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moonlune wrote

I saw Dune on the big screen this week, and it was really worth it: really beautiful and grandiose. The spaceships were awesome, and the story followed the book. It lost a bit of the internal monologues and philosophical "introspections" of the books but made up for it with cool fight scenes and cool spaceships. The pacing is similar to other Villeneuve movies: lots of world building and contemplation but I'm a sucker for that so I loved it. I hope the second one gets green lit.

I applied for a PhD in a town where my best friend is doing his. If I get it we'll be living together for the next three years and I'm really looking forward to that.

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CaptainACAB wrote

This work shit got old real fuckin' fast.

I miss having more than a few precious hours of time a day, goddamnit.

The worst part is that my family members keep telling me how proud or happy they they are that I have a job and whenever I gripe about it, they say some shit like "well, that's part of being an adult". Like, thanks for making life and my future seem so impossibly bleak despite knowing about my suicidal tendencies, guys; go fuck yourselves.

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annikastheory wrote

This work shit got old real fuckin' fast.

I feel that

Ever have someone tell you that you should be thankful after complaining about your job? That one makes me so damn angry. That or they brag about how they worked like 16 hrs days, as if that's a good thing somehow.

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CaptainACAB wrote

Ever have someone tell you that you should be thankful after complaining about your job?

No, but I have been lectured about "investing" and "making your money work for you", though.

That or they brag about how they worked like 16 hrs days, as if that's a good thing somehow.

Reminds me of when kids compare how late they stayed up.

I hate the struggle/grind/self-made culture; it's made up of only insufferable people.

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annikastheory wrote

No, but I have been lectured about "investing" and "making your money work for you", though.

Ugh. This coupled with the stupid coffee speech people love to give may be the worst thing on planet earth. one, leave my coffee alone it never hurt anyone. two I seriously can't afford a starbucks coffee everyday, I don't live in this fantasy world of infinite coffee. three it doesn't matter what I do with my "coffee money", either I am poor with no coffee or I am poor with coffee its basic maths.

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CaptainACAB wrote (edited )

Yeah, your small comfort purchases usually don't take up much from your paycheck; lower-class folk save and scrimp more than people with larger pools of disposable income. I get shit for enjoying video games and not making a career out of it because "doing what you love" means turning a passion or a hobby into another soulless transaction/commodity.

If I don't buy lunch out and save $5 every time I do it, I'm gonna end up with $120 at the end of the year. People blow that on one week's worth of groceries.

If it were that easy, poverty would be eliminated. What's that? People get rich not through exploitation but through hard work, smart spending, and merit? Why aren't you rich then, huh? Why the fuck am I even listening to you, you fucking chump; you're literally in the same goddamned house that I'm in.

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lettuceLeafer wrote (edited )

This coupled with the stupid coffee speech people love to give may be the worst thing on planet earth

In fairness for a large portion of people in developed countries are in bad situations financially bc they just spend fuck tons of money of frivolous shit. Like increases in income just increase how much the spend. It's really common statistically and people around me in the US at least.

It's not a good solution on a systemic level but for many individuals it's real good advice. Tho if you are doing it to people who are poor, not asking for advice and or not frivolous spenders u r being a total prick.

Edit: downvoters use ur words.

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annikastheory wrote

In fairness for a large portion of people in developed countries are in bad situations financially bc they just spend fuck tons of money of frivolous shit.

I also am in the US and speak from that perspective. I don't really know how large a portion it is but I 100% know people that have gotten themselves in a tangle because of straight crazy spending. Although buying coffee frequently is the least of their problems. In particular I know some people who were raised upper middle class and have very unrealistic expectations now that they are on their own. However I don't personally think that applies to that many poor people, although that is just my feelings.

The problem is that usually with the whole, "don't spend money on coffee" speech they aren't really giving the finance 101 advice they appear to be giving. They aren't really saying, "don't spend money on frivolous shit". What their really saying is this: first if your poor its always your fault, second if your poor you should never buy anything that isn't strictly necessary (such as coffee or fast food or really anything enjoyable whatsoever) to do so is a moral failing, third you could be rich if you stopped wasting your money and instead made that money work for you.

