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moonlune wrote (edited )

If you're ready to pay 50$ a year you can get a vps host it for you, you'll be up and running in a few hours and will never need to see a terminal, eg this:

I'm poor and not a noob so I self host a static web page (basically my résumé) on a raspberry pi at home for the price of: inital cost 30$ (the rasperry pi) + ~10$ every year (the domain name).

If you're as noob as you say it'll probably take a few months to absorb all this information. Here's a quick list of stuff to look up:


lettuceLeafer wrote

I would say learning Google Fu will serve you extremely well. Even if raddle is a great resource for this kinda thing which it isn't the guides online r allways going to be way more through. And by Google Fu I mean the info u seek is findable with Google in almost certainly quicker and of higher quality than asking on raddle.


Fool wrote

Reply to Beginner by peter

Start your own currency. Other people might not accept it, but you'll have lots of it.


lettuceLeafer wrote (edited )

Reply to Beginner by peter

Mcdonalds, heck a lot of burger king's pay next day so maybe that's a better option.


lettuceLeafer wrote

I think u brought up ideas with good intentions. I disagree with basically everything tho. But I said my peace in Thai issue so I'll leave OP alone.


metocin wrote

Running is a good option and moving is too but considering the OP didn't mention that in their post, those are probably not viable options. Moving isn't easy or possible for many folks, and in many living situations you probably don't have the ability to run away from someone already in your home, and probably don't have alternate exits.

Suggesting getting a dog to someone who is apparently in a dangerous situation is gross. You're telling someone to put another innocent life in danger.

Obviously nobody wants to fight. Nobody wants their lives in danger. I can assure you almost anybody in a dangerous situation thinks of every other alternative than having to defend themselves. There's no need to explain why fighting is bad.

Could u live with yourself if u killed like a mom trying to feed their kids bc you thought they were a risk when they weren't

This hypothetical is a bit ridiculous given the situation OP described where they don't have access to firearms. You don't just "accidentally" kill an unarmed person who is threatening you when there are no guns involved. I don't think this is a helpful way to help OP think about the consequences of self defense.

If you have practical advice to give then do so but there's no need to patronize OP and make them feel as if their need for self defense isn't justified.


metocin wrote (edited )

I would be a lot more scared by someone with a big blade than by someone holding a big ass hammer. Easier to grab a bat or hammer our of someone hands than it is grabbing a sharpened blade. Hitting with a sledge requires a wind up and it would be easy to rush you so that you would be too close to get a good swing. Plus you have to be fairly strong for it to be effective. I've swung a lot of big hammers and I would not want to rely on one for defense in close quarters. Just get a blade that you can use with two hands so that you have a good grip and make sure it looks scary. Make sure to practice with it.


lettuceLeafer wrote (edited )

I'll suggest a completely different angle. Violence isn't something u can just do in self defense. Guns r hard but the mental hardships for bashing a humans skull in with a blunt object is something else. If u wanna be effective ur going to have to completely change how u view the world mentality n stuff. Combat psychology is weird. Ur not just going be able to beat people to death even if u train and it's in self defense.

For one I would say avoiding a fight is always better. Tho I imagine u can't do that as that often requires resources n stuff. Tho I would make a long term plan to being in a place where u r safe. Feeling like ur always in risk of death is a really bad mindset to be in.

I'd say give up in the idea of a weapon. Unless u wanna become someone who has the capacity to kill people (I assure u u don't) I'd get a dog. They are way more aware of dangers n risks, often inately someone good at attacking people, way more aware of souroundings and don't have the apprehension of hurting humans.

I'm not saying train a killer dog. U can train dogs to be super nice and they still will attack dangerous people. Dogs r like really good at sensing danger. (Well they sense danger all the time but they do have usually a better idea of risk than humans do.

I mean u will have to get a breed that is scary and has the capability. Pits and ritwilers scare the shit out of people. U will have to spend lots of time with them tho. When they are young they need to be walked a lot......

(Fuck I forgot about city folk. Most live in apartments and can't have big ass dogs.) You probably can't get a dog.

