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GaldraChevaliere wrote

I need to find a sugar daddy or something. It'd be nice to be slightly less worried about spending any money for fear I'll need it later.

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Tequila_Wolf wrote

I'm working on starting sex work hopefully next month so I can do a better job funding radical projects.

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retiredaccount wrote

If you're selling videos let us know. I'd buy all my porn from anarchists if I could.

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Tequila_Wolf wrote

Thanks! I wouldn't doxx myself though, which that would do.

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retiredaccount wrote

Not if you wear a kinky mask!

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Tequila_Wolf wrote

Haha! You underestimate how distinctive my features are.

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retiredaccount wrote

My guess is a full body tattoo. Or a tail.

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rot wrote

obviously a wolf tail

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noordinaryspider wrote

You eat the worm. It isn't gross after the first time. The high is totally worth it and so is the shock value.

"Auntie Tequila Wolf" has even more shock value, but probably better for a card attached to a comic book under some weirdo's kid's Festivus pole or something.

That's too easy to mistake for Anti-Tequila_Wolf in public. Wouldn't work; gotta try something else.

But I like the idea of the tail.

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noordinaryspider wrote (edited )

I'd buy it to give it to friends in a heartbeat, since I'm not into porn myself and have seen been[1] the alternatives. :(

[1] Now that I think about it, the only realistic alternative to strong, empowered, adequately financially compensated sex workers in this sick society IS turning innocent little horrifically abused children into the "w" word, isn't it?

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LostYonder wrote

Not that difficult of an arrangement to find these days, is it?

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

If you're cis and pretty, yeah. There's definitely a market for trans and enby folk and my partner's been having some success looking, but in general guys tend to be cheap and like to waste other people's time.So it's hard getting our worth out of someone.

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retiredaccount wrote

Have you considered camming? My roommate makes her living doing chaturbate.com

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

I did it for a while, but my camera broke. The main trouble with camming is that it's a saturated industry. You have to set yourself apart to get a steady stream of customers, and 'goth trap gf', while my day to day aesthetic, is a little overdone. Our current strategy keeps me as that but contrasts me with my uber-girly brightly colored partner. When/if I replace my SCA kit I'm probably going to start doing a pretty knight gimmick.

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retiredaccount wrote

Like with a suit of armor? That would be original.

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

I've been thinking untying the calves, skirt and arms from a gambeson and leggings and wearing them over something skintight with pretty, vaguely magical-looking designs. Layer the armor on those parts and leave the rest only covered by a surcoat or do the godiva thing with my hair. Guys are a sucker for a cute body with a giant phallic object, so I could keep my sword with me in its scabbard for posing. But essentially go for something that wouldn't be out of place in a Fate game.

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LostYonder wrote

very true, so much of the 'sex industry' remains defined by the interests and desires of cis white men, both straight and gay, but niche markets do exist. If you could creatively think outside the box of the established sex industry one could meet with lots of success. But it means letting go of the voyeuristic fantasies of the industry (stripping, camming) and rethinking desire... I always like Michael Warner's critique but ultimately it is limited by his own positionality...

Good luck!

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

If I could, I'd honestly just like to do more tender, cuddly scenes with my lovers and treat broadcasting/photographing as more letting someone in to experience it with us, but the unfortunate fact is most of our audience is either cis men who want degrading sexist 'sissy' tropes, or 'baby' transfolk still figuring themselves out who've unfortunately internalized those tropes and need to rebuild their self-respect. Cis women are present in smaller numbers from what I've seen but they generally go for a lot of the same gross things men do, they're just quieter about it. If I were making enough to not be worrying about this in the first place, I'd want to shift focus completely to making content exclusively intended for other trans femmes.

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rot wrote

cuddly scenes with my lovers

virtual cuddling sounds like it would have a big market.

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mofongo wrote

I saw an article of a trend were women cam themselves while eating and act like they were on a date, talking about their day and answering questions.

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rot wrote

It's a little sad but honestly I'd do it if I were really lonely

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noordinaryspider wrote

People buy faux friends all the time. Sometimes they're called "psychiatrists" and other times they're called things like "bartenders" or "barbers".

Life happens. We deal.

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

That's generally under Girlfriend Experience stuff, which I like doing a lot honestly. It's comfy and it helps someone feel better about themselves.

