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bloodrose wrote (edited )

Also, fuck schools and fuck bad teachers. My kid's teacher sent an email to everyone:

Today we took our Chapter 3 Math test and sadly one half of the students in class did not pass the test. Many students did not do well because they are not doing their homework which gives them a chance to practice the skills we are learning in class at home. Please ask to see your child's Backpack Folder every night so you are aware of the assignments that need to be completed. Do not ask them if they did their homework, because many will tell you that they have, when in fact they have not. It is my job to help them at school and I need your help at home for that additional support.

My kid has been doing the homework every day right after school. Even the "optional" Friday homework. She is actually really good at grasping math concepts and the teacher had recommended her for an advanced math program. My child failed the stupid math test, too. She feels like shit about it but I'm so mad at the teacher. Sending nasty notes like your kids aren't doing homework and they're all fucking liars. No, fucker, you failed to teach them. Even the one who you said was so good at math she should do advanced math, you failed. Fucking abusive fuck.

I hate school.

Edit: Well, shit. Talked to my kid about it. Looks like she stopped paying attention to the questions because she felt a need to go fast. So either 1) my kid's ADD is finally affecting her school work (sad) or 2) the teacher was a jerk about how much time they had to finish the tests. Still think the teacher was a jerk though with her your kids are liars email.

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lettuceLeafer wrote

So many teachers or people younger than high school are power tripping assholes. I'd say prob more than half in my experience. It's always the teachers of the younger kids who are typically the most horrible..weirdly.

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Ashy wrote

rly? i feel the opposite, i really liked my teachers in elementary school. all downhill from there tho lol

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bloodrose wrote (edited )

My husband, my kid, and I all have a shared experience: we have all peed our pants in class because a teacher didn't let us pee. This is teachers of young students who have decided to physically harm children by not letting them go to the bathroom. This is so common that everyone in my family has had it happen to them. It happened to me because I didn't color neat enough and wasn't allowed a recess break because I had to re-color. For fucking coloring, I get to remember being embarrassed that I peed myself. When it happened to my daughter, I told her about it happening to me and said she's in good company but if she ever felt she needed to pee, she should insist she be allowed to. And if the teacher gets mad, I'll get mad right back. I shouldn't have to teach my daughter to fight to be allowed a basic, human physical need. But this keeps happening because teachers of young kids are bullies and jerks.

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Ashy wrote

oh my goodness what?! that's totally awful! i guess i just got lucky, or i'm repressing memories which is a possibility ig

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lettuceLeafer wrote

:(

There were shit teachers in high school but you have lots of teachers so having to only deal with a power tripping asshole for an hour then get an hour with a chill teacher was way better. But despite this I hated my entire schooling experience besides college.

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Ashy wrote

hm maybe, yeah i guess. it's replaced by other stressors tho :l the amount of homework they gave...

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bloodrose wrote

I hated college, too, but I just dropped classes when teachers were dicks. It took me three tries to pass english because of the douchey english teachers.

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annikastheory wrote

Yeah I feel like when the majority of a class fails a test that's a failure on the teachers part. I remember one class in high school I had where one kid in the class passed the test and he got a C. Teacher let that one stand in the gradebook for reasons I will never understand.

Yeah that email is condescending on a few levels. Like the teachers is calling the kids lazy liars and then telling you the correct way to parent so that the children can measure up to their weird standard.

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annikastheory wrote

Having a family is weird sometimes. You all are bound to each other. So any time you have for yourself is time you have taken from someone else. I have been wanting more time for myself lately which almost always means less beneficial time for my daughter. so I let my kiddo watch a lot of TV this week. I feel kind of crappy about it. I know she would rather play outside, and I know that's better for her as well. Finding balance is so hard sometimes.

I had my monthly meeting with the managers. They literally said they don't micromanage and then went and listed all the ways they micromanage. Which is good because it gives me a good idea of what I can and can't get passed them. Meeting had weird vibes though, what they explicitly said was "perform this well and we will give you a raise", but what was implied was "don't perform that well and we will fire you". So that's fun! Means I have a couple of busier weeks to look forward to I guess.

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bloodrose wrote

My kid watches more tv than I would like, too. We bought a house with a backyard and I hoped she would take advantage of it more but two things have stopped that from happening:

  1. there's no other kids to play with there and
  2. smoke days - she got used to being trapped inside when smoke from wildfires made the air unsafe for her and then just stayed inside.