Unless u are really interested in getting some combat experience to prepare. And I mean not even boxing or something like actually fight I would view betting a blunt weapon as completely useless. And at worst artificially view u as safer which is good and bad. Good as it keeps you calm in day to day but bad in that u don't understand your risks.

So if u can't get a dog I would get good at running. Have the place u live able to leave through multiple exits and give yourself time to leave and alert yourself to intruders. Bell on door, locks ect.

Know all possible exits and entrances of places you'll be attacked. Maybe even have running shoes in all the time. Limit time in rooms with only one exit. Def sleep in room with multiple exits.

Then imagine scenarios so u know what to do to limit shock.

(I'm sitting on my computer, I hear my window get broken open, I look around to find the closest exit away from attackers. Then practice to escape. And ask where are you going to and how far can u run. Cars r great places to be safe in bc they lock and move fast. So this answer prob will just be car then drive to public place. Do more research on running away it's complicated and I just wanted to get u started.

So I guess my point is due to like violence psychology n stuff us probly just put yourself in way more danger if u tried to fight. It's a different story if y actually have like attacked people purposefully. And I don't mean like oh I kinda wanted to hurt them a bit. But even then I still would recommend avoidance and escape as badly better ideas.

Plus there was is my ethical quandary with home defense. If u confuse a burgaler for an attempt on ur life you will have killed or tried to kill someone for property crime. Which is extremely shit. And to be Frank it's hard to determine if the person with a crowbar who is in your house wants to hurt u or just steal. In a dangerous situation waiting to see if they will attack u might get u killed. Running u can use this advantage. If u fight u have to make the decision if you are willing to kill someone for being poor and desperate. Could u live with yourself if u killed like a mom trying to feed their kids bc you thought they were a risk when they weren't. Otherwise you'll be in way more danger from waiting to figure that out than if u just run away. Plus even if u do live and they were trying to kill u you brain will be like all fucked up. Killing someone isn't something that most don't care. (Haven't killed someone so I could be wrong)

Running u'll prob be traumatized but almost certainly have a badly better quality of life than if you had the good ending of self defense.

Just to make sure I'm clear. Fighting is a horrible absolutely bad for 100s of pages written by people who have combat experience and had to regularly fight an kill people. Avoid the concentration to begin with. If you really can't do that and I mean u really can't learn to run and get a dog if you can.

I actually have live ability and history of fighting with blunt objects and I wouldn't consider fighting off an attacked with a blunt object as a good plan never all multiple. The fact that you think you could possibly fend off multiple people who attacking u is like so nti grounded in reality. If u try to fend of multiple murders with a sword you will almost certainly die.

Sry if I came off as harsh you are almostly certainly in a horrible place mentally. So I tried my hardest to give u advice that isn't just pounding nails into your own coffin. I prob should have been nicer but I struggle in trying to get the point across that someone's plan is absolutely horrible without being a complete prick.


veuzi wrote (edited )

Baseball bat or an improvised baton for a first line of defense. If that fails, you could have a knife or a short machete on hand. You don't want long, unweildy polearms or warhammers if the purpose is to defend yourself indoors. Stash your bat/baton close to the entrance but out of sight from any would-be attackers or cops.


Fool wrote

Someone grabbing a quarterstaff will suddenly find themselves attached to a large lever, wherein you have the kinetic advantage, you'll be able to send them flying in a direction of your choice if you didn't break their hands when they attempted to grab it.

Overall any weapon you choose, you will want to get some form of practice in using, so it isn't just another tool for people to use against you.


Defensehelp74 OP wrote

Thoughts on Warhammers or machetes? I mean the former look pretty intimidating and are sometimes small enough for indoor use, blunt weapons are good and all but occasionally my concern is whether or not they can be grabbed (Especially if multiple attackers are involved).

With these people, other main fear is they might be hellbent on hurting me and would risk coming against me.


Defensehelp74 OP wrote (edited )

Kind of looking into them now and I guess they would be best for when you are in your garden, porch or something?

In my country for most provinces, sharp swords, axes, machetes or spears are among the only weapons you can legally own funnily enough with little regulation but a ton of others all being banned. Firearms also can't be owned for protection. Mostly can't take them outside of your home though.

