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Sunset_Peach wrote

So I live in a rural area where I'm surrounded by righties and there isn't much I can do. I got depressed about this and my SO told me all I can do is try to make myself better and the lives of those directly around me better.

I'm trying to get rid of my mom's fashy boyfriend. It's literally the closest thing I can do to fighting fascism out here. He's so obviously abusive, even my mom knows it and doesn't like him, yet she's still planning to marry him because "well, in your second marriage you just kind of settle...." and "well, i don't wanna be alone..."

This is crushing me because I felt like this was the only feasible contribution I could make, the only praxis accessible to me, but I can't even do that. I just feel like a failure. All I wanted was a peaceful home with just my loving family but every day I hear this guy bitching and whining about every little thing, disrespecting my mom and polluting the air with his Trump-supporting bullshit.

Just wanted to vent... and if there's anything else one can do out in a rural/red place please let me know because it's driving me nuts.

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rot wrote

Try to shut him down when he starts that bullshit. Convince your mom to drop him.

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Sunset_Peach wrote

Sometimes I try to say something but I can't push too hard or it'll just make my home an even more hostile place. And I've tried convincing my mom repeatedly, she just keeps giving me vague words about not wanting to be alone and settling. I'm just sitting here hoping he blows up again and does something horrible so she'll finally get rid of him (how fucked up is that, i have to wish for him to do something abusive....)

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rot wrote

If he cheats on her or argues with you enough do you think she'll kick him out? Is there a way for you to leave entirely?

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Sunset_Peach wrote

If he does something sufficiently bad, I think she will (example: he once punched a puppy. mom went nuclear on him). It's funny because I came here to my mom's place because of the same exact situation at my dad's. He married an abuser and she became my step-mom. Now an abuser will become my step-dad if my mom marries him. If this happens, I would have nowhere to go for at least some time.

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