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noordinaryspider wrote (edited )

My guess on why there isn't more of a market for it is so bitter I don't even want to uglify this thread with it. :(

Reacting to the devaluation of everything feminine is simply a bigger temper tantrum than reacting to the devaluation of every AFAB who has ever or will ever exist and kind of private, I'm afraid, but if I wanted a Girlfriend Experience and could afford one, I'm sure you'd be good at that from what I see around here.

Fuck this world.

Good luck. Not having enough food security ducks donkey droppings.

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GaldraChevaliere wrote (edited )

I might honestly be a little young to really 'connect' with you in a way that'd leave you satisfied with the service, at least genuinely, but you couldn't be a worse client than any middle-aged cis guy with too much money and not enough friends. It'd be good practice, if nothing else. I've dated cis women but they don't usually openly look for my services.

I'm not entirely sure what you want me to do with the other part of that. Coming from a perspective of having a really weird relationship with gender growing up before I 'came out' insofar as I was detected and decided to just stop lying about being a boy since it never really worked in the first place for me, I can really see where AFAB folk are undervalued as people and assigned to what are essentially unpaid maintenance roles for society and especially cis mens' emotional states.

But growing up the way I did, that was already my job too. And it was a really awkward and ugly place to be where you're told that your worth is only definable by how much of a violent and exploitative jerk you are, but also being given all the emotional labor needs for the boys you grew up around that tacitly acknowledged you were something else, whether you admitted it or not.

Men divide the world into Men and Not-Men and if you're not sufficiently vicious and murderous enough to be a Man, you're Not-a-Man and get stuck with all of the grunt work and no appreciation, whether you've got a vagina or a penis or something ambiguously between them.

So, that was my childhood. Not-a-Man, with the acknowledgement I could never be a Man, no matter how hard I tried to fit that ideal of the ruthless hunter-killer. And with that came nursing everyone's scraped knees and wounded egoes, carrying their secrets, and being the voice of reason to their impulsive shenanigans, when I wasn't the one being stupid anyway. It came with some fucked up shit too. Trying to reach that ideal so I'd get, if not respect, then the same treatment as my Man friends, led me to do things like push things with other Not-Men friends without regard for their feelings or autonomy, or act out violently because the only means I had when I didn't have those Man friends to protect me was my tiny fists and high voice.

I dealt with men and women looking at me like a bug. I dealt with men and women, but especially men, looking at me like a piece of meat to be pounced on and eaten the moment my protectors weren't with me. I dealt with never being taken seriously, always being taken for granted, being blamed for others' misfortunes brought by their own folly. Fuck, I've literally been labeled a witch in a shitty podunk southern town I lived in, a reputation I still have there.

Sorry for typing like, a huge-ass essay. I don't expect you to respond to it all or even at all. But it's three am and I can't sleep watching horror movies and waiting for my lover to come home. But the point I'm trying to get across is I seriously get it, because I lived it. And AFAB folk face unique oppressions, but sometimes when I talk with you it seems like you focus on those oppressions to the exclusion of what trans-folk, whether AFAB or AMAB as well as fem cis gays, go through. It's not all that dissimilar. The unique hell we grow up in is one where we have to play both roles to survive, but are accepted as neither. With motherhood and survival comes honor, but most of us are lucky to make it to thirty before someone kills us.

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noordinaryspider wrote (edited )

I can't really reply without sounding like a dismissive jerk right now, but I can't seem to not reply either. All I really want to do is apologize. I seem to have found in you some sort of a connection where I feel comfortable saying things to an individual I find particularly relatable, but I am still fetishizing you. I am still talking to "every trans woman everywhere", and since I raised AFABs in the '90s, that most likely includes little girls dismissed as "tag along little brothers who would just get in the way".

It's a great big shit sandwich to realize you've fucked up in the way I fucked up. I never beat up a girl or forced her to pretend to be a little boy, but I have to live with my silence forever. I sat there in this great big forum full of TERFs because I needed something from them and I knew that what they were saying was wrong, I had even supported trans girls who couldn't afford surgery on other forums and said things like, "But you are a girl! Don't you ever forget that! Nothing can change that fact." and told my toddler, "That's not a man in a dress, that's Auntie Lala!" but when I was faced with authority figures who told me this is what feminists think and if I wanted to be a feminist I had to think like the other feminists, I didn't stand up for my friends or my own judgement. I just sat down, shut up, and did what I was told.

I am furious that you have to live the way you do. I don't even know who I mean by "you" right now, whether I am speaking to every trans woman who was ever born in the 1990s, every trans woman who was ever born, every trans person who was ever born, or the unique in all the world individual I know as GaldraChevaliere.