Even if this was good advice, and even if a person meant well the third point makes it absurd because for most people simply not buying coffee and investing that money, even if it may improve their situation, won't improve their situation enough to matter. The real purpose of this advice is to distract poor people from a real systemic issue and to push the blame onto the poor person. For boomers in particular this advice is a way to explain why they are so rich and millenials (who are often the target of this advice) aren't. This also ties a lot into ways some conservatives view coffee as well but I think I have typed enough already.

if you are doing it to people who are poor, not asking for advice and or not frivolous spenders u r being a total prick.

And really this here is the main issue. It is almost always used in at least 2 out of 3 of those circumstances, in fact as I argued above those are the circumstances this advice was designed to be used in.

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lettuceLeafer wrote

The problem is that usually with the whole, "don't spend money on coffee" speech they aren't really giving the finance 101 advice they appear to be giving. They aren't really saying, "don't spend money on frivolous shit". What their really saying is this: first if your poor its always your fault, second if your poor you should never buy anything that isn't strictly necessary (such as coffee or fast food or really anything enjoyable whatsoever) to do so is a moral failing, third you could be rich if you stopped wasting your money and instead made that money work for you.

Even if this was good advice, and even if a person meant well the third point makes it absurd because for most people simply not buying coffee and investing that money, even if it may improve their situation, won't improve their situation enough to matter. The real purpose of this advice is to distract poor people from a real systemic issue and to push the blame onto the poor person. For boomers in particular this advice is a way to explain why they are so rich and millenials (who are often the target of this advice) aren't. This also ties a lot into ways some conservatives view coffee as well

Yep, I agree completely.

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CaptainACAB wrote

if you are doing it to people who are poor, not asking for advice and or not frivolous spenders u r being a total prick.

I didn't downvote you, because I'm super inconsistent about clicking good arrow and bad arrow, but you're being downvoted for pretty much doing this.

annikastheory is venting about people trying to micromanage their income by determining what is and what isn't "a wasteful purchase" under the guise of financial advice and responding with "well, they might have a point in other situations" makes you look like an ass because it's an unsolicited criticism that didn't really need to be said.

I've nothing to say about your actual point as to how valid this "advice" is, because I don't have those statistics and am not interested in looking them up.

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lettuceLeafer wrote

Was I criticizing?

I just said how I felt about the issue. The conclusion of that was that I completely agree with annikas that the person was being rude to them. I'm not sure how I could be criticizing when my comment was in complete agreement with annikas.

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CaptainACAB wrote

It didn't come across that way.

There's also the fact that victim blaming those facing financial misfortune is a popular capitalist talking point and that anti-capitalists really don't like hearing it or any talk about how it can be a valid criticism on a few instances.

It's not a good solution on a systemic level but for many individuals it's real good advice.

This is not one of those individual cases, so the fact that you'd justify the talking point comes across as needlessly contrarian at best.

Finally, there's the matter of the fact that picking out individual cases to refute critiques/complaints about systemic issues makes a lot of people with a radical political bent very angry and, regardless of your intentions, your response comes a little too close to that rhetoric. Criticism was a poor word choice.

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lettuceLeafer wrote

Okay, I'll keep people's emotional response to this issue in mind. I appreciate it as it is useful.

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bomprimo wrote

In fairness for a large portion of people in developed countries are in bad situations financially bc they just spend fuck tons of money of frivolous shit. Like increases in income just increase how much the spend. It's really common statistically and people around me in the US at least.

Source?

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lettuceLeafer wrote

No, but I have been lectured about "investing" and "making your money work for you", though

I hate the everything about this phrasing. It's a microcasm if living in a world where almost everyone is far to cowardly to say it like it is.

Like I'm probably the only person on this website who has advocated traditional investment. It makes me sick how almost everyone is far to scared to admit why the traditional NASDAQ / index funds are so profitable. It's mostly profiting off war, slavery, polluting the planet, taking advantage of imperialism, gaining government welfare through lobbying and making software so governments can spy on civilians with no oversight.

