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kin OP wrote

Though week, I have two friends going through emotional crisis right now... One had a breakup past year and still bad about it, the time seemed only to make it worst. He even hinted suicide past Sunday. He said it is now better as he will take a trip to Prague to unwind a bit.

The other one is a single mother with some mental health issues, and it's hard to help bc she have a bad temper and everyone criticizes her way of life, her way to take care of the kid and how she ask for money and all... I dunno, I want to help but it's hard to know where the mental health issues and oppression ends and the toxic behavior starts..

Fuck Capitalism, I hate this world

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NoPotatoes wrote

Fixed/tightened the bottom bracket on my bike. Rides a bit smoother now. I had the right size socket wrench all along and I didn't realize!

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ghost wrote

Two hydrogen atoms are walking down the street. One suddenly stops and says “omg I think I just lost an electron!” The other one says “are you sure?” And the first one says “I’m positive!”

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ano wrote

My last ID on Raddle was “keepforgettingcredentials”, and… it happened again. I mostly just follow Raddle from the shadows, though, à propos the recent thread about that. Happy weekend to you all, it's around the corner

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ano wrote

Heyyy remembered my password after getting logged out on my phone! Has the curse been lifted? Only time will tell.

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zoom_zip wrote

is oppositional defiance disorder a real thing or was it made up by people who got mad because their kids wouldn’t do what they’re told?

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Fool wrote

That's ODD...

It's in the "Diagnostic and Statistical Manual for Mental Disorders". However,

DSM is a medical classification of disorders and as such serves as a historically determined cognitive schema imposed on clinical and scientific information to increase its comprehensibility and utility.”

In other words, it's a categorisation designed for research purposes.


Bonus:

In the 1840s, southern alienists discovered a malady called Drapetomania - the inexplicable, mad longing of a slave for freedom.

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zoom_zip wrote

the inexplicable, mad longing of a slave for freedom

inexplicable

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deeppurplehazedream wrote

Professional psychology- by and large- is nothing but trying to systematically normalize difference, to control others.

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NoPotatoes wrote

I feel like a lot of times I would quickly dismiss my mom with a "no" because I did not want to be distracted from what I was doing. It felt like my mom was imposing on my own will and choices. So the "no" was less of a response to the question being asked, and more a rejection of the notion that I wanted to be asked a question. If that makes sense...

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lettuceLeafer wrote

https://eric.ed.gov/?id=ED470718

I mostly just know its a good example of negative illnesses being common in black children while negative nuetral illnesses for bad conduct such as ADHD are more common in white kids. Often times a statement that most black children not following school rules are born to be a problematic troublemaker in need of fixing. While white children are framed as born with a defficit that isn't their fault which needs to be overcome.

My guess is that it would be true. its a little more than not listening based on the diagnosis criteria it seems to be focusing on children who have severe emotional distress from home / environment. No faith in authority due to abuse felt while most children are great rule followers and children being very angry about how life is far earlier than almost everyone.

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ghost wrote

Haha I think we posted the same article from different sources.

You said it way better than me.

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lettuceLeafer wrote

I used to be big on the thinking of the idea that there is the ideal way to say something.Now that I'm more of a hippy eww. Often times there isn't an ideal. I said it one way and u said it another now the glory of decentralizatoin is that individuals do things a ton of ways and insn't a hegemony. maybe some individuals do it in a less effective way but overall I think that is better.

having an idea explained in different ways rather than several similar ways is allways better for accessibilty and when learning its often easier to get into it with a more similar and short to the point method. So like sure maybe my point was a little more nuances but maybe like with history the more through explaination didn't get through.

So I'm allways happy to see a good point be said in many ways. now I would say that the evidence prob wouldn't back up the disorder being made for racist reasons but its a little irrelevant it mostly gets the piont acress successfully.

Id much rather a bunch of people writing and teaching to solidify and grow their oppion even if its less ideal. people not saying u are, are often scared to voice their opion bc it could be wrong but writting and talking makes the learning and growth of life go way faster.

tldr: abolish the dicotomy of saying things better, sometimes a bigginer or someones explaining something with less nuance is better than a more nuanced and acurate take based on circumstance. Decentralization is great because of the gradient of people doing life. Sometimes the less ideal method is better overall so don't be so critical but don't let that stopping yourself from growing and preventing mental stagnation

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idle_american wrote (edited )

I’m checking out this community because I’ve fucking had it with hexbear for the last time and the community here seems a lot better. Asshole over there accused me of being a “gender cop” for identifying as male, then called me a rapist, then when she continued to press me for explanations why I had the audacity to identify as male, mods buried my response for mentioning I was a victim of SA (for being “hostile” even though I was being inordinately polite and this other person was literally harassing me). Liberal spaces are far from safe places for victims but I thought a leftist space would be. But it’s clear that the people on that site literally just hate men and there’s not much that can be done to change that.

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lettuceLeafer wrote

I'm surprised a hexbear user would find raddle speaking. But welcome ig maybe

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veuzi wrote

Good on you for getting away from that shithole. But... the constant tankie apologia didn't get to you before all that shit? I abandoned Chapo before it even got banned on reddit because of all the tankies.

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idle_american wrote

I’m a Marxist (not a Marxist-Leninist though) but yes, it was extremely annoying how anything even slightly critical of anything any “actually-existing socialist state” (which is a category as flexible as they need it to be) has ever done gets immediate dogpiling accusations of being a “reactionary anti-communist lib wrecker troll chud” despite their hilarious “antisectarianism” rule. The biggest thing for me though is that they can’t handle even minor disagreement without immediately taking the next step of insulting you and completely misrepresenting your words. They’re extremely childish, ignorant, mean idiots who think they’re smart because they stumbled upon to the fact that capitalism is bad but if you push back or even just try to add a little nuance to their psychotic nonsense they will go nuclear on you.

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Vulgar_Soda wrote (edited )

idiots

psychotic nonsense

Ableism. Intelligence and mental "illness" have no relation to any chosen ideology. Please familiarize yourself with raddle's rules. There is no tolerance for bigoted language on this site. I was accused of ableism when I first started posting, so don't feel like this is an attack. More of a gentle reminder.

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veuzi wrote

Insults based on intelligence or mental illness are ableist and rather cheap in my opinion. Doesn't hold weight, even for adversarial ideologues. There are better and more creative ways of insulting people. But you've already been told.

I share your frustration with tankies and the decaying remains of the Chapo crowd in any case. I will admit that I did keep an account and occasionally comment on chapo.chat before it became Hexbear. But the anarchist comm seemed to be consistently dead apart from a few users clinging on, and all the main comms were predictably dominated by tankies. I deleted that acount and not too long after, a bunch of drama involving the admins started surfacing so it was a good time to ditch either way. Hexbear is a joke. Lemmy is an even bigger joke, and it's slow as well.

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