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NOISEBOB wrote

living the actual poly-life is easy. i have a couple of weeks off from my partner and i'm really happy about it. haha.

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gone_to_croatan OP wrote

Do you think there is any difference between poly and relational anarchy? Many people say to me that many people engaged in poly relationships reproduce monogamy unknowingly

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catachresis wrote

I learned about agamy recently, or the idea against marriage.

Polyamory and monogamy aren’t exclusive to each other. Polyamory meaning many loves and monogamy meaning one marriage. It’s possible to be married to one person and still love others just as much.

I see relationship anarchy to be an all encompassing idea eschewing preconceived notions of what relationships need to look like. Someone posted a relationship anarchy smorgasbord here a few months ago. Relationship anarchy can describe relationships outside of a sexual-romantic window. While poly and monag heavily imply being inside this window.

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NOISEBOB wrote

Relationship anarchy can describe relationships outside of a sexual-romantic window. While poly and monag heavily imply being inside this window.

what? like friendships? platonic loves?
yes they are great too.

:)

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lettuceLeafer wrote

Idk, I think most contexts in the polyamory and monogamy discussion monogamy doesn't mean one marriage. Sure if u want it to mean that I would clarify and I'm cool with it. But most people when they say they are monogomous mean one partner not only one marriage. Like I don't even know what the word for only wanting one partner other than monogomy is.

So sure ur definition is valid but I think contextually it is far far less common that meaning one romantic partner / sexual relationship

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NOISEBOB wrote (edited )

i dunno.. sure, yes, i'm sure much of the ills of our shit society enters 'poly culture' (whatever that mean) when it gets hip and trendy.

i never really thought about it like that. i'm just an anarchist. love should be free as anything. i got monogamous with my partner during her pregnancy and some years after birth, but that just happened naturally.. before that we weren't. because,.. well. anarchy.

edit: there's nothing wrong with monogamy, as such.

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