You are a kind, caring, nurturing, valuable human being. You have shown that to me in a few words on a radical politics forum, but in a way that I don't believe trolls and bad guys can fake. You deserve to have a chance of having what you want in life and an opportunity to use your strengths and talents to make the world a better place.

It disgusts me that you are prostituted into a sick fetish, and that this is the only way you can survive. It appalls me that you have to live in a world that cannot see any more value in you than a sex toy. Why I feel this impotent rage for someone else and just shrug "meh" when the world tells me I'm not good enough to scrub its toilet is probably a societal problem that isn't going to get fixed.

But understanding why I need to mind my own business and why it's not okay to walk up to random trans girls and apologize on behalf of my gender is something I can work on. I'm trying very hard. I'm not quite there yet. I'm still an asshole and I'm going to be an asshole for a little while.

I can't fix that.

Thank you for understanding. That was a beautiful piece of writing and a wonderful gift you just gave me. I hope it did not cost more than you could afford.

It cost way more than I could afford.

It cost way more than you could afford either, but you wrote it anyway.

Things are.

I look forward to seeing your posts while I am looking around the boards.

ETA: My brother didn't make it to 30, in case anyone was wondering, and I never got around to grieving his death even though he died in the early '90s. Shrink says I can't keep putting off my chores forever even though I don't know how to do them so boo hoo or whateverthefuck I'm supposed to say.

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

I honestly don't feel like you personally disrespect or don't value me. You've always been at the very least polite around the forum and I don't really expect that much else from somebody but a basic level of dignity. You don't come off like you're fetishizing me, but sometimes I get frustrated when cis people take their experiences as the norm and assume they're essential to all people, even cis people from other places.

I've made some really awful mistakes growing up. Everyone does. I've hurt people I cared about, I've done stupid things that impacted myself and others and burdened them. That's part of growing up for anybody. The points I really wanted to get across are just that when we say things like 'male socialization' or 'female socialization', we miss the interconnected web of bizzare and insensible and occasionally traumatizing elements that make up an adult in the modern western world, and that trying to force people to be anything leads to a lot of pain for a lot of people.

Where you did things in adulthood like not speaking up for my folk when we needed the protection, I did things in childhood like kicking down at other femmes because it was the only way I'd get respect from anyone I wasn't playing nursemaid to. I learned quickly that my body and my ability at keeping them from eating eachother alive was the only real value I had to them, and jealously guarded that position. I'm not expecting an apology from you for making those mistakes before, because as far as I can tell from talking to you on here, you're working on them and trying to change from them. I'm still young enough to be trying to change from my childhood and have respect for myself and other femmes.

It's not wrong to call trans folk on that when we're still shedding that trauma, the problem comes in the argument TERFs make that we're stained with an original sin of 'maleness', that learned savagery is innate and not a part of an intensely broken and wounding binary that they zealously uphold to maintain their superiority over anyone who doesn't resemble them, including cis women of color or bi women or lesbians who are actually attracted to other women and don't just see them as political pawns.

I really value your input and your counsel on things, and I hope you don't feel like I'm angry at you or I don't like you. Grief's a really hard beast to wrestle with, and I hope you find closure with it someday, even if it's not soon. I trust you to get better and I hope you trust me to get better too. We're all stronger together than alone.

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noordinaryspider wrote (edited )

I absolutely do not think that you are angry at me. I greatly appreciate the time and emotional energy you invested in me and hope that you never regret it.

This has been so healing for me, even when it has been exhausting. I have also shed literal tears and found myself thinking of you at 3 AM, fondly and protectively as well as with regrets that I did not pad a few corners that would have been easy enough to pad and wishes that I had listened more and talked less.

All we can do is go on from here. I wish you well. You deserve better than you are likely to get and I can't fix that, all I can do is try to be a decent person and stand up for you and your people in the future even if all that means is:

"Well, we're just going to have to agree to disagree then. I guess I'm not a real feminist, but as I was saying...."

"Since I will never agree with the board about this particular issue, I would appreciate any recommendations for a different Feminism discussion board that is better suited to my own unique needs."

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noordinaryspider wrote (edited )

I guess I just want to understand so that I don't accidentally track transphobia all over the internet again if it gets on my shoes again.

That's no excuse for my behaviour when I click on links that weren't posted for me and when I interrupt people when they are talking about things I can't possibly understand.

