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bloodrose wrote

So a while back here on raddle we were having discussions about fire departments and emergency services and someone pointed out fire departments are now doing ambulance work. Well, I just read something from a paper from a county in my state. Here's an excerpt:

As many <local county> residents are well aware, the county fire departments have absorbed ambulance services – previously provided by private operators at a lower cost to taxpayers – to pad their already bloated pensions since 2016. What many residents probably don’t know, is that 60 to 80 percent of the fire department’s budget goes to paying off their pension obligations. <State Pension Tracker> notes that the market basis pension liability per household is $81,634. That sum surpasses many residents’ annual income. To fund upcoming pension payments that are currently underfunded, fire unions have called for additional tax measures and service redistribution that ultimately leaves county residents at a disadvantage. So, while residents are seeing costs go up, they’re seeing EMS response times and quality of care diminish. That’s just not right.

In <local county>, our ambulance services are dictated by something deemed the Alliance model. This is where the fire department is given complete control of all emergency services, without the typical oversight of an EMS agency. This type of model breeds misbehavior because oversight is virtually non-existent, and the fire department can run ambulance services as they see fit. It’s no wonder that in 2018 the State Emergency Medical Services Authority suspected that <local county>’s largest fire department, <local Fire Department Name>, colluded with the county’s local EMS Agency to rig bidding on contracts that supported public-private partnerships in ambulance services. They simply want the services for themselves, while subcontracting it to a private company for cheap. A win-win for <local Fire Department Name>, but a loss for everyone else.

<Local Assemblyman Name> introduced legislation that would codify this backwards EMS services model at the state level, and <local county>’s misbehavior will become commonplace. <Law Number> allows a county to develop an EMS program where the fire department holds all decision-making power regarding ambulance services. <Law Number> not only hurts the patients EMS programs serve, but it also hurts the programs’ workers too. This legislation hinders the worker’s ability to bargain over working conditions, like fatigue relief, and is one of the many reasons both AFSCME and SEIU have publicly opposed it.

So, not only was my understanding outdated, but the change is being pushed to the entire state I live in. Outlook doesn't look great. Pretty soon we're going to need and f/AFFAB (All Fire Fighters Are Bad). :(

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Kinshavo OP wrote

It baffles me that so many "public services" in the US are not provided by free (or even provided at all).

I mean this is supposed to be the greatest country on Earth, the Empire itself, the nation that set the life standards for everyone else. And I don't want to sound ironic here, I just want to point out that this reality tells something about civilization ™

Not feeling specially hopeful today

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zoom_zip wrote

they only call themselves the greatest country on earth

nobody outside their borders is delusional enough to fall for that propaganda

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halfway_prince wrote

i agree that a lot of countries have come to realize that the US sucks, but there's still a huge influx of immigrants into the country and I would say there still is a predominant narrative of the US as a land of prosperity that is dissonant with the reality of living in the US outside of the top 1-10%.

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existential1 wrote

I agree with this take. The idea that people are getting "wise" to the US just doesnt match immigration numbers, taking into account the suppression of recent US regimes.

That being said, the US probably has the greatest marketing of any country ever. We did raise Edward Bernase.

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zoom_zip wrote (edited )

but the US aren’t even #1 in immigration rates. and how much of it is opportunistic immigration, not going there because the thought is “this is the best place in the world” but because “it’s a place i can get to and it’s better than where i am.”

edit: i might be wrong about this. i thought it wasn’t the US but i’m finding some places that say it is

edit 2: okay it is the US by quite a large margin 🤷‍♀️ my mistake

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halfway_prince wrote

no worries, i still think you're getting at an interesting point with the bifurcation of how the way the US is viewed by different countries and between classes within countries.

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annikastheory wrote

This is a tangent but anyone here ever see the cartoon movie American Tail? Total bummer of a cartoon but from what I remember it deals a lot with immigrant's perception of America vs the reality.

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Quicksilver wrote

Very busy month for me. Going to be doing a bike test soon to be able to ride a motorbike, which is exciting. I'll still be using public transport TBF, but I'm getting to a point where I also need the flexibility of a vehicle.

I wanted to go visit my family in another country this year, but I've seen that the pricing is just to high, with everything else going on. Don't have over a grand to put down for testing, tickets, and everything else.

I've decided to actually just delete Facebook finally. Only use it for messenger, but I've just decided to get people on other messaging apps anyways.

Maybe a bit TMI, bit just going to stop watching porn as well. Probably where most of my internet time goes anyway, and I'm just tired of it, and all the time spent on it.

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moonlune wrote (edited )

Don't have over a grand to put down for testing, tickets, and everything else.

and the two weeks of quarantine in a hotel (for china)! It's as expensive as the plane ticket.

