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FuckCopyright OP wrote

I'd generally tell them thanks for their work, although I do come from the UK where we're more reserved, so such sincere statements may be a bit rare. I think expressions of gratitude are much more encouraged in America to the point it can be difficult to tell whether someone is being sincere or not.

I will need to find a way myself to do this, where some people expect to be addressed or address others with "sir", "ma'am", "bro" etc.

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bloodrose wrote

I am indeed an American and we say thank you so danged much. I literally sign my emails "thank you". When in the drive through, I think I say thank you every time an item is handed to me so if there are multiple of us in the car getting drinks, there's like 4 or 5 thank yous.

However, it isn't that I'm looking necessarily to say thank you, but to honor the person who provides a service. Like, what use am I to the world? I count money for shareholders. But people who make food and deliver groceries, they actually do shit. They should have some honorific that shows that I respect them as being useful and awesome without saying "you're useful and awesome" every time. I don't think "thank you" covers that sentiment.

I've been sad trying to think of what I could possibly replace it with.

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FuckCopyright OP wrote (edited )

Hmm... this is tricky. My parents, as gender policing and... backward and repressive as they are, are healthcare workers and are kind of being shafted by the government (and according to them at least, the patients they're caring for and some of the colleagues they're dealing with). For them, any form of gratitude is appreciated from them. This will be more tricky in an environment where expressing gratitude is more of a social norm.

If you are in a position to help people who make food and deliver groceries, try going the extra mile? My mother, as much as she shouldn't be doing this, prepares for gender reveal parties, and generally does what her colleagues don't, by like preparing food from her background whereas in some occasions, her colleagues only bring in snacks for meetings or other events. Maybe you could help these people who make food and deliver groceries have food on their table or introduce them to a unique experience they're unlikely to encounter in their daily lives, without needing to give them money too? If not, I'm sorry if I can't think of anything at the moment; I hope someone else here can help you. Just don't offer to participate in gender reveal parties.

Here in the UK, a pay rise was promised to everyone but healthcare workers, and healthcare workers are frankly feeling insulted by this government measure.

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