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andro wrote

My cousins ex wife who I'm still very close with has been slowly dissolving. My cousin and her moved far away from home to be in a poly relationship. The situation was toxic from the start, but it all got worse when whe got pregnant with the other guys kid. My cousin was so mad at her. The four ended up just switching partners and hating the other couple. Then her baby daddy broke up with her and she moved back home (where i live) once the baby was born. She has developed a pretty terrible drinking problem through all of this. Then she got raped in December. I just found out today that last week a male friend of 10+ years who has also been spiraling into alcoholism came to her place shit faced and beat the shit out of her when she said something he didn't like. She is dissolving as a human being, despondent. Sometimes our conversations just devolve into thought loops going around and around and I can't break the cycle. I worry that her drinking will get her kid taken away.

Her family sucks, and she doesn't have anybody except for me and my parents, but we don't know what to do. I almost can't believe the world can be so cruel to someone. I'm in recovery and I've tried so many times to get her to come to meetings with me, but she always flakes out last minute. I got her to agree to go to a progressive queer recovery group tomorrow, and I've lined up a backup babysitter so she has no reason to back out, but I just don't know if it's enough. I don't know how I can help her.