Submitted by jus74hu3m4n in addiction

So I've struggled with both alcohol and weed abuse for the last decade.

Most I've been able to go without both is a yea max r,but afterwards, there's no motivation to continue.

I know that the alcohol is worse for me, it's bcaused me problems and I know avoiding it would be best, but I've been using more frequently since my dad died from cancer complications last year. I know that I don't want to be a drunkard, but being isolated, introverted and none to greagrious, I fear fallong back into patterns of daily abuse

I don't think it helps that I now have to leave my house for enslavment tha to promised hirer pay, but due to HR issues, I'm mow losong more.money than I make.

Instead of going home, I spent three hours at some dive insteading of heading home and studying.

I know this is my reaction to alienation and I don't want to fallback into abusive habits, but I don't really ahve any will to be sober since my dad died.

I know I'm drinking as a substitute for interpersonal conatct since I'm not of a mindset to meet starngers, don't nreally engage in cretive hobbies anymore and ge to be motivated by my awareness of the world.

I know what habist I'd replace with drinking,but it's difficult to do alone and compunded by the fact that I don't reachout to peopel, even though I knownit would help me.

Long atory shirt, how's ya'llnstay sober without a supoort network?

Sorry about rant, spelling errors and grammar

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NOISEBOB wrote

I quit drinking because i always ended up fucked up (breaking bones, getting arrested and general depression), one day I just had enough of that shit. Wasn't easy, but it I felt it was a choice between life or death, literally..

I started smoking a lot more weed for some time, but that I got under control as I realised I was missing out on life (seeing friends travel and doing fun stuff)....

I still smoke weed from time to time, tho....

I believe in you. ☺️🐰

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NOISEBOB wrote

Ps. Going cold turkey on alcohol can lead to brain damage and death, so please have that in mind, especially if you are on hard liquors!

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lettuceLeafer wrote

Maybe don't be sober. Maybe find a middle ground that u like. For one I would advocate for trying to make all ur alcohol u build a positive skill and it's less impulsive and way way cheaper. Don't worry it's super easy if u don't overcomplicate it.

I would say philosophy that helps deal with emotional distress would be quite helpful, Buddhism, taoism, stoicism and cynicism are pretty good and active nihilism can help too tho thru observation it's not nearly as effective in emotional resiliency.

Way easier said than done but solve the problem of emotional distress. Also follow my three R's Reduce, Replace and Resist

So instead of sobriety take it a day at a time in a safer fashion. Reduce by changing how much u consume at one time and how much u consume overall, replace by changing to a safer substance and resist by trying to kick the next dose down the road.

So some strategies using the 3 rs is one drink one glass of water per alcoholic drink and dillutie said dose. Not to mention alcohol dehydrates the hell out of u so u will feel and be better off. I usually do 1 wine to 2 water so half a glass at a time in a large glass or half a shot filled with like 10oz water. Then u chug some more water.

Maybe use a far safer drug instead such as taking kratom instead of alcohol or using more cannabis instead or using cannabis edibles rather than smoking. And then whenever u think U want to drink, u go ehh let's see if I wanna drink in 20 mins or something, set a timer and then if u still wanna drink go drink.

I find the taoist philosophy arroudn substances to be much better than my old method tho I'm not enough of a sage to explain it lol it's complicated.

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mitkahartford wrote (edited )

Some people advocate for giving up drinking step-bys-step, and others say you should forget about it overnight. But it’s only you who can decide what’s better and what works for you. The best solution for me was help from a professional interventionist who managed to get to my drunk mind and explain to me that I am going down because of this habit and I had to stop, or I’ll destroy myself completely. I was true, and I knew that; I just lacked someone else telling me this, so I know it’s real for sure. The main thing for you is to understand what’s killing you and remove it from your life.

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lettuceLeafer wrote

I didn't advocate for giving up drinking step by step or go cold turkey. I said leaving oneself open to just drinking forever at a sustainable level is a acceptable option but yeah I agree it's up to people to decide what's best for them

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