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Tequila_Wolf wrote

Hello, here are four unrelated facts about me:

I like tomatoes. I don't get enough exercise. At least once a day I think "fuck being alive". I'm poly.

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noordinaryspider wrote

We have three out of four in common. I'm interested in how it might work to date someone who was poly but I guess I have to own up to the fact that I'm a serial monogamist in fact but not in theory of idealistic utopia.

I would have enjoyed coparenting at least some of my children with their biological fathers if that had been in at least those particular children's best interest and not detrimental to the best interests of my other children.

That makes me a heterosexual cisgendered female, although my preferred pronouns are they/them/their and I am not overly interested in celebrity culture, fashion, makeup, etc.

I'm nonbinary but not aromantic. I just don't like sex is all.

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2145 wrote

I'm nonbinary but not aromantic. I just don't like sex is all

Did you mean s/nonbinary/asexual?

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noordinaryspider wrote

I'm not sure, that's the problem.

I know I'm not poly but I have a crush on someone who told me they are and I'm curious whether it could actually work out in real fake internet crush relationship time.

I have girl crushes all the time and never stress out about whether it "works out" to have someone think your work is cool and your face is cute and deliberately read your posts on tech forums but that's a girl thing and has nothing to do with admitting that you still kinda want a boyfriend:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t2akK4tYSwY

https://www.elle.com/culture/music/a20150161/liz-phair-fuck-and-run-exile-in-guyville/

Does loving Liz Phair's lyrics and fantasizing about performing "Flower" in public count as "sex positive" or am I just weird and disgusting?

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2145 wrote

I meant like specifically in that line, did you mean to write "I'm asexual but not aromantic"?

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noordinaryspider wrote (edited )

Yea, specifically that is what I meant to type, I'm just not sure what it means yet or if I just insulted Tequila Wolf for liking sex and don't know it yet.

I've done worse dumb things on Raddle and been forgiven.

Switching from English doesn't help. I have problems with language in general, not just English in particular and majoring in English didn't help even though it was fun and I love British literature.

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2145 wrote

I'm just not sure what it means yet

What asexuality means? It's an orientation the same as {bi/homo/hetero}sexuality. I obviously can't speak for Tequila_Wolf but having your own preferences shouldn't be insulting to anyone.

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noordinaryspider wrote (edited )

Thank you. That's what I thought it meant. I'm not used to being allowed to choose my own preferences yet.

My favourite colour is purple. My mother thinks it should be blue because she likes the way blue looks on me better than she likes the way purple looks on me. My mother is 80+ years old and lives in a luxury retirement home because she doesn't want to live with me or leave her inheritance to me.

That is not something I am ashamed to say on Raddle, but it's weird as fuck and oddly liberating to publicly state those facts on the internet as well. :) :) :) :)