It's profiting through violence. It's not work or making your money work. It's just paying people to steal for u or pay someone to do abhorrent shit for u.

God I can't stand people who refuse to state what they do or advocate for and hide behind euphemism

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emoticons wrote

also Am disliked always insufferable is the good word for it lol

Thank you for every opportunity!
Workship is my family!
I am grateful for my job!
Your a true leader!

it can hard to not okay when rest, working has say to you are to work all second of you life is not yours and You lived before day, before week or before year. :(

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CaptainACAB wrote

I still have nightmares about going to highschool, not sure if anyone else does.

Afterschool programs are even worse. School food (if any at all), forced "fun", and most of the other kids that I've met there were total assholes.

An inevitable outcome of low income homes with poor transportation alternatives and schools being too far away, I guess.

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Kinshavo wrote

I too have recurrent dreams(nightmares?) about classrooms and school environment. Sometimes I dream am failing again some semester, or the general anxiety of failing and waiting years to finish my penitence there. (I almost failed my last year at high school and I dropped out college twice bc I couldn't keep up with working and studying, in a country where we don't pay tuitions but we don't receive scholarship or money)

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Flute wrote

i think i have similar dreams, high-anxiety dreams of skipping classes, failing courses, and even worse to my real dropping out experiences, the dreams have strange loops of same things happening over and over again.

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emma OP wrote (edited )

So technically it's Thursday here, but I'm waiting eagerly to find out if Seinfeld in 4k's gonna be on Netflix from midnight onwards and I wanna talk about it now.

Update: I can now watch George's beautiful forehead in glorious 4k.

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lettuceLeafer wrote

Yeah I get more offended everytime Friday free talk shows up when it's not Friday in the center of the universe america.

People claim there are other places in America that aren't the US but I have never seen a map that shows them.

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black_fox wrote

bored with everything

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emoticons wrote

are you tried Build the house the in grocer's spaghetti store? :)

  • I like noodles
    • departmental stores and
  • moment
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bloodrose wrote

So someone posted on a local facebook page asking if anyone knew a parent who took video of a kid being strangled by a janitor at the elementary school my kid goes to. The parent of the kid who was strangled by the janitor posted on the nextdoor page for my neighborhood, also seeking out the video. They later posted that they were in possession of the video. Both threads turned nasty as grown ass adults showed up to say "We need to hear both sides of the story" and shit like "why would you let your kid play at the school at 6pm?! 6PM!!" and so much more victim blaming. One person even said the kid "jumped" the janitor. It was so disappointing to read.

The parent said the kid had a verbal exchange with the janitor that led to the janitor attacking the kid. Both places have had the threads removed. I hope they were removed because the parent retained a lawyer and will be suing the fuck out of the school. I am on tenterhooks about whether or not to speedily yank my kid out of school. Thankfully, she has the next 10 days off of school so I have time to find out if anything gets resolved before I do anything. I was very disappointed by the comments I read, though. :(

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ziq wrote

Wow even janitor boots taste yummy apparently.

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GlangSnorrisson wrote

An elementary school child isn’t “jumping” a grown adult, the fuck is wrong with these people?

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inthedustofthisplanet wrote (edited )

I've been spending some time learning about analyzing ELF files in Linux and am thinking of dumping my notes here. I learned the C/C++ compilation process as well as static analysis of ELF files... this weekend I'm jumping in dynamic analysis and I'm kind of excited. (⁄0⁄ ⁄ ω⁄ ⁄0 ⁄)

Staring at rows and rows of hex and assembly is probably my new kink.

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emoticons wrote

Enjoy and This very neat :O

am thinking of dumping my notes here.

yessss!!!! please blessing us with themm :)

this weekend I'm jumping in dynamic analysis and I'm kind of excited. (⁄0⁄ ⁄ ω⁄ ⁄0 ⁄)♡

Yayyy!!! glad foresee it :D

Staring at rows and rows of hex and assembly is probably my new kink.

uuUu wanna view my sleek control flow graph? give youu instructions and jump around unconditionally ;))

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moonlune wrote

I've started working my way through SICP (lisp) again and am reading the chapter on object oriented programming (I've recently finished the one on types). It's really cool to learn the ideas behind the stuff that I use all the time.

computers are FUN.