I've tried telling her that unless we tell her otherwise, she should assume the air is not smokey and she can play outside but she's gotten really into youtube channels about roblox and minecraft now. :(

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annikastheory wrote

Yeah I set a precedent this week by asking her if she wanted to watch tv after breakfast on Monday. I just wanted a little time to myself. Then the following days she came to expect it and I gave in because I still wanted time to myself. Normally she plays by her own or with me just fine but I was being a little selfish this week I think. I would probably worry a little less if she were older but I don't know how healthy screens are for toddlers. Just going to have to do better next week I guess, going to overcompensate a little by getting some extra outside time this weekend weather permitting.

My nephew watches a lot of roblox youtubers as well. Can't say I get the appeal of the game but maybe that's just the nature of being older than him or something. I did watch my share of minecraft videos though was a big fan of Grian lol.

Any way there is something you could do outside with her, or like a way you could shake things up or something? Don't have any solid tips though so I just leave you with that super open ended question.

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bloodrose wrote

Any way there is something you could do outside with her

Yeah, the problem is the time I want her outside playing is a time I am busy working. Once I'm done working, I start cooking and I'm cool with her coming to hang out or help during that but it's not an outdoor activity. I just have to remind her outdoors exists. One of the things we need to do is clean up the back yard for her grandparents to come visit. Maybe the act of cleaning will remind her it exists.

My nephew watches a lot of roblox youtubers as well. Can't say I get the appeal of the game but maybe that's just the nature of being older than him or something.

My kid is 7 and from ages, like 4-6 we played roblox together. It's kinda cute and pretty easy to play. I should ask her to play with me again. We had fun.

I would probably worry a little less if she were older but I don't know how healthy screens are for toddlers.

I hear that. We avoided screens for a while because of that, but it actually hurt our kid's language development to do so. Because my husband is not super talkative and he was home with her all the time, she wasn't really hearing words. She finally started talking after we put on Baby First TV. But that's just how our weird household worked out.

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existential1 wrote

Reading a book on prioritization and time use and it is so triggering. The person I am when I account for my time is so different than the person I'd like to be. But then at the same time, I'm attached to how I spend time too. Shrug

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bloodrose wrote

This comment gave me anxiety because I am literally the same. hugs Time is an asshole and not real but still really awfully triggering.

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Quicksilver wrote

Passed my bike test on an automatic scooter which is good. Tried a manual at first, but couldn't get the hang of doing 4 things at once while moving in, like, 2 and a half hours, but still. Now it's just getting a set of wheels.

Been starting to get more into the Jewish aspects of my life, and incorporating more into it. I've always felt a bit awkward about that part of my background and identity, but I've really been enjoying doing the research, wearing more of the kit, and just embracing it really.

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Ashy wrote

ay congrats on the test! exploring yourself is always cool :)

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ziq wrote

help populate this new forum with screenshots or archives

f/entryism

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Kinshavo wrote (edited )

Just for the people who think this is a recent (internet) phenomenon:

Entryism (also called entrism, enterism, or infiltration) is a political strategy in which an organisation or state encourages its members or supporters to join another, usually larger, organization in an attempt to expand influence and expand their ideas and program. If the organization being "entered" is hostile to entrism, the entrists may engage in a degree of subterfuge and subversion to hide the fact that they are an organization in their own right.

Proponents of the tactic advocated that the Trotskyists should enter the social democratic parties to connect with revolutionary socialist currents within them and then to steer those currents toward Leninism.

This was a classic ML tactics used together with other leninist concepts like democratic centralism and vanguardism

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CaptainACAB wrote

I've been onboarding for the past 2 weeks; 8 hours a day with weekends off, so I haven't been on here as much as I'd like.

It's been a bit of a hectic week, my household had a bit of a scare in that we thought we'd lose our biggest source of income (thankfully averted but we found that out this morning), onboarding itself was kicking my ass for a few days, but it's a bit easier now; plus I got my first check.

What little posting I've done here during day hours has been during lulls in training (there are a lot of those and not enough at the same time).

Since I did a lot of things around the house when I was unemployed and no one's really filling that void, I have to deal with the disruption to things I did habitually. Always fun.

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Kinshavo wrote

Without company to drink, today, my friend bailed on me.. at least I will save money and health

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inthedustofthisplanet wrote (edited )

...ᵧₒᵤ ₕₐᵥₑ բᵣᵢₑₙₔₛ? ⊂(・﹏・⊂)

What's that like?