This isn't a trans issue. It isn't a cis issue. It's an executive function issue.

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retiredaccount wrote

Anybody doing anything this weekend?

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noordinaryspider wrote

home canning.

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yaaqov wrote

Neat! Of what?

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noordinaryspider wrote

Peaches, tomatoes, apples, pears and pluots.

Pluots are sort of like a cross between a plum and an apricot in an analogous manner to nectarines being a cross between a plum and a peach.

tl/dr would be "fruit geek thing", I guess.

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retiredaccount wrote

That sounds exciting. Do you have a canning machine?

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noordinaryspider wrote

Nah, just hot water bath. I'm only doing fruit (including tomato sauce) and maybe pickles for my pickle-loving kid.

Yea, he's hot but he's cis, pushing thirty, doing something good little mommies don't need to know about that has something to do with animal rights and explosives, and pretty much taken anyway. ;)

I wanted to learn how to can non-acidic foods too, but the pickle-lover is the only one of the giant economy sized pack of mixed nuts I call "my kids" who spends much money on dear old mum any more and he got me a dehydrator and a new freezer instead of a pressure cooker.

No worries, It's all good.

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bloodrose wrote

I'm driving to Nevada to look at land I'm interested in buying.

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retiredaccount wrote

Nevada, so is it desert land?

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bloodrose wrote

It's in a valley. There's water some miles away and the soil is actually prime farmland. We're thinking of growing some prickly pear cactus there. It is very much desert still, though. It's an old mining town that has a population of 20 so no one will care if I put up a yurt and thwart zoning laws.

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noordinaryspider wrote

Prickly Pear cactus is a burgeoning specialty gourmet foods market just waiting for a crackerjack entrepreneur to make his [sic] first fortune.

Well, that's what my capitalist love-me-I'm-a-liberal parents ex-family would say, anyway. If it was up to me, I'd just say, "Go, you!" but that's not very encouraging, is it?

Let's try this instead, shall we?

--

Sound off:

I don’t wanna work anymore! What did you say? I said the system doesn’t work anymore! What did you say? I said STOMP, smash the state Let’s liberate Acknowledge me or go to hell Another womyn to rebel Stomp, smash the state Let’s liberate Organize and raise some hell Act up, unite, REBEL!

Well that didn't work either because "womyn" is still plural and I don't WANNA develop "Dissociative Identity Disorder" just because I'm not grammatically correct.

I'm singular, goshdarnitalltoheck, there's only one meat envelope who is officially authorized to use this Raddle account.

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bloodrose wrote

Well, i'm not interested in being an entrepreneur. I would really rather somewhere that I could make a permaculture food forest. I'm not sure how much a food forest I can make in Nevada but I can't afford anywhere else.

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noordinaryspider wrote

Fantastic!

I have some friends who bought land there because Northern California was too expensive. I was skeptical because of Las Vegas, but they love it there and I'm not them.

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bloodrose wrote (edited )

I mean, I'm in Norcal and I know I will never own here. So, while I'm a renter and working my job, I will be slowly building up an off-grid haven in Nevada.

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noordinaryspider wrote (edited )

Yea, Norcal must be pretty bad right now. :'(

(((((((((((((((((((((((((California))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Sympathy and compassion.

I never went back to SB after the fires and could only bear to find out that the fig tree survived a few months ago.

I am so sorry for all that you are losing. :''''(

The cats who must still live on the Filbert steps would be terrified if there weren't people like you and my DIY Pickle Penis Person in this sick dystopian world but my English skills aren't up for the next post I wish I could make.

<3

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ziq wrote (edited )

Fig trees always grow back from underground. There's a big one down the road that got totally incinerated 2 years ago and it grew right back to its previous size. Then another fire on the same spot hit it last month and I checked and it's already resprouting. The only other plants around it that survived were prickly pears.

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noordinaryspider wrote (edited )

My friend still lives in Santa Barbara, California, USA:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Santa_Barbara%27s_Moreton_Bay_Fig_Tree

Don The Beachcomber's is gone. The Beatnik Lady no longer writes for the Channel Islands Mensa newsletter because she died of old age over a decade ago. My own alma mater is nothing more than the punchline of a joke about ElliotRodgerville U any more.

Nothing I care about is left, unless you count the CVS on State Street where I used to bellow out "All My Trials", "Gallows Pole", and a new folksong by Cyndi Lauper called "Girls Just Want To Have Fun" along with other folksongs that didn't work out like "When Doves Cry", "What's Love Got to Do With It", "Total Eclipse of the Heart", and one I never sang because I didn't understand it then even though I do now.

