry that I can't think straight and I have to concentrate to walk.

So one drink every month or so is plenty.

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ziq wrote (edited )

I haven't drunk alcohol for like 18 years.

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n_n wrote

I have a love/hate relationship with alcohol. >_>

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betterletter wrote (edited )

I abstain from all alcohol and drugs besides medication and medicine... and i drink tea but not coffee

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selver wrote (edited )

I've got to do the same, start getting back in shape. Winter makes me so lazy.

Unlimited free alcohol doesn't help.

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Fossidarity wrote (edited )

Does tequila also happen to be your (previously from now) favorite drink or does that have another reason?

Also good luck with that!

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Tequila_Wolf wrote

I drink whisky if I can help it, don't actually like tequila. I also like white whine and the occasional beer.

My username comes from the link mofongo posted. It's just what popped into my head when I signed up.

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ziq wrote

Anyone else sick of ("expat") liberals whining that there aren't enough cops on the streets and they don't "feel safe" because they don't see cops everywhere they go like in their shitty policestate homeland? And then complaining about kids riding bikes and "loiterers" whatever the fuck that means?

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

My last boss was a manbunned tai-chi practicioner with the most grating fucking surfer dude voice who constantly talked about how much he wanted to move to Belize because his straight hipster ass didn't feel 'safe' in his two story, 5 bedroom bed and breakfast home with a fireplace in the middle of an isolated fucking mountain town that he in all likelihood inherited. Like sure, make yourself someone else's problem like you made yourself mine when you stole the entire tip jar and tried to get out of paying me by threatening to out me to people who knew me on the trail and didn't fucking care. /salt

Advice to other trans girls, while I'm at it; no matter how scary a big burly contractor or a junkyard worker looks, he's safer for you than the soft looking guy with stupid hair and appropriated chinese mysticism. Don't trust men just because they don't look traditionally masculine.

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Freux wrote

Is there a difference between a bun and a manbun?

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

Where it's tied and the size/fluffiness/bounciness of it. Manbuns are scraggly, tighter than regular buns, tend to have a lot of flyaways and they're usually either right at the base of the neck or else nearly but not quite a topknot.

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Freux wrote

So a messy bun? Is that an american thing to call that a manbun?

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

Search images of it, you'll be able to tell the difference. Messy bun here usually means a loose one. The distinction is less of an americanism and more like, men finally realized buns are a fairly comfortable, attractive and convenient way to wear longer hair, but lest they be perceived as possibly not het for having a 'girly' hairstyle, they took all the comfort, aesthetic appeal and convenience out of actually having a bun.

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Freux wrote

Do you still use "manbun" when a woman make a bun without caring of the messiness?

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

If she were wearing the specific style, I would, but again, the criteria isn't the messiness. It's a particular style of bun that straight dudes specifically wear that's overly tight, too short, poorly ordered and usually worn either at the base of the neck or nearly the crown of the head. What am I failing to convey here?

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Freux wrote (edited )

I've only heard of "manbun" online and assumed it was men that were too afraid to call it a bun. As long as you make a ball shape it's a bun (I might be alone to think so). I'm more annoyed at the small knot trying to pass as a bun lol.

Also I don't like gendering things, like purse and manpurse, it's ridiculous.

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

Yeah, that's more what I'm trying to describe. Straight dudes specifically call it a manbun because the idea of just having a bun threatens their masculinity, and then they half-ass it because putting effort in to appearance to them reads as effeminacy.

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Fossidarity wrote

What are some signals of masculine behavior that are not super obvious (like taking in a lot of physical space)?

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

I'm saying masculinity isn't itself bad or an indicator someone will do you harm. I've had really good professional relationships and personal friendships with super manly big buff dudes who work physical labor and all that shit. Men who respected me, defended me to other men without feeling ashamed or threatened, and were careful to navigate my boundaries. My big-ass post that got reposted a while back was kind of about that. Men are not inherently bad, and neither is manliness.

What is bad are the behaviors that men exhibit as a privileged class, so I'm very suspicious of the kind of 'softboy' who presents himself as sensitive and caring and distinctly unmanly (in a hypermasculinized western sense) or as a feminist as a way to position himself closer to women and queer folk to do violence upon them. The short-haired man who slams back stouts and goes to the gym every day but is sure to respect the women in his life is not my enemy, the skinny nothing with a man-bun who says he is my friend and believes in The Cause but talks over me and beats his wife when he gets home from the swap meet is.