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metocin wrote

I feel much better about myself after quitting porn-watching. It consumed a lot of my time as well, and when you learn about some of the ethical issues it makes you feel really disgusting to continue it anyways. Good luck

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Quicksilver wrote

Thanks for the support man!

Yeah, the ethical issues are definitely there. I would justify it by turning sites where you pay for people's work so that it's not as exploitative, but then I was spending a lot of coinage that I really need for other things, and I'd just fall into going back to hub sites anyway.

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lettuceLeafer wrote

On mobile you can you messenger without having Facebook installed.

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Quicksilver wrote

Really? I thought you needed a Facebook account to use Facebook messenger, as all it connects ghrough your friends list?

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lettuceLeafer wrote

You do need a Facebook account but you don't need the Facebook app. So you can block the website on your computer and not have the app installed on your phone and still use messenger.

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Quicksilver wrote

Oh yeah, that's fair enough then. Still just might delete it overall though, if I can get the people I want on other things.

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annikastheory wrote

I deleted my facebook years ago. I regretted it a lot though. I didn't really spend time getting peoples contact info or getting them to follow me to something else. I sort of just suddenly pulled the plug on it and unintentionally isolated myself from almost everyone. Sounds like you are wiser than me though and you are already getting people to migrate with you elsewhere or getting their contact info.

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Quicksilver wrote

Yeah, one thing I didn't want was to suddenly isolate myself or lose things. So I downloaded all my data from it (2 gigs of data dating back to 2004, I was shocked I've been on that long), and other details.

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CameronNemo wrote

I also have my data dump hanging around. Indeed it is a quantity of data.

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Ashy wrote

apathy's back

i love school /s

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inthedustofthisplanet wrote (edited )

So I got cat ears with bells and I must say it seriously counteracts some of the s̲ṷf̣f̷eͧr͈i͍ṇg̼ on earth.

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annikastheory wrote

Glad its Friday finally.

Been getting angry with my in-laws recently. I have to work to survive and I can't afford full time daycare so they watch my kiddo during the week. She has been throwing stuff at their house a lot lately and their response is to get unreasonably angry and to yell at her. She legit doesn't throw stuff at home I think because we actually validate her emotions and don't really get angry with her.

We have talked with my in-laws about how we don't think their response is appropriate, and we show them how we respond and tell them that she doesn't do this at our home, but then they get super defensive and yell at us for blaming them for "her problem". They go on about how we just "let her do whatever she wants" and "we don't parent" and how there is "no way she is not throwing stuff at home". Its infuriating.

I really don't feel right about her being there most of the week. I don't have a lot of options but there is one we are thinking about that may or may not work out. In general my kiddo gets excited to go over to her grandparents but usually when she gets home from there she is crabby and temperamental. I just worry about her and I am frustrated that she has to be watched by them.

I am just glad its the weekend because she doesn't have to be over there for a few days. in-laws suck, if it wasn't for my wife I would want to cut them out of my life completely.

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bloodrose wrote

How old is your child?

The below is based on guessing that your kid is younger


I found when my daughter was young almost all of her "negative" emotions could be tracked back to not taking care of her physical needs. I remember my in-laws visiting and we kept taking her to fun places and I just kept feeding her popcorn and juice, like, non-stop. My in-laws commented about it, joking that she was purely fueled by popcorn and juice and I said if you let the kid get hungry and thirsty while out at the fun place, then the fun place turns into toddler meltdown. And eventually, popcorn and juice would stop working and she'd need a rest and have to be carried everywhere because walking all day was too much.

Basically, what I'm saying is maybe your kid doesn't throw stuff at your home because you're anticipating their needs but the in-laws aren't. Can you send the kid with food/snacks/fuel that they can access on their own? Is she old enough to do that? Can you ask them to do a "snack time" to make sure that the food/beverage need is being addressed? Tired is harder to address, especially if a kid starts out excited, they may be pushing to stay excited and not understanding they are actually tired. When my mom watched my kid, she does all the exciting/hard playing at the beginning then feeds the kid and starts a movie.

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annikastheory wrote

She's not quite three. Yeah some of the issue revolves around food, we have trouble getting her to eat sometimes because she can be picky or because she gets bored eating. They have gotten on us for not making her eat what she is given but like the doctor got on us because her weight is on the low end so I don't even want to play that game (not that I would want to under normal circumstances). I think the snack idea is a good idea. My wife and I have been having a lot of conversations about things we can try to make sure she is eating enough.

There is a little more to it though. I think she does it for attention now too over there. Just this morning, when I dropped her off, she had a snack in her hand and threw it across the floor. I asked her why she threw it and she told me she was all done with the snack. I have never seen her throw anything for that reason. At home she would either just set it down or come tell me that she was all done and hand it to me. I have to wonder if they just don't pay much attention to her when we aren't around. I don't know it doesn't give me good feelings over all but maybe I am looking into it too much.