No one likes to be defeated.

Sometimes it doesn't matter who's wrong or right. I just need to fucking beat it. Maybe the next person will listen, but if I'm dead, there won't be anyone to tell them what they need to hear when they need to hear it.

thx, Mikey; sorry that "life" shit didn't work out 4 u. not ur fault.

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lookin4 wrote

I remember the times where I repeated everything without thinking, I joined verbal attacks by the upper class, classic liberals and conservatives towards everything what's not mainstream and didn't matched their imagination of the one and only norm (even social democracy movements were "enemies").

It took a few years for me to realize this was all shitty and dumb, first because of my own class affiliation, second my personal anomaly from the norm. I became more active in reading, watching and acting. Since then I am educating myself wittingly... resulting in evolving into a ...liberal. I joined the green parties. I learned a lot about structures, hierarchy and also about behavior prior and after elections. After a few years I decided to quit after disappointments and rage.

Afterwards I was a more or less active member inside the movement of the pirate party, until I quit here, too. But as I experienced all this, met all this people and the life goes on I read, watched and acted a lot from then on which leads me to be an anarchist today.

I am very curious about all the upcoming levels and very happy that I've found this place and meet all of you.

Have a nice friday!

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noordinaryspider wrote

It sounds a lot like my own evolution, I'm just not as good at writing in English as you are and I don't want to be misunderstood.

There are celebrities involved that I would not want to doxx, so that makes it more difficult too.

The short version is that I became disillusioned with the Democratic party and switched my voter registration to Green. I am not ashamed of spending four years volunteering for an early prototype of Move To Amend while I was all-but-homeless and responsible for paying child support to some children while simultaneously providing primary care for others, but I am not proud of it either.

After being told that I was no longer needed by a member of the organization who misunderstood a completely innocent friendship between myself and the celebrity in a particularly cruel and deliberately hurtful manner, I understood the situation in the US much better.

I no longer support the Green Party of the United States of America and prefer to donate to different charities now.

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bloodrose wrote

My views have been evolving. I suspect they will continue to evolve. I hope I am never too static.

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ziq wrote

Pretty static, but I've always been driven by the same core need for privacy, space, nature and a lack of authority.

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noordinaryspider wrote (edited )

I have the same needs, just different ideas about how to fill them at different times in my life and a pocketful of regrets about the bad ideas.

My big bro was more like you: once he decided what he was going to do, he did it and nobody or nothing could stop him.

Kind of like the concept of yin and yang or using both quantum and classical physics to understand your whole world.

We were a great team. We wrote some cute little stories together. Who knows what we could have accomplished if he were still here.

Our oldest brother would have been celebrating his sixtieth this December if the dice had fallen a different way and the three of us had gotten to be kids together. Since my man-born brother probably presented as black rather than caucasian and he was probably adopted by a USAmerican family, I believe that he is out of life expectancy and that I do not have the financial resources to visit his grave, much less find it.

You might get to be 60, though. That would be cool. I won't be there to see it, but it would will still be cool.

You won't have to slap my youngest kid around for me any more then because he'll be well over 16. ;)

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noordinaryspider wrote

Not at all. I never claimed to be "the face of Raddle" or even "the face of the new Raddler" but I'm still growing and learning and changing and always seeing something new in any "Anarchism 101" links I might click on. Go ahead and post any "Dick and Jane" type articles you wanted to talk about! No worries.

To be bluntly honest, I probably friended some fash on Diaspora unknowingly (at the time) because I'm just a curious person.

So if you're strong enough to post Anarchism 101 on mainstream sites, go for that too!

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bad_bad wrote

first time on here.

i keep playing video games cus anxiety? i have always turned to them. I mean, I am really hungry and I'm playing more games. it sounds kind of dumb, but i don't even want to eat. I feel guilty after eating, bc I always gotta eat out, but I am always broke and time I should spend cooking I spend playing. : /

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ziq wrote (edited )

Welcome! If cooking takes so long that you avoid doing it, then a good idea is to stick to simpler foods. Throw a couple potatoes in the microwave. You can game while they cook. Then open a can of something and mix it with the potato. Maybe add chili pepper powder and/or turmeric for flavor. Instant meal.