Male privilege is wielding that you will always be believed above others, that your opinions will be taken more seriously than others, that women and non-men are conditioned to be subservient to you and face consequences if they're defiant from society if not you directly, and the nuclear option that if you're caught red-fucking-handed, you can still say she's a lying whore and worm your way out of the bind and at fucking most people will shittalk you for a few months before they forget. It has nothing to do with your presentation or your embodiment and everything to do with the way you use your power over others.

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Fossidarity wrote (edited )

That's the intention of my question: what are some red flags of someone using their male privilege? Are there things that men do consciously or not that are not entirely obvious at first but that you can pay attention to when you know of it?

With men taking in physical space I also meant men positioning themselves in the area beyond what you feel comfortable with without caring about that.

Thanks for the eloquent answer!

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bloodrose wrote

I've been thinking about this for days. I've had experiences with a person who later turned abusive. I was recently staying with my husband's friend who was a very similar person to the abuser and was having intense anxiety about this person and was so happy when it was time to go.

I think the simplest, easiest way to tell a man is dangerous is whether or not he tells you what to do. My husband never ever ever tells me what to do. My husband's friend can't listen to a person say one thing about themselves without interrupting them to tell them what to do.

example: I said I always fall asleep reading and before I could finish my statement, he talked over me and started going on about flu.x and telling me how I had to use it

A non-aggressive way to suggest the program would be to finish listening and then ask "hey, have you tried using flu.x?" The person who is more likely to abuse would instead do what that friend did: interrupt, not listen and tell me what to do.

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alex_ wrote

this is like half my neighborhood (though not expats). in the US they love nextdoor and owning doorbells with cameras. DIY surveillance state

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ConquestOfToast wrote

Went on a date last night that ended with me making plans for a threesome tonight. Got another date tonight. And tomorrow, and the next day. Gotta go all out before school starts. Otherwise things are the same. Ulcer seems to be doing better.

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alex_ wrote (edited )

why are there so many tankies on instagram/online in general? shit sucks. unrelated, i really don’t feel like doing anything lately, not depressed right now though at least, just lazy. hope everyone had a good week.

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ziq wrote (edited )

Because the people of the world have been fucked up by authoritarian civilization and the state-dependence culture it creates where they're unable to trust in themselves and their tribe (and frequently are so isolated they don't have a tribe) and instead think they need an authoritarian organization to put food in their mouths and assign them selfworth / "security".

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Tequila_Wolf wrote

I'm not sure if it's because I don't bother to notice them or not, but I don't notice much by way of tankies online. I don't have instagram though.

Maybe it's not lazy, just burnout? I'm projecting.

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existential1 wrote

I also don't use social media outside of raddle and r/nba. I tried mastadon for a bit but got bored with it. I just think my quality of life went up when my social media use went down. It sucks to have cuttoff perceived ties to former grad school friends and stuff (had facebook groups) but honestly, I still have their phone numbers and we still visit a few times a year. Not a whole lot of downside from cutting the stuff way out.

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

L and I are doing better. Going on a date just the two of us tomorrow, I'm a lot more excited than I've been letting on. F's really nice, but I can never tell if she's nice to me to get closer to L or if she's genuinely into me the same way she's into L. She's calling me by name more often and L says that's a good sign.

Gonna go camping with my big sisters to see the eclipse, I'm really excited for that too but I have to replace so much broken/lost gear. I haven't even gotten a chance to sew up my backpack yet.

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betterletter wrote

hey guys. new account here. I'll probably be around f/antiwork and f/vegan most, looking into making my own sxe forum for anyone interested as well

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ziq wrote

Hey ThreadBot how are you?

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Fossidarity wrote

Does humanity actually suck or is all the shit that people do to each other just the result of the horrible situation we've been put in/put other people in? 🤔

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ziq wrote

we've been programmed to be in permanent survival mode for generations. it would take almost unimaginable effort to undo all the damage to our collective psyches.

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bloodrose wrote

I went to an ENT today after years of my boss complaining that my loud nose blowing was clearly a sign of a need for sinus surgery. I have finally learned that sinus congestion != mucus and the loudness was me trying to get something out when there was nothing there. But I went to the ENT to get her off my back. I got a nasal endoscopy. It was invasive and horrible. Your body knows when shit is in it that doesn't belong there. I am feeling very very traumatized. I'm also still in pain. The end result is that I have narrow breathing passages. Apparently, narrow breathing passages means that the endoscopy feels worse for me than other people. Couple that with my low pain threshold. Every time the ibuprofen wears off, I can feel the pain in my sinuses and my teeth. And it freaks me out. So I cry and freak out and cry. This sucks.