I also think she does it partially in response to their anger which is ironic because they have created a cycle there.

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bloodrose wrote

She's not quite three

Wait, they're freaking out over how a 2-year old is acting? Like, how do they expect a 2-year old to act? My goodness. 2-year olds are precious and cute but they're still more instinct than logic...like a lot of instinct. What do they think yelling at a 2-year old is going to accomplish other than abject fear? There is nothing but fear instinct to happen here. I'm so sorry. I understand your reticence to have your child around them.

I have to wonder if they just don't pay much attention to her when we aren't around.

I also think she does it partially in response to their anger which is ironic because they have created a cycle there.

This is literally what the research on punishments says will happen. Like, exactly. It increases the negative behavior that is being punished. The yelling is punishing and the child is acting out because of the punishments. It seems illogical but the studies say this is what happens.

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annikastheory wrote

Yeah, her age makes the whole thing an extra level of absurd.

wait, they're freaking out over how a 2-year old is acting? Like, how do they expect a 2-year old to act? My goodness. 2-year olds are precious and cute but they're still more instinct than logic...like a lot of instinct. What do they think yelling at a 2-year old is going to accomplish other than abject fear?

I have said almost those exact words to them

This is literally what the research on punishments says will happen. Like, exactly. It increases the negative behavior that is being punished. The yelling is punishing and the child is acting out because of the punishments. It seems illogical but the studies say this is what happens.

They, especially my mother in law, are very difficult to reason with but we have told them as much. We are probably going to try having a big talk with them but they have a bad track record with that so probably going to have to pursue an alternative.

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gracklegrackle wrote

I'm so so sorry that's been happening, that's extremely frustrating :( Fuck capitalism and all the other bullshit, forcing you to choose between work or having yr kid stay with neglectful old jerks who aren't good to her. I hope it gets sorted out.

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bloodrose wrote

They go on about how we just "let her do whatever she wants" and "we don't parent"

Also, though, just want to give some support to the idea of letting kids do what they want (provided they are safe and are not hurting or endangering others) and parenting in a way that gets you accused of not parenting. A lot of people use the word "parenting" to mean punishing children. It sounds like you care a lot and I am so proud of you! <3 <3

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annikastheory wrote (edited )

Yeah that's exactly what they think of as parenting. Parenting to them is yelling, shame, negative consequences, and punishments. I tend to think more in love, growth, dialogues, and understandings. My wife calls it gentle parenting, which I guess is a thing, but I just do what makes the most sense given what I believe about autonomy and stuff.

It sounds like you care a lot and I am so proud of you! <3 <3

Thanks that really means a lot. Like really a lot I appreciate it.

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bloodrose wrote

You sound like you do like we do. Everything that comes up is an issue on its own to work through and problem-solve for. Nothing is a rule and we work together to figure out what works best for everyone. I wish you lived near me. I need more anarchist parents in my life.

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annikastheory wrote

I wish you lived near me. I need more anarchist parents in my life.

Yeah that would be nice. I need more anarchists in my life in general. I am pretty much surrounded by conservatives.

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Kinshavo OP wrote

You know what they say, when you marry you get to add a new family to your own.

Stay strong! I hope the things work out for you.

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gracklegrackle wrote

I can't stop making Joe Mama/Deez Nuts jokes, I've been getting more elaborate with them, and everybody close to me is getting pissed off about it. A select few of the Real Ones having been joining in with me though.

I started school! Almost a decade after barely graduating high school! Ngl, I'm excited. I'm hoping it will bring stability after a loooong time of being on and off the streets/in and out of rehabs/in and out of psych wards. Although, maybe I'm just falling for the conventional society myth or something. Who knows, I don't care.

I miss the infoshop that I poured a ton of time and energy into, curating books and generally taking care of. It was a home to me. It's still there, I just moved very far away from it.

Overall, things are kinda looking up. I'm not beaming with hope or anything, but I feel content and have been washed over by a happiness that isn't the usual mania, but rather a silent joy. Still broke as shit which is stressful, but that should be figured out in the next month or two.

Oh! And I got down some tough 3-ball juggling patterns I had been struggling with for months.

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annikastheory wrote

started school! Almost a decade after barely graduating high school!

I don't know if you are in the states but if you are avoid going into debt if you can, or like do some research about your career path. I got a stupid useless degree, and a needlessly expensive school and am basically paying the equivalent to a rent payment to my loan company now. I basically am funding my bank with overdraft fees its fantastic.

I am glad things look up and I hope you get stability too.

Learned a new word the other day jugglery. Which is both the art of a juggler as well as "manipulation or trickery especially to achieve a desired end" I found that humorous for some reason.

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mindforgedmanacles wrote

My chronic hyperventilation is driving me insane! Has anyone else here dealt with this before, and if so, what did you do to deal with it? It is making me want to off myself every second I'm awake.

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