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moonlune wrote (edited )

I preferred when my nightmares were about monsters than irl situations. I'm stressed.

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loukanikos wrote

Its weird. I keep having nightmares that are a little too real and then have trouble separating them from reality a few days later

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existential1 wrote

So exhausted...just tired. Need to sleep for like 3 days straight but my brain wont let me.

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Quicksilver wrote

So birthday has come and gone. Fairly enjoyable! Quarter of a century since birth! Trying to keep a positive vibe about it all.

Actually did it today, clicked the delete button on Facebook, now just 30 days till all gone. Got everyone else on other messaging apps (WhatsApp, Snapchat, phone, even Grindr lol). Still connected with Facebook through WhatsApp, but can't really get away with not having that one atm.

Started watching a bit of porn again which is annoyingly, as I said to myself I was going to stop cause of, well, many reasons. Know what got me though, so just gonna have a go again.

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annikastheory wrote

Quarter of a century since birth!

I remember when my older brother turned 25. At that time it seemed so old to me, I even made fun of him for being an old man. I told him that same thing, that he was a quarter of a century old.

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annikastheory wrote

Every day this week has been so hard, yesterday was really the worst though. I felt like a shit parent yesterday, maybe the second time I've really felt like I failed as a parent. My kid got really sick on Wednesday, we had to bring her to ER because she was having serious trouble breathing. They gave her a steroid and a nebulizer at the hospital and she turned around pretty quickly and felt better. They told us to giver her the nebulizer as needed and to give her the steroid one time 24 hrs after the hospital visit. I didn't want to force her so it took us hours to figure out what situation made her comfortable to use the nebulizer but we figured it out and she did it willingly which was great.

However yesterday it came time to give her the steroid and I tried for hours everything I could think of and she just wouldn't do it. The instructions say to mix it with a liquid so I mixed it with maybe 20 ml apple juice thinking she would want it. She took a couple sips and said it was icky. I tried everything I could think. I made the wrong decision of adding more juice (ended up being like 40-60ml of liquid total), thinking she would drink it if I diluted it more.

Well after hours of trying to get her to take the medicine I decided I would force her to drink the concoction with a syringe (I felt uneasy about it but I was also worried about her breathing and well being). The hardest part of that was when she finally stopped fighting me. She kind of just knew she was going to have to drink it and just laid there and let me give it to her after a certain point. I felt so bad. Then even worse we almost finish giving her the drink/medicine and she throws up on me from the medicine. She tried to say no to the medicine and I ignored her and ultimately caused her to vomit.

I apologized to her and tried to explain what happened and why I was sorry and what I was sorry for. I don't know if she understands all of what happened. She felt better from throwing up and I think she thought the medicine (rather than throwing up) made her feel better. (she told me it was great medicine when I talked about it with her.) We got all of us cleaned up and she seemed to do alright after all that and slept pretty well. I try really hard not to do things like this I was just really concerned for her. its really bothering me that I did that. I wish I could be with her now instead of at work.

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Vulgar_Soda wrote

Your genuine concern belies your self characterization as a "shit parent." Seems like you did the best you could, considering the situation. No point in beating yourself up. Hope both of you feel better.

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annikastheory wrote

Thanks. Yeah I am probably giving myself too much grief. Parenting is hard sometimes, its hard to know when I am really doing what is best especially when the outcome isn't what I hoped.

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bloodrose wrote

I apologized to her and tried to explain what happened and why I was sorry and what I was sorry for.

This is a really big deal. I do this with my kid, too. I'm not perfect and I am going to fuck up sometimes. Apologizing lets our kids know that when they feel injustice, they're not wrong. It makes it harder for them to be gaslit in the future by people who want to use or abuse them. They learn they can trust their emotions. I love seeing more parents doing this these days.

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potatoes wrote (edited )

My dad once screamed at me for 15+ minutes to eat a piece of salmon. I was bothered by the taste and didn't want to eat it, and I started to sob while he was yelling at me. Eventually I just decided to nut up and stomach the fish. Unfortunately I did so while I was crying, and although I got it down, it came back up a few seconds after I swallowed, practically whole. The man started to yell at me louder, saying I threw it up on purpose. I don't remember how that night ended.

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moonlune wrote

same I got smacked for retching after eating disgusting food. My parents then figured out to let us choose 1 type of vegetable we wouldn't eat but we had to eat the rest.

kinda understandable-ish, we were poor.

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annikastheory wrote

I'm sorry that happened to you. I can't imagine being mad at my kid for throwing up, especially if it was the results of my actions.

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potatoes wrote

Shit happens. I am still here and managed to cope. Kids are resilient little critters. Good luck with your parenting. I know it can be frustrating to work together as a family with real life problems.

