Viewing a single comment thread. View all comments

Fry wrote (edited )

Whatever dude. I was focussing on that specific girl in that specific situation, not generalizing it. You are trying to find faults where there are none to be found, trying to put words in my mouth. I dont disagree with the "general theme" of the article. I'm just disgusted and saddened by the fact that this particular girl never got to live out her dream because of transphobia. Which is what I was addressing. I bet you're a lovely person to know in real life

SUMMARY: The sad part may not be the only important part in this article, but it is a part of it that got to me the most, as I stated in my first comment.


GaldraChevaliere moderator wrote

Recluse isn't a dude. Dunno why you're crying about how hard life must be for trans women when you won't make basic concessions to others' identities because they told you, very patiently, that you're wrong. We neither want nor need your misplaced, affected pity.


celebratedrecluse wrote

Sure, and I'm saying that's reductive, and basically effaces the point of the article. by reiterating the dominant narrative about sex work in this specific case-- that this sex worker is (primarily or wholly) a victim-- you have to ignore a lot of the parts of her story, which I'm sure is not really the takeaway she intended. That's the only reason I'm pushing back on what you said-- it's not that I am trying to make you feel bad, or insult you, or that I'm looking to be offended. Which, I will say, is pretty insulting, to basically invalidate my point without engaging with it. Don't you think I've engaged with your perspective a bit more than you have with mine?

Why do you think there might be this discrepancy between us, on who feels they have to make more effort to empathize with the other?

Whatever dude. I bet you're a lovely person to know in real life

I don't know, I think I'm okay. lol