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Quicksilver wrote

So, I got my 125 scooter delivered to me, and within five minutes, one of the wing mirrors is just, spinning where it connects to the fucking bike. Don't know if I hit it when I was putting it on its center stand, or it was just loose, but I don't know how to fix it. Lucky I live è be dorrs down from a mechanics, so I'll just ring them. Was so livid though with myself.

Booked to see the new Dune movie with my friend for my birthday this month (Libra gang), so very damn excited about that.

Since not being on any infinite scrolling so I'll media, I find my thumb's doing the motion nonetheless on just my screen. Really weird.

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Quicksilver wrote

So, turns out the mechanic only does cars, so ew. Good news though, got a friend's partner to look at it and sort it. I don't have a mechanical bone in my body, so a lifesaver.

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emoticons wrote

am starting a bird cult

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bloodrose wrote

So, I'm ever fascinated in cults and have watched a lot of documentaries about them. One thing I've noticed is it is very necessary for a cult adherent to perform corrective behavior when they have done something outside of what the group wants. My usual maneuver when I fuck up socially is to distance myself and then run away from that social group/person/setting forever and just feel bad about it for the rest of my life. While this makes me sad and regret-filled, it also appears to be good protection against cultism.

So, I can't join your cult, even though I want to. Because I'd just wind up being embarrassed and upset, and then I'd leave and you'd have wasted your time when you could've spent it on another cult member instead.

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kokoaitu wrote

So, I can't join your cult, even though I want to. Because I'd just wind up being embarrassed and upset, and then I'd leave and you'd have wasted your time when you could've spent it on another cult member instead.

But at least you'll both have the memories. ✨


I'm just picturing some epic action movie, as the cult tries to prevent you from leaving.

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annikastheory wrote (edited )

Hey its me, here to complain about work again.

I mentioned about two months ago briefly that I sent a slightly angry email to management. Which I think started me down the road I am on now. (angry email was in response to a meeting in which they told me that I won't be getting raises for 5 yrs. (there's a little more to it than that but that's the gist)). I am usually pretty in control of my emotions and I try to think before I speak but I slipped up one time and now I am paying for it.

I mentioned a couple weeks ago bosses met with me and told me if I improved in a certain metric they have they would give me a raise. I also mentioned that the meeting was odd because even though the context was me getting a raise it was heavily implied that they would fire me if I didn't meet the goal.

Well I am exhausted but I met the goal and the meeting to evaluate things is coming up on Tuesday so I figured things would be fine. They just sent me an email a little bit ago and they moved the goalposts on me. They materialized a new goal out of thin air, and upped the number on the original goal and now I am supposed to email them how I intend to meet these new goals.

My coworkers 100% don't have to jump through this many hoops, I am worried their aim is to have an excuse to fire me. Especially because in the email they mentioned me "meeting the expectations that we have for all staff" and "satisfactory performance". I don't know if I can keep ramping up my output like this, and when does it stop? I can't keep meeting goal after goal and having the posts moved on me each time. I think I am going to have to start looking for new work because its only a matter of time. Job hunting fucking sucks though.

I secretly hope that I am being paranoid though. Maybe they are just trying to have a good excuse not to raise my pay. But I think that's probably just wishful thinking.

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bomprimo wrote

Hi. I totally understand you. Are you in a union? Do you have savings to rely on if you are fired? If you are fired do you have the possibility of getting another job?

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annikastheory wrote

I have a small chunk in case I get fired. Should last me a few months. Very lucky that's the case because it hasn't been until super super recently. No union. I don't know how much getting fired hurts ones prospects but hopefully I will be able to find something else.

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d4rk wrote

Why do I call myself having Dysmorphia and not Dysphoria? Because I'm more psychologically troubled about my body morphology than my gender identity. I don't need the "but honey, you look beautiful" bs, I want Estradiol, DMPA, as well as needing to be vegan for at least 4 years with the discipline to do it.

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