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Xylanthius wrote

She has a need that is not being fulfilled in these moments, and whatever said the stimulus is making her feel uncomfortable feelings that resonate whatever needs that are not being met.

We have nine basic needs, and all of the needs fall into these categories:

love, empathy, rest/recreation, community, creativity, autonomy, and purpose.

one or more of these basic needs are being threatened.

when we feel like our needs are not being met we often respond in ways that other people can interpret as disrespectful.

The adults don't really know any better. They don't know how to be empathetic. we live in a society that is structured in a way where accounting seems like a more meaningful skill than empathy.

empathy is a skill you practice though. it's worth practicing.

especially when you consider that robots can do accounting now. they can't really do empathy.

feelings and needs are superpowers. when we start connecting on the levels of our feelings and needs solutions find us.

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Xylanthius wrote

In the same speaking, your anger towards her is a sign that you are disconnected from your needs.

Anger is a guide that shows us our needs are not being met.

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