So I've been an anarchist for a while now, been a leftist for most of my life, but a lot of times I can't tell where anarchists stand on gender. I would consider myself a gender abolitionist, but I know that some anarchists find that to have a TERF connotation. But without gender, couldnt we all just do and dress and fuck (or not fuck, for the asexuals out there) whoever we want?
A couple months before I discovered anarchism, I went through a period of very heavily questioning my gender identity, questioning if I was queer/nonbinary or even trans. I was trying on makeup, wearing leggings, painting my nails etc. It was honestly a painful time but one day it just stopped.
I've also had questions about my sexuality (I'm like 99% sure I'm biromantic but I have a longterm girlfriend so it doesn't really matter) and I had a huge crush on a guy-friend when I was younger.
Anyway, do you guys think we should just do away with gender? Or is it better to keep gender as a spectrum? Gender is just one of those anarchist concepts that I don't quite get yet... I havent done enough reading the way I have on the basic economic/social concepts. Hoping you guys can help me out.
btw I'd prefer not to talk that much more about my questioning phase. The only person I've talked to about it is my girlfriend, who later told me she probably wouldnt stay with me unless I was a cis man... which I guess I am, but it still broke my heart a little bit. She is still wonderful and my best friend, but shes totally straight so i get her preferences. My parents could definitely tell what was going on too, but they're both center-right Christians and not very accepting of LGBTQ folks. There are just some aspects of my life that make me feel very alone.
okay thats it thanks all
An_Old_Big_Tree wrote
I'm trans af and abolitionist.
If you're anarchist and want to think more on these lines you can read baedan. It's a good starting point towards smashing these things.
It's also a very pretty book if you have the option to buy it.