I'm still inquiring into whether they are legal or not but what are your thoughts on Warhammers and Polehammers as an in-door option? They seem to be able to do really strong blunt damage that can really easily break bones and some but not all have a single spike at the top that is for optional use.

My main concern with blunt weapons is how easily can they be grabbed off of you though when it comes to Quarterstaffs or Warhammers?


moonlune wrote

First I want to say I'm really sorry these people make you fear for your life inside your own house.

The reason you want a self defence tool is too disengage fights, not to kill. You need a weapon that's either scary enough for them to think you're a total psycho and never engage or something that will make them run away without triggering a "fight for my life" response which would make things even more dangerous for you.

It'd say getting a baseball bat for actual fights is good enough. Or any long metal stick equivalent really.

If you end up buying one of those weapons I wouldn't recommend any for combat, just angrily parade around with it to scare them when they're far away for them to not feel in immediate danger.


Fool wrote

General consensus from when I use to do weapons based combat training, a quarterstaff was considered a pretty strong option - with metal caps if possible.

It's not sharp, so no chance of being illegal, just a big chunk of wood for breaking bones. I think 2.5-3m is standard based on user height, so it will keep range against other melee weapons, and both ends can be used for fighting against multiple opponents.

It's not so great for inside houses, but still probably less likely to get you in trouble or cause a self injury compared to the spear.

In my country it is illegal to keep a sharpened sword if it isn't locked in a case, so an axe or large digging tool is probably a more reliable weapon to keep on hand.


ziq wrote

Hey Bible superfan. How do you live with yourself, spending every day of your life promoting a book that upholds slavery and rape?

Exodus 21:20-21:

Anyone who beats their male or female slave with a rod must be punished if the slave dies as a direct result, but they are not to be punished if the slave recovers after a day or two, since the slave is their property.

Exodus 21:2-6:

If you buy a Hebrew servant, he is to serve you for six years. But in the seventh year, he shall go free, without paying anything. If he comes alone, he is to go free alone; but if he has a wife when he comes, she is to go with him. If his master gives him a wife and she bears him sons or daughters, the woman and her children shall belong to her master, and only the man shall go free.

But if the servant declares, ‘I love my master and my wife and children and do not want to go free,’ then his master must take him before the judges. He shall take him to the door or the doorpost and pierce his ear with an awl. Then he will be his servant for life.

Leviticus 25:44-46:

Your male and female slaves are to come from the nations around you; from them you may buy slaves. You may also buy some of the temporary residents living among you and members of their clans born in your country, and they will become your property. You can bequeath them to your children as inherited property and can make them slaves for life, but you must not rule over your fellow Israelites ruthlessly.

Numbers 31:17-18:

Now kill all the boys. And kill every woman who has slept with a man, but save for yourselves every girl who has never slept with a man.

Deuteronomy 20:10-14:

When you march up to attack a city, make its people an offer of peace. If they accept and open their gates, all the people in it shall be subject to forced labor and shall work for you. If they refuse to make peace and they engage you in battle, lay siege to that city. When the Lord your God delivers it into your hand, put to the sword all the men in it. As for the women, the children, the livestock and everything else in the city, you may take these as plunder for yourselves. And you may use the plunder the Lord your God gives you from your enemies.

Ephesians 6:5:

Slaves, obey your earthly masters with respect and fear, and with sincerity of heart, just as you would obey Christ.

Colossians 3:22:

Slaves, obey your earthly masters in everything; and do it, not only when their eye is on you and to curry their favor, but with sincerity of heart and reverence for the Lord.

1 Timothy 6:1:

All who are under the yoke of slavery should consider their masters worthy of full respect, so that God’s name and our teaching may not be slandered.

1 Peter 2:18:

Slaves, in reverent fear of God submit yourselves to your masters, not only to those who are good and considerate, but also to those who are harsh.

Titus 2:9-10:

Teach slaves to be subject to their masters in everything, to try to please them, not to talk back to them, and not to steal from them, but to show that they can be fully trusted, so that in every way they will make the teaching about God our Savior attractive.