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kin wrote

Without company to drink, today, my friend bailed on me.. at least I will save money and health

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kin wrote

I am very bad at keeping friends though. Not that I am a bad friend, but I like to be alone with my thoughts and some people don't understand or don't perceived my necessity. And usually the friendships I developed here are not strong in the sense that we lack meaningful shared experiences/interests..

And other thing, I hate when people make you change your way (even if it's unconsciously), like you start to behave different just bc you are with them..I want my friends and family to help me manifest my best, not to adequate to their/our social context.

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kin wrote

Somehow I appreciate loneliness and being with myself better than the average, but I can tell you that deep in my personality/ego/persona I crave truthful and meaningful contact that I only experienced a handful of times in my life.

I don't want to spend time with friends just doing nothing, this I can do alone. But not all people want to (or feel comfortable) go deep in conversation or other bond forming activity. I have higher regard to the person who I only saw once in a party but we felt like long time friends than some "friends" that I spent more time just mindlessly drinking and talking any standart subject that we both don't care about.

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And I do think that lots of people avoid sharing interests, hopes & dreams, bc of fear of being misunderstood or diminished. I guess I don't have the same struggles you have dealing with people opinions\looks\ comments about your gender. Maybe in the future we will have more and more safe spaces, I can only hope...

I think we did! 23!
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