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alex_ wrote

sounds awful, i’m sorry

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bloodrose wrote

Thanks, alex. I'm sure as shit not doing surgery after a simple endoscopy hurt me this much. haha

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alex_ wrote

yeah and they’d put you under for surgery too, which if you’re like me can give you bad reactions. i’ve been to ENTs on and off my whole life with mixed results so i know what it’s like. hope your boss eases up

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bloodrose wrote

I've heard a lot of times sinus surgery or septum surgery wind up needing to be repeated.

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ziq wrote

I got surgery for a severely deviated septum and even though it's a lot better, the nostril has gradually become blocked again after 10 years. I also get nosebleeds all the time for some reason lately, idk what's up with that.

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BrowseDuringClass1917 wrote

Bombed another math test yeet, im failing the class haha. On a brighter note, I'm in my last day of In-School Suspension now and I can feel the freedom coming.

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edmund_the_destroyer wrote

Sorry you're having problems with math. I love math, but most educational material for it sucks.

And a lot of bright people freeze up when the pressure of tests is on. One of my brothers took his SATs in his 20s just to see what would happen, and his score was 400 points higher than when he was in high school. The only change was that nobody is going to look at or care about the SAT score you get when you're 27. ...but that doesn't mean I have any useful advice for how to take the pressure off yourself, if that's some part of what's hurting your performance.

The only other tip I have, which you may also have tried already, is looking for Youtube or Khan Academy videos on the topics that are causing trouble and see if any of them are better at helping you understand the stuff.

Good luck. You can use the internet and articulate yourself clearly here, I'm sure you're smart enough to understand the math.

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BrowseDuringClass1917 wrote

I feel ya dawg, I could probably do the math, but frankly I just don't have the motivation. I'm a senior and I've already been accepted into my top university pick, not to mention I'll have to take calc again anyways considering Im not in AP or anything.

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edmund_the_destroyer wrote

Oh then that's different. As long as it won't stop you from getting your diploma then I wouldn't worry about it. Cool.

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Witchman05 wrote

Do you guys think that ThreadBot gets notifications when it gets replies?

Hmm....

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ziq wrote (edited )

They should program it to respond with random sentences whenever we say 'threadbot'. Then I could just talk to threadbot all day.

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selver wrote

Why the fuck did I have to be born this far north. Winter is so depressing.

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Freux wrote

Take your vitamin D! I hate the greyness but snow is cosy and I enjoy wearing layers of clothing going out. I hope you get to live somewhere that bring you joy.

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selver wrote (edited )

I will try that!

edit: Or not.

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Freux wrote (edited )

I meant synthetic vitamins not the traitor of a sun.

Edit: should have read more than the title before talking.

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selver wrote

Yeah, the article says the science behind vitamin d is sketchy.

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Freux wrote (edited )

That's what I'm reading, should have kept my mouth shut until then.

I did took some vitamin D recommended from a doctor because I was extremely deficient and it affected me. Felt far better after that so I started to buy cheap ones. It might not help in overall health but I think it still helps mentally?

If you live in a place with barely any sunlight then vitamin D are better than nothing but once it's summer go get that sun!

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selver wrote (edited )

Yeah it might still help for mental health stuff, I'll try it.

And if not, placebos are proven to work anyway lol

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rot wrote

I need to get my sister a history book. She saw a picture of lenin the other day and didn't know who it was.

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betterletter wrote

Lenin's not too memorable, hes no Young Stalin

(not saying stalin was good at all but damn... have you seen young stalin??)

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selver wrote

This prompted me to try to find the hottest historical anarchist. Think I have to go with Malatesta.

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betterletter wrote

It's Malatesta, no question

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selver wrote (edited )

Severino Di Giovanni & América Scarfó were quite the anarchist couple too.

Anyone who hasn't read his wiki page before, check it out. What a wild life.

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rot wrote

young stalin was pretty hot yeah but he had bad acne scars that just weren't visible in those grainy black and white photos.

lenin was obviously jealous of trotsky's good looks

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yaaqov wrote

I have to make some art for my mom for her birthday. She's been asking for art for a long time but I just haven't been able to get myself to sit down and draw for years. But I promised her I would.

I have no idea what to actually make. I don't want to just give her a pencil sketch, but I don't even own other media right now..

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Professor_Rowan wrote

Is there a forum for trash digging? I want to learn the timing, anything I should know, etc. and while I can check the reddit I want somewhere to ask questions if need be.