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loukanikos wrote

I don't think you did anything wrong. I don't know exactly how mature your child is exactly but based on what I gather here that is an extremely difficult position you were in. Cognizance about something as complicated as our health is often elusive -- tenfold moreso for a child. I myself often resist taking medicine when I am unwell. Sometimes truly looking out for one another requires us to take actions like you did.

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annikastheory wrote

Yeah you are probably right. Its tricky to balance my kids limitations and her right to decide things for herself. I am always wrestling with that to make sure I don't limit my kid when I shouldn't.

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annikastheory wrote

Thanks for the encouragement everyone. You folks are too good to me.

She's feeling a lot better now.

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ab5 wrote

Any non-sexist, non-One Piece manga recommendation? I'm looking for something without many volumes. Bonus points if it isn't marketed as "shonen", but otherwise anything should be fine. Thank you!

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mofongo OP wrote

Not manga, but there's a web comic I enjoy a lot, UnOrdinary. Technically shonen, but quite nice.

There's Chainsaw man and Jujutsu Kaisen, they're sold as shounen but might as well be Seinen. Their representation of women is very cool.

Abandoning the male oriented stuff, i don't know if there's a manga but the Little Witch Academia anime is amazing.

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moonlune wrote (edited )

The last few episodes of unordinary's last season were wild!

Now that I you make me think of it, there are a ton of not (so) sexist slice of life webtoons.

Anarasumanara is one of my favorites and only ~40 chapters long.

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moonlune wrote (edited )

Yotsuba is a cool slice of life about a little girl being a kid. It was inspired by the author's daughter afair.

I've recommended a few manga in the past year in /f/anime too. Waves listen to me is a Seinen slice of life.

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ab5 wrote

Yotsuba looks good! I guess I'll start with it and keep all the other suggestions for the future.

I don't know anything about these WebToons bit I'll also take a look at UnOrdinary.

Thank you all for the recommendations!

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NeoliberalismKills wrote

Been awhile since I watched Claymore (and only read one volume) but I don't remember anything particularly sexist in it.

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Vulgar_Soda wrote

non-sexist manga

uhhhhhhh

I'm embarrassed at how hard of a time I'm having thinking of a recommendation. Not sure if this says more about me or more about the state of mainstream Japanese comics ... a whole lotta yikes all around.

Have you read anything from Junji Ito? Perfect if you want spooky vibes.

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mofongo OP wrote

Komi can't communicate is a nice slice of life about a girl whose social anxiety makes her completely non-verbal. It's very popular right now. I haven't read it but the few panel that have come my way seem very charming.

Oh! Teasing Master Takagi-san. Two young teenagers discovering love for the first time by an endless teasing competition. It made this old dogs heart feel young again.

There's also a concurrent sequel of their married life with their daughter.

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moonlune wrote

komi can't communicate

Here's what I thought of it: /f/Anime/135958/manga-review-komi-can-t-communicate

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ab5 wrote

I've read two or three stories by Junji Ito and I liked them, so I might look into some collections. Thank you for the idea!

I was also trying to find some "slice of life" mangas, but most of them seem to be problematic one way or another.

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mofongo OP wrote

They're a slice of life by Junji Ito, he talks about his life with his wife and cats.

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Vulgar_Soda wrote

most of them seem to be problematic one way or another

I'm starting to accept that most entertainment out there is problematic. but of course it is! Most people are fucked up, and art is nothing more than a reflection of an artist's worldview. I'm still trying to figure out where to draw the line. I love One Piece, even if I cringe at all the tit monsters and the way in which queer people are portrayed as creepy jokes.

I'm playing through Pokémon Black 2, and I'm embarrassed by the racism. Oh, boy we finally have a black female gym leader and, oh, she's a mammy stereotype. The rest of the black NPCs are basketball and football players. The later games get better in this respect, I suspect due to the hiring of fresh devs and a recognition that the series has gone beyond Japanese children.

I had some friends almost shit themselves when I called out Lord of the Rings as an "ode to whiteness." They didn't understand how. I still went to a ren fair the other week and got drunk dressed as a pirate. Gotta love cheesy, generic fantasy.

I enjoyed reading Chainsawman. Depending on where you draw the line, you might enjoy the manga too.

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ab5 wrote

Yes, I understand. But sometimes it's nice to discover some "pure" stories that, at least, try to avoid the most common issues in media.

I've just read about the ending of Usagi Drop and it's sickening; I'd love to avoid things like that.

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bloodrose wrote (edited )

I've been hearing a lot of "Well acshually..."s in my house from my family lately. It's really fucking exhausting. I don't want to talk to anyone in my house right now because of it. Anyone have any tips on tactfully avoiding it? There is a 7 year old and a 35 year old doing it.

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Vulgar_Soda wrote

Throw it back in their face. "Well acshually acshually!" Doesn't matter if you're wrong. Only matters that they think you're right. and of course you're right. You are an anarchy warrior. You can do no wrong.

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