I'm kidding, only sort of. (^_^;)*`

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Kinshavo wrote

I am very bad at keeping friends though. Not that I am a bad friend, but I like to be alone with my thoughts and some people don't understand or don't perceived my necessity. And usually the friendships I developed here are not strong in the sense that we lack meaningful shared experiences/interests..

And other thing, I hate when people make you change your way (even if it's unconsciously), like you start to behave different just bc you are with them..I want my friends and family to help me manifest my best, not to adequate to their/our social context.

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inthedustofthisplanet wrote

I too prefer to be alone, but I also find it hard to relate to most people or I'm paranoid about this and that. I usually try to avoid people to be honest.

I have a few friends online and one true friend I know in my day-to-day life, but I still feel alone. I guess I said I prefer to be alone. Not sure.

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RadicalConstructivist wrote (edited )

<3

I relate to this a lot, almost down to every detail. I feel I prefer to be alone and like to avoid people but at the same time I feel lonely. I often find it hard to relate to people and have plenty of my own fears. I also have few "true" friends, I'm not very good at meeting people.

Makes me glad I met you :)

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inthedustofthisplanet wrote

I am great at meeting people, but honestly since transitioning I trust people even less. I never really know what someones intentions are or if they even respect me. It's lit!

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RadicalConstructivist wrote (edited )

Yea that's kinda what I mean by being bad at meeting people, but I've honestly never been very trusting of new people so I've always felt like this

Sometimes it feels like I have a defense mechanism that makes me shut down to prevent me from giving anyone any kind of information that they might use against me

My own situation is different, but close enough for everything you're saying to be highly relatable

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Kinshavo wrote

Somehow I appreciate loneliness and being with myself better than the average, but I can tell you that deep in my personality/ego/persona I crave truthful and meaningful contact that I only experienced a handful of times in my life.

I don't want to spend time with friends just doing nothing, this I can do alone. But not all people want to (or feel comfortable) go deep in conversation or other bond forming activity. I have higher regard to the person who I only saw once in a party but we felt like long time friends than some "friends" that I spent more time just mindlessly drinking and talking any standart subject that we both don't care about.

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inthedustofthisplanet wrote (edited )

I also deeply love solitude and feel most complete when I am by myself. But I think of lot of this comes from not liking being seen -- some of it has to do with that fear of being found out in regard to my gender -- but am a very charismatic person which is pretty confusing at times. I want to be social and outgoing but dysphoria and just plain fear of people and their reactions make me freeze up a lot.

I also don't like doing nothing, which is what a lot of people around me are totally content in doing. Seems like a lot of people just want to give me weird of confused looks when I talk about whats on my mind.

ᴰᵒ ʸᵒᵘ ʷᵃⁿᵗ ᵗᵒ ᶠᵒʳᵐ ᵃ ˢᵉᶜʳᵉᵗ ˢᵒᶜᶦᵉᵗʸ?

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Kinshavo wrote (edited )

And I do think that lots of people avoid sharing interests, hopes & dreams, bc of fear of being misunderstood or diminished. I guess I don't have the same struggles you have dealing with people opinions\looks\ comments about your gender. Maybe in the future we will have more and more safe spaces, I can only hope...

I think we did! 23!
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inthedustofthisplanet wrote (edited )

I've spent a good chunk of my free time setting Linux back up on my laptop, this week and have customized the DE to have a peak vaporwave aesthetic -- wonder what forum would be best for sharing pics of how cool or boring our desktops look?

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bloodrose wrote

Watched the final season of Brooklyn Nine-Nine. They said they were scrapping the season and re-writing to deal with police brutality issues. My thoughts are:

  1. They did one really right thing and had a cop quit out of principal. They even had an episode where another cop interacts with them and says basically "but I'm one of the good guys" and it is proven to him how shitty of a take that is. This episode was bomb. (1st of the season)
  2. They did show a lot of the problems with the police unions in a comical way. Because as I understand it, there's a big part of a problem....buuuut....that kind of worked to absolve leadership of responsibility which sucks.
  3. Also they went along this route of "we'll reform police" and that'll fix it, which I think is really avoiding the problems and is prime copaganda.

So, basically, they did one good thing. And they did copaganda other things. But the one good episode is goooood.

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moonlune wrote

Can one watch Brooklyn nine nine and not expect copaganda? (Never seen an episode btw)

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bloodrose wrote

No. Except for Episode 1 of the last season. It's great. And it is the most hated episode ever by viewers. haha

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