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GaldraChevaliere wrote

It doesn't sound dumb. It's easy to lose yourself in a coping strategy if you've got nothing else going on. I've spent months before just alone in the dark every day because the sun hurts my eyes and why get up anyway? Who would I be happy to see if I bothered? Like, it's not healthy, definitely. But you could find other hobbies to fill time with if you're feeling like you have nothing else to do, or you could pick up some simple, quick recipes to be able to eat at home a little more often. It takes time, but little things add up.

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bloodrose wrote

It sounds like you're hitting on your dopamine pretty hard with games and food a business cooked for you (even non-fast food hits the sweet spot to keep you hooked). It sounds like you're trying to help your anxiety with dopamine. You can mimic the purchased food by cooking your food with added fat and sugar. While not a great idea for your long-term health, it's a help to your pocket book. I read somewhere recently that preserved meats can cause manic-type feelings. If you are eating jerky, bacon or sammiches, try ditching them and see if it helps your anxiety. /End unsolicited advice.

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noordinaryspider wrote (edited )

It might also help to check out some games with different licenses if all you know is the big names from the big corporations.

I'm more of a forum junkie, but an analogy would be if you aren't comfortable with the time you spend on Minecraft, you might prefer spending that time on Minetest.

https://www.minetest.net/

By the time you get your Minetest world set up to look "enough" like your old Minecraft world, you might have learned a thing or two about Minetest mods and met some interesting people and discovered some other common interests.

Maybe you'll want to spend some of your leisure time on hobbies that help you feel better about yourself. Not instead of gaming. Not even instead of playing Minecraft when you don't want to play Minetest.

Just because they are there.

Anyway, this exists:

https://onpon4.github.io/articles/libre-games.html

if you want to look at it and the lookalike games are on her "rejected games" page and fairly easy to locate.

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noordinaryspider wrote

If you're broke and your freezer is empty because you always eat out, the first thing you might choose to put it in might be burritoes.

If you hate Mexican food, it wouldn't be a good idea, but there are other pretty lies words and phrases ways to say "a small quantity of money's worth of food that I am willing to pay a large quantity of money to purchase because I am hungry".

Really bad recipes for DIY lasagna can taste really good when you DIY the actual noodles and they're nothing but flour, water, and "pay no attention to the man behind the curtain stuff" anyway.

Or maybe you should be gaming in the time it would take to cook this, in which case, your money is well spent so don't stress over it.

Welcome here.

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ravengrace wrote

Had a job interview. They told me they like me philisophically but they want me to volunteer for 6 months then call back. Wtf.

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noordinaryspider wrote

Quick and dirty unsolicited advice: pay yourself living, not minimum, wage for all work-related expenses when doing cost-benefit analysis.

The three hours you spend commuting to the job is three hours you don't have to do something different before Mr. Grim Reaper taps on your shoulder and "Game Over" flashes across the screen.

They can say "$35,000 annual salary" until kittens grow on their palms, but if they're really only paying you fifteen cents an hour, you're not going to make it regardless of whether they call it "slavery", "internship", or "indentured servitude".

But you already knew that.

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ziq wrote

Shit that's fucked. How is that even legal.

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noordinaryspider wrote (edited )

Seems like a common scam. It's a way to steal from people with heavy student loan debt and not much employment experience in their chosen fields.

One of, but not the only reason, why I am not interested in purchasing a student loan advisor for my childernz at the present time.

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bloodrose wrote

I was going to a volunteer event at a nature preserve today but it was cancelled because of smoke. sigh everything is always on fire now. I mean, it's not hyperbole to say the world is burning now.

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noordinaryspider wrote

I am so sorry. Please don't doxx yourself like this again but do stay safe, get the fuck out if you need to (and "need" can be psychological as well as physical, fellow ursine mama), and don't ever forget that people are for loving and things are for using and it's none of your business what random strangers think about things they don't understand.

It would have been crazy for a college student on vacation to just start running "because Ireland is so green" and never to have been seen or heard from again, but it still would have made a better "happily ever after" for both me and Gentlest Daughter, who deserves her privacy if she is a newer-raddler-than-me, and really doesn't know me other than giftmas presents, birthday cards, random public comments on her blogs, etc.

So no worries; it's all good; probably no one else even picked up on it or if they didn't they didn't care and "affected by air quality because of the fires" is a pretty darned general "location" anyway.

My kid's first girlfriend's mother used to let her kids say they were from "Europe" all the time.

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bloodrose wrote

Meh, there are a lot of people in the area I live in. I doubt saying the general location is enough to doxx me.