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JayGrym wrote

Lol I don't have dreads. Quit attacking people.

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martasultan wrote

I hate the 'dirty hair' response because people should wash their hair regardless. Nasty.

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JayGrym wrote

Some people live outside. It happens. But it's THEIR hair. None of my business lol I appreciate the point you make. But there really is no use projecting my expectations onto others. I was merely pointing out the OP was not appropriating another culture or at least not the culture most people think. According to wiki, "The ancient Vedic scriptures of India which are thousands of years old have the earliest evidence of jaata/locks which are almost exclusively worn by holy men and women. It has been part of a religious practice for Shiva followers."

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martasultan wrote (edited )

Some people live outside. It happens.

Europeans prior to civilization as it stands would braid their hair and spend a lot of time keeping it clean because fucking mold grows in dirty matted hair. People need to clean their fucking hair.

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JayGrym wrote (edited )

Actually OP states he didn't even think about race when he got the dreads so that means THEY weren't being racist. But I have received multiple racist paragraphs now lol ironic. Race is a dividing factor because people emphasize race like it matters. Its another form of division that will continue to keep the masses separate, preventing any form of strong resistance to an oppressive system. Yes, I'm aware certain races have been tormented by white people for centuries. But I haven't oppressed any race. I'm assuming OP tries not to oppress others either (I hope so anyway). Its foolish to continue dividing strength of the masses, unless you wish for the oppression to continue. Unite or we all suffer. Its a simple belief. Also, the example I gave was the EARLIEST known example. Not the only one. EDIT/ADDITION: Over half of surviving Ancient Greek kouroi sculptures (from c. 615 – 485 BC) are found wearing dreadlocks. Were Greeks black? Everyone pulling the race card really seems kinda racist. Just my opinion. I just don't see a point in division. It weakens the cause. We are all the same species.

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indi wrote

Actually OP states he didn't even think about race when he got the dreads so that means THEY weren't being racist.

You think you can only be racist if you're being deliberately racist?

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JayGrym wrote

No, but I do think that he was just doing something to make himself feel comfortable without hurting anyone. I think all races have the capability to be racist. I'm stating racism is only helping the ruling class (I definitely don't fit in that category) and by criticizing someone for having dreads and being white is senseless and racist lol it doesn't enrage me. Just disappointing because I'm hoping for revolution, not more of the same ignorance I could get from any white racist. Judging from the comments it looks like I'm the odd man out and everyone else wants some ridiculous race war or something. I don't support any racist ideals and I don't think it's okay to say someone can't do something because they are red, yellow, black, or white. Because that is the essence of racism.

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yaaqov wrote

Because that is the essence of racism.

It's really not, though. Racism is structural/societal/institutional (and crucially, asymmetrical) system of oppression. While people of all races can be racist, it's not possible to be racist towards people of all races; namely, it's not possible to racist towards white people, though it's certainly possible to be prejudiced or mean towards white people, since they will never be made to institutionally suffer as a result of their whiteness.

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JayGrym wrote

I understand. I simply have no control over those institutions. If I did they would no longer exist. What I'm coming to understand is if you're white just go screw yourself because no one wants your help. I just think that hurts the cause. The whites that aren't racist get lumped in with those that are racist. So there will be no progress on this front. Tactically, this is exactly what racist whites want. They want a complete distrust and hatred toward whites, especially if those whites are against the racism because it divides the general populations power. There's no solution for "white trash" like myself. We are white so we can't be part of the solution. How do I personally stop systemic racism? Show me the solution so I can follow the proper path please.

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indi wrote

What I'm coming to understand is if you're white just go screw yourself because no one wants your help. I just think that hurts the cause. The whites that aren't racist get lumped in with those that are racist. So there will be no progress on this front.

If that's what you're "coming to understand", then the real reason you're getting "lumped in" with white racists is because you're becoming one.

Racism is actually a pretty simple concept. It's racial bigotry + systemic oppression. Anyone of any race can do racial bigotry against any other race (or even their own!). So yes, when a black person makes fun of "honkies", they are doing racial bigotry just as much as when a white person makes fun of "n-words".

But the systemic oppression part makes a huge difference in those two cases. The systemic oppression of black people by white people means when a white person uses "the n-word", it's not just racial bigotry... it's racial bigory + systemic oppression... which makes it racism. By contrast, when a black person uses "honky", it's just racial bigotry without systemic oppression. That difference is why I can write out "honky", but have to say "n-word" rather than use the word.

Racial bigotry is bad. But racism, because it involves systemic oppression, is really goddam bad, and must be called out and fought against whenever it appears.

Now here's the really important thing about everything I've explained above... are you ready?... here it goes: There is not a single mention of "intention" anywhere.

That's because intentionality doesn't matter. When you said "[a]ctually OP states he didn't even think about race when he got the dreads so that means THEY weren't being racist", that is literally the dumbest fucking thing I read all week - and that's saying a lot because I'm an activist who reads a lot of right wing shit that is so stupid you wonder how they even mustered the brain power to move their fingers on the keyboard.

Racism doesn't stop being racism just because you didn't mean to hurt anyone. And it certainly doesn't stop being racism just because you were being selfish and not giving a fuck... oh, pardon me, "doing something to make yourself feel comfortable".

If dreads really were culturally appropriated, then it does not matter even one tiny bit whether the OP appropriated them deliberately or even knew they were appropriated. Yes, ignorance is not a defence, and "not caring" is certainly not. Good intentions are also not a defence - culturally appropriating something because you like the culture you're appropriating it from does not make you a hero. (I mean, duh, right?) Cultural appropriation is stealing, and stealing is stealing. Saying "I didn't think about race when I culturally appropriated this" is no different from saying "I didn't think about the people I was stealing this from"; you can't seriously believe that is a sensible defence, can you?

Now... all that being said, I don't know if dreads really are a cultural appropriation issue. I've never met a person of colour who really cared - not even activists sensitive to the issue of appropriation - because it's not something actually deprives the source culture of anything. It's not like a white artist doing indigenous-style art, or a white musician "acting black" and making black music. Those things are actually taking away opportunities from the source culture. Another reason people have told me they don't care is that it's not like white people are being rewarded for wearing dreads while people of colour are being punished for it. That's what I've always been told about the issue. But you shouldn't take my experience or anecdotes as the final word. If you care, you should ask people of colour what they think (but not every rando PoC you know or meet - ask in places where those kinds of questions are welcome; there are plenty of groups who are happy to discuss those kinds of topics).

And that's really the problem that I'd say everyone here has with both your and the OP's attitudes. Doing something racist is not in itself a crime, because we all grew up in a very racist society and racism is deeply embedded in everything we've learned. We are all "white trash" (well, those of use who are white, anyway). We will fuck up and do racist shit from time to time... all of us. And if we're lucky, we'll have friends who call us out for it. What happens next is where your and the OP's problem lies. When you do something racist and someone calls you out on it, do you humbly ask experts - usually the targets of the alleged racism, who are almost always the experts on the topic - about their opinions, and what you should do next? Or do you act like an ignorant, privileged asshole, assume you know best about racial issues that really don't have any impact at all on you and that you've never really thought about before, and start whining about how much it sucks to be white?

One of those choices is correct. The other is how you get lumped in with white racists.

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JayGrym wrote

I agree with you. I have asked how I personally can stop systemic racism and haven't gotten an answer (I don't think it was you that I asked). If I can get an answer to that I will follow that path.

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JayGrym wrote (edited )

I accept this but I have never been racist, never defended a racist, never done anything to belittle someone based on race. And also no one knows my background. I've been poor my whole life and I'm a short, skinny white dude with fucked up teeth (too poor to get them fixed) and long hair with chaos tattooed on my neck. I'm not exactly accepted here where I live (bible belt). CPS tried to take my kids because a doctor lied and said I was having drug withdrawals (I don't do drugs, he was disregarding my questions about my children and I was shaking because I wanted to hit the doctor). This doesn't compare to the wrongs whites have done to other races for centuries. But I have never supported any form of racism and those that commented with belligerent racist remarks are only pushing people away from the cause because it turns into hate speech (note I never spouted any). I grew up in a low income area in California and moved to Oklahoma to look for work. My point is the dialogue here has been completely counterintuitive to the mission statement of this forum and I'm a little disappointed because I had hoped that raddle would be a place for like-minded people to learn from each other (rather than hurl pointless race-based hatred toward one another) and organize against the system that succeeds BECAUSE racism has us dividing our power. I can't change my skin color and I can't go back in time to stop slavery and racism. I can only live in the present. If I was offending any party, I am truly apologetic but it was unintentional. I thought we all had the same goal.

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